Too thick (Gay)

Discussion in 'Sex With a Large Penis' started by Hakubuza, Jun 16, 2010.

  1. Hakubuza

    Hakubuza New Member

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    So I'm aware that there may be another thread somewhere about this, but after searching through the options that the forum listed as thick issues I figured it safe to ask.

    For the majority of the time, I am the bottom when in relationships. I love bottoming, there's nothing like it. The problem is this: I'm in a relationship with a man who is a versatile top and on rare occasion he wants me to do him, which I happily agree to. When I attempt to insert myself all the way (or even half way most of the time), he complains that I'm hurting him. This happens whether he is on his back or stomach. When he is on his side we have less of an issue. I can go in at least 3/4 of the way before he tells me to stop. We're both thinking that it's because I am 8 inches long and 6.5 in girth and when he's on his side he's more relaxed. We both hate doing it on his side, and he feels bad about me not being able to put it all the way in, but it's the only way that we've found to do it so far.

    Two questions:
    1) Do you think it really has to do with my size, or is it more about his ability to relax?
    2) If it is my size that's the issue, is there any other ways that we could do it to alleviate this problem?

    Thanks a lot guys!
     
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    I think its a matter of arousal, and progression. You may want to try loosening him up with progressively larger dildos (in an erotic manner, of course)...and then trying you. I suspect if he is sufficiently aroused (and loosened up), it will be a very pleasurable experience for both of you !
     
  3. midlifebear

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    What DexterMorgan said. Plus, have you tried entering with him on his hands and knees, doggy style, especially after spending a long time lathering him up with a sloppy tongue massage followed by copious applications of silicone lube gently fingered up his ass and poured over your dick?
     
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    I'm in a similar situation. I'm not quite as long but just as thick as the OP. 7.5 x 6.5. both my BF and I are vers. and when the mood strikes him to bottom. we've got to be sure he's good and ready and well lubed.

    I know what a pain in the ass having a dick this thick can be especially if you rush it. In my younger days I've had partners that literally couldn't sit for a week (ok just 1) because we rushed into things
     
  5. midlifebear

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    This "girth" issue isn't so rare as one might think. I've watched the "bonus" footage on any number of Titan Men CDs and there's usually one shot where the chunk of hunky muscle meat yells for the guy lined up to fuck him to "STOP!" Then they include two or three minutes of a fluffer working one, then two, and finally three fingers up the actor's ass to help him get ready for a second or third attempt having a top with a nice thick cock slowly work it into the bottom's ass. Sometimes even famous "bottom" porn actors aren't ready to receive. So, don't worry. It's something that, for me, has always taken patience and a good dose of affection to open up and have a guy let me fuck him senseless.

    And "no" always means "no."
     
  6. nortan

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    I agree with a lot of what "midlifebear" posted... I'm a "taught" bottom... I was a top most of my life then fell in love with another top, and had to learn to bottom... for an 10x7 cock. Relaxing, accepting, and allowing yourself to stretch can take some time... and sometimes, it just doesn't happen, especially if there are trust or performance issues. It's impossible to relax if you're thinking "Will he stop if I need him to?" or "Will he lose his hard on if I tell him to wait?" or "Will he get mad if we need to stop?" Make sure those assurances are in place, he's gotta have that trust.

    Perhaps work with a slightly smaller toy for a while? Sort of work up to it. Also, the inflatable butt plugs were a big help to me. Somehow, increasing the size with it in made it easier to accomodate. Also, for me, (and I don't advocate drunk "driving") a good shot or two of liquor went a long way to helping me relax...

    I know an 8x6.5 would be a purrrrfect fit for me, now. We split up a long time ago, but you don't forget what you learned ;)
     
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    i have been with my partner for 20 plus years. he is 8 x 8.5. . .shaped like a sweet potato. in fact, thats what i call him to get him pissed off. ha.
    the first year, we had problems with his girth, but after that, it has been smooth sailing. i can take him without lube now. . . but my hole is sort of 'wrecked' for average guys. i have been compared to 'throwing a hotdog down a hallway' more than once. ha.
    all in all, i wouldnt trade it for the world.
     

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    I am in a very similar situation. My regular fb, is kind of discovering his ass finally and while he loves it when I rim him and eat him out, he's never bottomed. We've played a bit with fingers and even that hurt the hell out of him (and I can understand because when I'm not getting regularly fucked my ass is annoyingly tight too and hurts like hell at first). We still haven't done anything other than that, and I keep trying to talk him into progressing with some toys first, but he still wants me to top him, and I actually want to top him too. But GOD I get so nervous about hurting him! It'd be different if I didn't care about him, but when you know something you're about to do will hurt someone you care about it's hard to not have a lot of anxiety over it.

    In my own experience some guys are just naturally very tight and sensitive to pain. For us, we have to practice either by playing with our holes in advance or by having regular sex (the joys of a real bf). But I agree as above that if you are truly turned on and the mood is just right that your guy can slide his cock in with no effort at all and it doesn't feel anything but amazing. There is definitely some mental aspect that comes into play, but I don't know how to turn that on or whatever.
     
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    I have found that it's best for me to start on top (riding it, sitting on it, whatever) if it's been a while so that I feel like I have more control. If you're afraid that the guy is going to ram it in before you're ready, it's difficult to relax.
     
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    that is crazy. props to you for taking that
     
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    Sweet Jesus....that cock is fantastic. What I wouldn't give to get a hold of it.
    :rolleyes:
     
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    I've taken a guy up my ass the girth of a soda can. I had to ride on top and really work at it. Once it was in I felt so full that it was indescribable. Yes it hurt, but once it was in, it felt so good I didn't want to let it out. Guys that are long or very thick I've found that if I ride it and can control the intake, it doesn't hurt as bad. Also, does your cock have any curves that may cause a problem with you going in deep?
     
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    Goodness me, I've never seen a cock that shape before. Especially that first pic!:eek:
     
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    That is a crazy pic! Sweet potato describes him perfectly that's for sure
     
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    That is the nicest shaped cock I have ever seen. just beautiful. I just want to ride that slowly for a long long time. Then, do it again.
     
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    very small bell end though!
     
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    I had the same issue when I first started out. Now I have a "ritual" that works for me. Start out in the sitting position (I think its called cowgirl/cowboy), take big deep breaths, and when it hurts stop. hang around for a couple seconds and then pull out. And repeat until comfortable.
     
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    This is basically what I do too. My husband has what I call (jokingly) the double-wide. It's thick like two cocks side-by-side. So when I do bottom it goes in slowly, in stages, with repeated applications of lube.
     
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