Too "intimidated" by partner's sexiness to get erect?

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  1. D_Harry_Crax

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    I recently had the experience of having this beautiful young man (more than 20 years younger than me) at my apartment from out of town for four days (I had gotten to know him for months on Skype and IM and email) and for the first two days, I couldn't get really hard and didn't even feel horny.
    I didn't tell anyone about this, then today another gay friend of mine tells me out of the blue that he had the same experience over the weekend: being with a young guy so studly that my friend couldn't get hard. I can't imagine that we're not the only two guys, gay or straight, to have had this problem. True?
     
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    its just nerves man.. try to relax, she is a human,, just like the rest of em lol
    ive had the same problem kind of once too yea... i wanted to hook up with this girl for as long as i could remember, years and years, she was so hot, we were friends through friends, onenight we hungout alone and one thing led to another and we hooked up, my dick took like 20 mins to get totally hard.. i was so nervous, she was sucking it while it was a semi for most of the time, then you start worrying more and more.. "fuck its not getting hard, its only semi wtf shes gona think its small" ect ect lol.. then it makes it worse, u just gota relax and tell yourself its just another girl.. nothing different, shes just pretty, RELAX!
     
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    Me, here. It was also the 'newness' factor. I'm very shy, and have had sex exactly twice in three years; happened both times.
     
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    Errrm.

    What's with the references to "she" and "her".

    Did you read the OP's post?:cool:
     
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    LOL! shit didnt notice.. my bad! :eek:

    the she and her were CORRECT in my post though!!!!! lol
     
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    Haha, I've had this happen with my girlfriends. I wanted to get hard, but I just couldn't. I don't know, to a degree I think it's a practical joke played on males--give them a tool, and when they really want to use it make it out of order.
     
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    It happened to me with a few guys not so much younger, but so impossibly perfect physically.

    I could get hard but somehow it was...errrr... harder to get there and the experience was not nearly as entertaining as I would have expected.

    My explanation mostly works for gay guys...

    I may have wanted to BE him even more than to HAVE him.

    Now, for you straight dudes, I am not sure that line of reasoning would always work.
     
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    We call it "performance anxiety". Want so hard to be hard and impress, and usually the opposite occurs. Sure can be embarrassing. I was with a chick and another dude and she wanted two in the pussy...something I have done before, but for some reason just could not get up for the task. Talk about embarrassed....I wanted the act, but not so much the female involved. Does it make any sense.
     
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    A friend of mine calls Viagra "Insurance" - pops like 25mg just to make it happen. Hey, it works for him. Just keep a pill in your back pocket or car for times like this - they don't call it the new recreational drug for nothing!!
     
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    That's normal . It happen to me as well with very hot ladies . If you aren't relaxed it wouldn't get hard.
     
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    Had the same thing with this Girl. I thought she was real hot, I went hard when we kissed and during forplay. I really didn't know what hit me the moment she pulled down my pants. It was really awkward, I tried to explain that it wasn't because I didn't find here attractive but she didn't understand. We didn't spoke for a couple of days and during these days I almost could not get an erection (waking up without a hard one for the first time is scary, beleive me). After a few days we talked, one thing let to an other. She was on top of me still wearing our clothes when I got hard, but the same thing happened again. Because we talked about it she knew the problem, so she just kept kissing and playing. At the end everyting worked out fine -THANK GOD-
     
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    Don't want to say it, but she is a he... :smile:
     
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