Some of the things I've said here, i've never even said out loud to anyone, but here goes.
Most of us around here do not fall for stereotypes.
But, in life i encounter it often
I enjoy being a top
And yet, i often get cast in the role of the top, due
to my size.
i cant count the number of times
i have heard "WOW,i need
you to fuck me with this"...or "you want to be on the bottom?
with this?what a waste."
a WASTE???? That is really difficult for me.
I have had guys
be disappointed that i am not a "total top",
and
some get turned off
that mine is bigger.
That might not sound nice, but that has been my experience, countless times.
there are many stereotypes about
bottoms, and one of them
is that guys who want to bottom are effeminate (i am not),
or passive in bed (I am DEFINATELY NOT)
or always have smaller dicks (i dont),
or just want huge ones(i dont crave any particular size).And I get so
i dont usually call myself a bottom
because theother person often can
conjur up a picture in
their mind that isnt me.
Or, then they want me to be a TOTAL BOTTOM,
when i still like to top.
I'm sure there are tops out there who also deal with certain expectations and stereotypes as well.
any thoughts from our gay posters out there?
(sorry this was so long)
Most of us around here do not fall for stereotypes.
But, in life i encounter it often
I enjoy being a top
And yet, i often get cast in the role of the top, due
to my size.
i cant count the number of times
i have heard "WOW,i need
you to fuck me with this"...or "you want to be on the bottom?
with this?what a waste."
a WASTE???? That is really difficult for me.
I have had guys
be disappointed that i am not a "total top",
and
some get turned off
that mine is bigger.
That might not sound nice, but that has been my experience, countless times.
there are many stereotypes about
bottoms, and one of them
is that guys who want to bottom are effeminate (i am not),
or passive in bed (I am DEFINATELY NOT)
or always have smaller dicks (i dont),
or just want huge ones(i dont crave any particular size).And I get so
i dont usually call myself a bottom
because theother person often can
conjur up a picture in
their mind that isnt me.
Or, then they want me to be a TOTAL BOTTOM,
when i still like to top.
I'm sure there are tops out there who also deal with certain expectations and stereotypes as well.
any thoughts from our gay posters out there?
(sorry this was so long)