Too Much Masturbatin' ??

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  1. bayareaBloke

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    I watch porn every day. and jack off maybe 2 or 3 times per day... and i think my dick is so conditioned to being jacked off. For a while now i've noticed i can't cum unless i'm jacking myself off... but recently it seems like my dick doesn't even Enjoy actual sex. it's almost like i dont get the same sensations during sex because my dick is so conditioned to my hand and the pressure or what not.
    anyhow i'm wondering if other guys have gone through this.
    i'm thinkin of doing a few weeks with no porn and no jacking at all and see if that makes a difference. any guys try this? what were the results?
     
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    you need to desensitize/decondition yourself. if you can't break yourself of this, yul probably need therapy. your partner needs to be a part of your effort to get yourself to enjoy partner sex more than hand jobs.
     
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    yeah I agree try not to maturbate and try to let your mate turn you on instead
     
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    i think i've had this happen or thought so...but then wouldn't a blow job not work also?:confused:
     
  5. bayareaBloke

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    Nah.
    it seems alot of times when i get blown i need more pressure.
    i mean getting blown... and even having sex feels good, but not for very long.
     
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    well sure it ALL FEELS good.....but....certaily more pressure or friction from a hand job then either of the other 2 options ie: straight sex or a bj....hmm....more to think on this topic now .........
     
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    I should give you an ex-friend's number....you guys could get together. He was such a computer jacker that when we had sex it was all ok till he wanted to cum.....then he took matters into his own hands.....boring.
     
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    Yep,sounds like you're over-masturbating. At the rate you're doing it,you're exhausting your sexual libido and not giving it a chance to recharge.I'm sure you likely aren't up for much sex with an actual man/woman,right?That's why.Another thing,as has been stated,you're used to the stimulus you provide yourself,and so mentally that's what makes you cum.So when you have an encounter with an actual live person,the feeling is different and you'll have difficulty cumming,which will eventually fuck with your psyche and could lead to things like erectile dysfunction.

    The only cure for over-masturbation is ,logically,stop masturbating for a while.Maybe 2 weeks at least,and NO porn.NONE.You've got to program your mind to respond to a live body and not an erotic image on a screen.I went through the same thing some time ago,was in a distance relationship for a long time and got more used to pleasuring myself via porn than from my then GF,which led to issues like retarded ejaculation,reduced sexual energy(I was depleting it fast by masturbating every day),and a few bouts of ED.The first thing though is NO PORN.It will be hard to stop cold turkey,but you've got to try.
     
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    Thanks man. that's sound advice.
    It would normally be really hard to just Stop watching porn. but luckily i'm painting and doing some sh*t to my room the next couple of weeks and i'll be without a computer and no real private space to watch dvds. so this just might be the time to do it.

    thnks for all the responses by the way
     
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    Yeah dude you need a break, but good luck going without for a few weeks!
     
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    Keep at it man.I know it ain't easy,in fact when I tried to do my sabbatical from porn and masturbating,the first few times I only lasted maybe 3 days tops before the urge to see some overwhelmed me.But,once I literally put my foot down,and went over a week without jerking off, I started craving the desire for actual sex more than waking up every morning and wanting to jerk to porn.It's 100% mental.

    That's ultimately what your aim is,you want to look forward to sex more than to pleasuring yourself.You may also notice your sleeping improves(if you're having any sleeping issues).Overmasturbating messes with your sleep too,which messes with your energy levels,which messes with your sexual desires.Also,if you're involved with anyone right now,try to go as long as you can just having sexual encounters with them and not masturbating.This will train your mind to respond to human touch,and it will 'forget' how to respond only to yours.
     
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    im in the same situation man, but going without touching myself or without porn is hard unless im off on holiday or something. i always try to stop, delete all my porn but then thatndrives me even more crazy!

    i will start from tomorrow myself. will try without for 5 days
     
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    Personally, I'm all for masturbating and having any type of sex as often as you feel the urge. Sex is all good.

    My recommendation -- mix up your solo experiences. Don't always do the same thing. Switch hands. Use lube or not. Finger your hole. Hump the bed. Let the shower spray get you off.

    I've found this to be more effective than just going without -- and so much more fun. Also, you'll learn more about your body and your sexual response.

    As for porn, you can overdo that, I think. The visuals we get from watching porn are so different from the visuals we get when we are with someone else. Dated a guy for a bit that could only get off when he was watching porn. He liked to get fucked doggy style while facing the television. Couldn't cum otherwise. For me, that was fun for about the first time. Okay, maybe the second too.

    Try spending a few hours in bed edging yourself to some good old fashioned fantasies.
     
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    Bucky,what you recommend is still about self-pleasuring.I get the impression the original poster is not looking for creative ways to pleasure himself,but how to cure the addiction to masturbation.It's ok to masturbate every so often,but when you do it to the point that a) you have problems cumming during regular sex and b) prefer masturbating to sex with a live,hotblooded body,that's a problem.Masturbating is fine if you're getting sex regularly,but once it becomes a substitute for sex,it leads to the kinds of issues expressed in this thread.
     
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    Proud -- I understand that masturbation can be a problem. I've known people that are addicted to jacking. When you'd rather stay home and masturbate than go out be social or generally prefer masturbation to other sorts of sexual activities, that can be a problem. (There may be times when jacking is the preferred activity, and I think that's okay, but not for the long-term).

    My advice about different ways of self-pleasure were meant to address the problem of not being able to cum with a partner. This is not uncommon for men that have one masturbation technique. Essentially, they train their bodies to only respond to one set of sexual stimulation. Changing up your masturbation technique can solve that problem.

    Let me add that I'm a big fan of masturbation. I think it's great. I've got a very high sex drive. Started wanking at an early age -- two years before I could actually cum. I still masturbate daily at least once. Partnered or not. Alone or with someone. I need and enjoy the release.
     
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    Ahh gotcha.Yeah I think I had this issue too,I would go for long periods of time and while it sort of made me feel like a sexual dynamo,when it was time to cum I couldn't(which gave my then gf the impression that she wasn't satisfying me or had a 'numb' pussy).Which wasn't true,she felt great but I had times when I just wouldn't come,and literally had to just stop.
     
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    Proud7.

    That's cool. As much as I enjoy shooting off -- who doesn't -- it isn't the be-all-end-all for sex.

    Edging, alone or with someone is great. Some of my most memorable sexual experiences have been hours of play where I always didn't cum. (Probably needs to be a topic for a thread.)

    Watch out when I wake up in the middle of the night with a flood of semen, however.

    I can be very sexual without ejaculation. Can kiss for hours. Touch. Taste. Feel.

    It's all fun.

    I think that we need to understand that sex is the journey of the physical and sexual and emotional enjoyment, not just that brief moment of orgasmic bliss.

    When I first became sexual around age 11 and discovered that my dick was really fun, it was all about how fast I could reach that moment of bliss. Hell, at that age and for years after, reaching orgasm didn't take long and the reload time was very short. But I soon learned the pleasure of extended play with myself. And then with others.

    So let's all learn to enjoy getting there are much as we enjoy getting off.
     
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    ok well im through day 1 of no masturbation, will try for as long as i can then restart to beat that record once i give in!


    will try the other methods of different stimulation but i just need to restock my body
     
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