Too Stalkerish?

[B_ScaredLittleBoy]

Basically, I used to see this girl at the bus stop. We would just check each other out and smile. Then I started to come into work on time and stopped seeing her. Recently I finished work early (finished at 5; normally finish at 5:30. She was at the bus stop with my friend.

The point is, this girl is very pretty and I would like to take her out somewhere or at least get to know her better. Now, one option is to go to work late or finish early in order to 'bump into her'. That is not really an option though because my work hours are very strict and I have no leniency. Well, sometimes I can get the odd day off and work from home but that's not the same as finishing early.

The second option is...I have found my friend on facebook. She is his friend on Facebook. Only her profile is set to private. I could add her but would that not be weird and perhaps...scary for her? (lol).

I don't normally add people on facebook; they add me. Am I just fretting about nothing?

 

[sam_solo26]

You're fretting about nothing. Facebook is a social networking site, and this would fall within the parameters of networking, so go for it. You can leave a personal message when you add her, so just be honest. Say you've seen her around, and that you'd like to get to know her better. If you can, try and say something witty about you two playing tag on the bus route or something. First impressions are key. Most important of all, have fun with it dude.

 

[ohhhey]

Randomly adding someone you saw at the bus stop could seem pretty weird. Why not just ask your friend to introduce you?

 

[flame boy]

I think as long as your friend knows her then you'll be fine. You can use him as common ground and just say you think you recognise her from the bus stop. Go for it, you got nothin' to lose!

 

[B_Jennuine73]

I agree with flamey. You have nothing to lose SLB, add her to facebook.

 

[jeff black]

Whereas I agree with Ohhey. I think trying to get the friend introduce you is the better way to go. Adding a random person you met on facebook is totally creepy dude. Honest.

Meetin in RL is better and LESS stalker.

 

[solinvictus]

dont immediately add her, but message her first (and say something like you saw you had a mutual friend and recognized her from the bus stop or something like that). once you get a repartee going, then add her. otherwise you come off as a creep

or have your friend introduce you at a mutually enjoyed event. which would probably work out best

 

[B_Think_Kink]

Send her a message asking if she is the same person and laugh about it, saying you would love to chat with her more.

 

[premium]

dont immediately add her, but message her first (and say something like you saw you had a mutual friend and recognized her from the bus stop or something like that). once you get a repartee going, then add her. otherwise you come off as a creep

or have your friend introduce you at a mutually enjoyed event. which would probably work out best

+1

 

[B_ScaredLittleBoy]

Okay well the thing is my friend is an old friend and we don't see each other often. I have seen him twice at the bus stop in about the past 5 or 6 months (he's a bit younger than me and hangs out with a different group).

I would like to see the girl again IRL/on the bus but I'm either too early or too late and miss her...or maybe she's changed bus stops lol.

Anyway I'll think about messaging her when I get home. I suppose the worst that could happen is she doesn't message me back. And on the positive side maybe I'll have a girl/friend

 

[Xcuze]

Dude, you have quite a bit to work with. Youve seen each other in person, exchanged smiles. You kind of have a mutual friend. Plus you have ways to contact her through an internet site. Make good use of all this & for fucks sake just take the risk! You really have nothing to lose.

 

[B_JasonDawgxxx]

I have a stalker on here. Anyone want him for their own? lol