I wasn't sure what to label this post, but it's going to be a slight bit of a rant. I am in love, and with that in mind, I am willing to do and try any and everything with my boyfriend. I really wanted to see how it would feel with him inside of me, and I bottomed for him. To be honest, I enjoyed it FAR more than I thought I would, but the thought that kept running through my mind was, "for someone who claims to be bi, I am liking this way too much." Why did I think that? I thought about it, and I think it's because there's such a HUGE stereotype on guys who bottom. If you bottom, you're obviously a flaming gay man and you're super fem. At least that's the impression I've gotten about bottoms from porn, and even from dominant tops on this site. What bothers me is that I thought this, and that I even entertained the notion at all. I think on this site, most everyone considers themselves pretty open minded. I want to present this to you all, the tops, the bottoms, the versitile, and the guys who swear by hand jobs or blowjobs only. Sex is something that is meant to be a glorious union between two people, whether you look at that religiously or not, I'm not presenting it in a religious way. Sex is something that the two partners involved should enjoy, desire, be fulfilled by, and look to satisfy their partner however they want to be satisfied. All that to say, if you enjoy something, that doesn't say anything about you as a person, or your masculenity. If you enjoy handjobs only, and hate everything else, does that make you someone who doesn't enjoy sex? Absolutely not. It just means that you're satisfied in a specific way, and that's your preference. If you only like top-ing, does that mean you're super ultra masculine? Not necessarily, you could be that annoying flamboyant guy on the home design channel and be a top, just like you can be the hunky football player and be a bottom only. Anyways, I just want to present this all to you, because it's stuff I've been thinking about, and it bothers me that I even had the thought, because it doesn't say anything about my masculenity or sexuality, even though many have told me that it does. To give the best example, when I spoke with someone from this site about bottoming, he said, "Are you sure you're bi?" I just was confused by the entire question, and how it was presented. The last I heard, there are a lot of "straight" guys who like getting fingered by their wives during sex, does that speak about their sexuality? I don't think so. Some people are turned on by having their nipples rubbed, some people get off to feet, who knows what it is, it's your pleasure. I guess overall I just don't understand why men's sexuality has to be defined by what goes in or doesn't go in our asses. Thoughts?