After years of being a social hermit and being too shy I'm finally going out and meeting girls. I've hung out with a couple already but both have told me that I'm the most mellow and laidback person they've met. That's weird to me because I don't see it. I'm not bouncing off the walls but I'm also not providing one word answers to their questions. I get them to laugh a lot and keep the conversation going so I'm having trouble seeing where I'm being seen as mellow. Is it maybe just because I'm so used to myself that I can't be objective about my personality and they see something that I can't? Even a few former co-workers told me that I was the calmest person they've met. Should I try to change this? Do girls like a guy who's calm?