If I don't lose my virginity before I turn 19, I might panic althought I'm not making an effort to change the fact that I am a virgin really Don't be silly. Losing it sometime in college is a reasonable norm for which to shoot.
Im 5' 7"... 5'8" on a tall day, lol nothing wrong with that. My last great lover was 5'9" 185 lbs., with a 7x5 inch cock. He was 39 had noticeably thinning hair and a bit of a belly. Many women may have over looked him in crowd. He is smart, funny, handsome, has great sparkling green eyes. Granted he was divorced when I met him, but he was also a bit gun shy. My point is I really don't think his physical appearnce is the problem.
I think what njqt said about you simply being afraid of sex is a load of crap and offensive. Don't hold back...tell me how you really feel. :tongue: FWIW I based that post on statements made by various young people on this site who have told me just that in recent months.
During one 72 hour period last winter I had 4 young men between the ages of 23 and 30 approach me in chat hoping we could hookup so I could rid them of their pesky virginity.
Perhaps my shock is generational. I am afterall 41 and came of age on the tail end of the sexually free and promiscuous 1970's. My mindset and attitude are just different from you kids today. As a frame of reference, the first man I had sex with drove a Trans Am with an 8track player in it. Cell phones were not invented yet, AIDS was commonly called gay cancer , or was thought to be spread only by Haitians and heroin addicts, and the cool kids had Atari in their dorm rooms.
Speaking as someone who once had a very difficult time finding sex I still have a hard time finding sex.:redface: I always HATED it when I heard from someone else who didn't have this problem and seemingly couldn't possibly understand where I was coming from say that I just wasn't trying, as they assumed that everyone should have as easy a time as they did getting laid. I hear you. I don't have that easy a time getting laid since I raised my standards and stopped settling for the big, pretty, dumb jocks. It doesn't come that easy to some people. On the other hand, I think you are shooting yourself in the foot judging by a lot of the things you are saying here. It sounds like you have a very defeatist attitude. Yes, he does. Like many other men on this site, his attitude not his appearance or height are what are hindering him in this endeavor.
I'm using heterosexual terminology because that's where my experience lies. But I think most of what I said above can apply to same-sex relationships as well.
I don't think that's fair njqt466, what if you just haven't met anyone that's right for you?
Thank you Hotmilf.
I do actually work with a charity, with disabled kids and have helped and given much to those who only have a short run at this life, more support and fun then i ever had at their age anyways, lol.
Im not a fan of clubs. Ive only been to str8 clubs and its always full of pissed up chav wankers wanting to have a pop. It's not an enviroment im comfortable in at all.
As for gay bars... im not actullay 'out' to anyone yet and there a big step and frightening places, usually full of twinks and disco bunny queens.
No for this pup me thinks... but never say never.
Part of my point ScaredLittleBoy, as a bloke growing up i would have dearly loved to have had that attitude, but i just didnt, I tried and found it hard to relate to.
Compounded i think in retrospect, but the fact i have always been very thin on the ground when it comes to male friends.
I wouldnt call myself overly religious or idealistic about sex, i just hesistated about it, but i guess ive hesitated so long i think i would actually be quite afraid of female attention and intemacy.
I cant deny it, i honestly hope i dont die a virgin.
That would be really sad in the classical sense of the word to me.
Physical stature and confidence do go hand in hand, like any fact there are exception to the rule. But as for short and shy, that would be a yes, lol.
I don't go to bars or clubs either. I don't drink and don't want to be in that atmosphere. I don't want to get involved in the fights. I've never been drunk in my life, or gone to a bar to drink. I have been in a couple of bars years ago to work on the kitchen equipment. Being around drunks then made me uncomfortable. I was glad to get done and leave. Since I'm not gay I wouldn't go to a gay bar anyway. Please don't take offense, I'm not homophobic. I'm just not interested in that myself.
This describes me also. I have always feared STD's, and unwanted pregnancy. I never had any real male or female friends. Mostly just aquaintances, and it's no different now.
Yep, this worrys me too. I always wanted to really care about the woman I have sex with. Maybe that's being to idealistic.
I don't know about that. I'm 6', 230lbs, and heavily built. I'm very shy and unconfident. I only have confidence to work on machinery. I have none when it comes to social situations. I would like to work out and get back in the shape I was some years back. I don't think my bad back is going to let me. My doctors have already warned me about lifting or doing anything that puts undue pressure on my lower back.
I will tell you something: whatever we don't have, we think brings confidence. If we are short, we think height brings it. If small, being big brings it. If modestly endowed, we think being hung brings it. No, it really doesn't work that way. Sure, I'd like to be better looking, better endowed,
have a better physique, etc. Most guys would. That would not bring the promise of confidence, however. Confidence is a state of mind. I don't know how to gain it. When and if I figure it out, I'll let you know.