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Sure. Not uncommon for people to be unable to cum for many reasons.

But I don't think I've heard of medications that impair your ability to cum without impairing your ability to get or maintain an erection. So it's possible that your ass just wasn't doing it for him. Why?

Well, lots of people pound their penis like they're grinding wheat when masturbating. This means that when your ass doesn't squeeze them like a vise or provide high levels of friction, it's not giving them the sensory feedback their dick is used to and it doesn't get what it needs

Sex advice columnist calls this "death grip syndrome" and it's extremely common. The top should probably teach himself to ease up, or he'll be leaving other bottoms wanting. The cure is simple: stop masturbating with death grip. Eventually the nerves will regain sensitivity and an ass or a mouth will again be enough to get the job done.

Some reading: 'Death Grip Syndrome': Internet Myth or Penis Ruiner?
 
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Sure. Not uncommon for people to be unable to cum for many reasons.

But I don't think I've heard of medications that impair your ability to cum without impairing your ability to get or maintain an erection. So it's possible that your ass just wasn't doing it for him. Why?

Well, lots of people pound their penis like they're grinding wheat when masturbating. This means that when your ass doesn't squeeze them like a vise or provide high levels of friction, it's not giving them the sensory feedback their dick is used to and it doesn't get what it needs

Sex advice columnist calls this "death grip syndrome" and it's extremely common. The top should probably teach himself to ease up, or he'll be leaving other bottoms wanting. The cure is simple: stop masturbating with death grip. Eventually the nerves will regain sensitivity and an ass or a mouth will again be enough to get the job done.

Some reading: 'Death Grip Syndrome': Internet Myth or Penis Ruiner?
Citalopram can make you not be able to cum but still get hard. Look it up, it’s a common side effect. I have taken it for depression in the past and it was the only noticeable side effect I got from it. I could jerk off for hours without cumming.
Just because you haven’t heard about it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist!
 

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I have lots of experience in the area as it takes a lot for me to bust; most of the time I only cum through masturbation or oral very rarely from fucking. I am guilty of jerking off a lot which desensitizes my dick. If I take a 2 weeks off and fuck I can usually cum from fucking 9 times out of 10. For me it’s not from medication just masturbation but just because I didn’t cum doesn’t mean I didn’t enjoy it. I REALLY like to fuck the cum out of guys and give them a fuck to remember. Usually get to bust with them on second time which makes them want even more so ;)
 
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Citalopram can make you not be able to cum but still get hard. Look it up, it’s a common side effect. I have taken it for depression in the past and it was the only noticeable side effect I got from it. I could jerk off for hours without cumming.
Just because you haven’t heard about it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist!

Apologies, I didn't mean to suggest that it didn't exist. But as a side effect of SSRIs, impotence and diminished libido are far more common than anorgasmia, at least as documented in a quick review of the literature. But it's common enough to be noted. So I stand corrected.
 
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I have a fuck buddy that sometimes cannot cum when he fucks me. I think part of the problem for him is he always comes over after work, do he is exhausted. But he also produces a LOT of precum. It will get too wet and it makes it harder for him to cum. We will go at it for an hour to two hours. He will get so close many times but cannot climax.
 

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I've done this before, it was a self inflicted problem.
I would work my PC muscle/kegels for hours at a time every day and 99% of the time doing it subconsciously.
Whether I was driving which I did every day for my sales job in the car all day, Walking, just sitting down, standing, cooking you name it I did it constantly! I would catch myself and stop but then I would resume a little later not even thinking about it.
When jacking I would go for 40 minutes easily when I felt like coming I would just tighten my PC muscle. Similar to edging but I would not stop or slow down when the urge came out would continue with full strokes and delay getting off.
I was between girlfriends and when I finally did get one I would fuck her and I could go forever in sometimes not even cum but remain rockhard. I would leave her satisfied but at the same time disappointed and her thinking it was her problem for not making me cum.
I would cum sometimes, but most times it would be me just laying back until i lost my erection.
I finally went to the doctor thinking it was a medical issue and after about a month we both figured out that it was because of all the PC muscle exercises that I had done and continue doing subconsciously.
It still took another 6 months for me to control and not do the exercises as much and only on a limited basis then I could finally finish up the deed in a good 40 minutes as to opposed to 1-1/2 hours or never finishing.
But most importantly it wouldn't leave her sore or myself and only wanting to have sex a couple times a week, we were able to get it down to a daily routine.
I had read an article about delaying ejaculation by working the PC muscle but I took it one step further and went crazy with the exercises, i took it to an obsession which was beneficial but at the same time created a problem.
I still do the pc every day but I can catch myself and stop and not do it. Mine wasn't because of any medicine I just thought I would share my experience.
 

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Citalopram can make you not be able to cum but still get hard. Look it up, it’s a common side effect. I have taken it for depression in the past and it was the only noticeable side effect I got from it. I could jerk off for hours without cumming.
Just because you haven’t heard about it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist!

Yup. About 20 years ago, I was on Paxil (quite unnecessarily as it turns out, thanks to an ex of mine), and I had no issues getting aroused. I just couldn't finish. It did give me a general apathy because I didn't need it, but yeah, like you, I could spend hours trying to get off. The day I laid in bed for three hours trying to cum was the day I stopped taking Paxil. Especially since my ex had already become my ex by that point.
 

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Many factors can hinder a guy ability to cum. Medications are indeed in the category. So many guys think if a person is not able to cum, then the sex was no good, or it was because of them and not him. Guys just need to enjoy the moment, having an orgasum should not be your goal. Enjoying each other should be most important thing when having sex.
 
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