if, if, IF that's true then it's perhaps a blessing that no child came into that situation. a child deserves more than to be sombody's projected expectation.
I so agree with what dolfe is saying here...
I feel really bad when reading these comments from the OP. Maybe he is not expressing EVERYTHING, maybe he is totally not what he is exhibiting in these posts.. but it seems to me there he has no concern for inner beauty at all...
I don't see any reflection of inner qualities or desired compatibility in this guy. I don't mean to be ugly, but it is what it is... read the posts again.... seems kinda hollow and shallow... (the way I feel when I read this... and the other referenced link) I must read some of your blogs to find (hopefully) a balance.
Some people are not meant to be parents...
It takes more than an egg and a sperm...
nannies get paid for a reason.
cleaners get paid for a reason.
cooks get paid for a reason.
cooking and cleaning for one might be a doddle, but doing it while stimulating and educating a small child is not.
believing the best start for a child is with a parent rather than a paid child minder is a personal value.
some would argue that having kids just to pay some virtual stranger to raise them for you during their most vulnerable and impressionable years is complacency.
and ^This! I have always been a career, professional minded person, but when my daughter was one year old, we did the math, and felt that we would be better off with me staying home and raising her with our values and morals. I stayed home until she was in the 4th grade. Talk about work? I never worked harder than those years... but the rewards were different. Not monetary, but a change in my heart and a feeling of accomplishment. When you talk about splitting everything 50/50, this would be one of the best investments one could make (IF both parties agree)..Afterwards, I went back to work and was more successful after than before. It can be done. And I'd challenge anyone who thinks all a stay home mom does is lie on the sofa watching soaps and eating chips all day long ..... (that is an urban myth) IMO....