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Hehe yes I've heard men say it's waste that I'm a bottom.. but worse if you're a top with a small dick? No! Being fucked by a small dick can be great too and many prefer that since they can't take a big one in the ass (and it does take a lot of practice...).
Personally I'd say I'm versatile but I tend to like it being one way with one guy, that is, with some men (most, and esp. older) I'm a bottom and with some I'm a top.
I would say I'm versatile.
I think its really true though that based on our personality, or mentality in general, that is how we come to the preference of being a top or bottom.
However...as soon as a couple see how big each of them are, I think the smaller one realizes they will be the bottom, and the bigger guy takes control.
Personally, I get really turned on by the bigger guys bottoming. Just the thought that this huge guy wants to be sucked and fucked, maybe more than he wants to take control is a turn on. This huge guy basically becomes my toy... that turns me on just thinking about it.
I dont think there are many relationships though where things are not changed around. I think there is always a usual, but I think people change it up, which is good. You dont want to be the top 100% of the time, you want to give your partner a chance.
I think its really true though that based on our personality, or mentality in general, that is how we come to the preference of being a top or bottom.
However...as soon as a couple see how big each of them are, I think the smaller one realizes they will be the bottom, and the bigger guy takes control.
Personally, I get really turned on by the bigger guys bottoming. Just the thought that this huge guy wants to be sucked and fucked, maybe more than he wants to take control is a turn on. This huge guy basically becomes my toy... that turns me on just thinking about it.
I dont think there are many relationships though where things are not changed around. I think there is always a usual, but I think people change it up, which is good. You dont want to be the top 100% of the time, you want to give your partner a chance.
Wow.
Look at all the tops here...
Where are you when i need you???????????
I believe the postings/voting in this thread..but...
i have got to admit that in "real life"...
i have always found it very hard to find a top guy...
sometimes impossible.
Almost every guy i have ever dated, slept with,
happened to meet....
wants to bottom for me.
Even if they say they top, it always comes down
to 'FUCK ME" during the heat of passion....
Is it just me???
Look at all the tops here...
Where are you when i need you???????????
I believe the postings/voting in this thread..but...
i have got to admit that in "real life"...
i have always found it very hard to find a top guy...
sometimes impossible.
Almost every guy i have ever dated, slept with,
happened to meet....
wants to bottom for me.
Even if they say they top, it always comes down
to 'FUCK ME" during the heat of passion....
Is it just me???
I completely agree with you woskxn. While the larger guy generally is the top, it is VERY hot to see the hung guy do the sucking and take it up the ass.
I know a few guys who are larger than me who just want to get fucked. In Minnesota, the Land of 10,000 Bottoms, I suppose it's not so unusual. Either way, I've found no correlation between a guy's dick size and his top/bottom preference unless we're talking porn casting.
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I only had one one-night-stand (before I came out) and I topped. My b/f and I are really versatile, but he won't admit that he bottoms more that me....but I have never f'd him deep (my balls slapping his ass) because he can't take me (makes my ego grow).
I get off on doing a big dick bottom because I want to see him cum when I am f'n him. I hate to see a guy go limp because I feel he's getting hurt or he's not into it. I really don't believe guys that say they don't bottom (it's always the small guys) but the saying goes the bigger theu are the quicker they bottom.
There was some porn guy that was an exclusive contract top, but said enough and bottomed becacuse he said it takes a real man to bottom correctly.
I have never been in a three way f session, but I would love to be the bottom and the suckee....just my fantasy
I get off on doing a big dick bottom because I want to see him cum when I am f'n him. I hate to see a guy go limp because I feel he's getting hurt or he's not into it. I really don't believe guys that say they don't bottom (it's always the small guys) but the saying goes the bigger theu are the quicker they bottom.
There was some porn guy that was an exclusive contract top, but said enough and bottomed becacuse he said it takes a real man to bottom correctly.
I have never been in a three way f session, but I would love to be the bottom and the suckee....just my fantasy
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pity the option "versatile" is missing from the poll. i'm pretty much 50/50 but used to be a total bottom. some guys had asked me to fuck them and it just never did anything for me. i was in one relationship for two years, started off bottoming all the time and we eventually switched around. at the end of the relaitonship i was topping the whole time so i developped my taste for that. now, i'll do both, depending on who i wind up with, what i feel like and what the other guy feels like but i definately love trading places. i love getting fucked by a really well hung guy but I also do share that excitement of fucking the guy with the bigger cock. and besides, you have something decent to hold on to while fucking you can maybe even suck him off at the same time.
you can maybe even suck him off at the same time.Well, there are guys that don't bottom. Hi, nice to meet you.
And as far as the comments about bottoms with big dicks, "... it's such a waste," I think you can compare that to women's comments about gay men, "... it's such a waste."
To me this does not come across as any sort of compliment. People are who they are, regardless of what we want them to be. Comments like these can make people feel bad not for who they are, but what they aren't in the eyes of others. Nice.
And as far as the comments about bottoms with big dicks, "... it's such a waste," I think you can compare that to women's comments about gay men, "... it's such a waste."
To me this does not come across as any sort of compliment. People are who they are, regardless of what we want them to be. Comments like these can make people feel bad not for who they are, but what they aren't in the eyes of others. Nice.
Ponybilt, I disagree with you. I am gay and when a woman says, "what a waste," it is only meant as a compliment. She is saying that the gay man is attractive and someone she would be interested in if he was straight. She's disappointed for herself, not condemning who you are.
I can see how one might take it as a negative. That is, you are looked upon as not worthy and not valuable -- the "choices" you have made are not the correct choices.
However, why look at the world so negatively? Assume that the comment was meant as a compliment and simply say, "Thank you!"
GoodGuy, I can see how it came across that way. It wasn't intended to be negative.
On the surface, I understand it may be intended it as a compliment but it belies that they're interested "only if... " I were different; the implication is that all else is a waste because I'm not straight/bottom/etc.
On the surface, I understand it may be intended it as a compliment but it belies that they're interested "only if... " I were different; the implication is that all else is a waste because I'm not straight/bottom/etc.
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I generally prefer to bottom. And, like most of the guys on here I prefer the top to be well hung. I like to top sometimes as well- it all depends on the mood, or who I'm with. If I am significantly bigger than my partner I usually top. I benefit from that phenomenon that some tops love to fuck a hung bottom, 8x6 cut here. Like most things, it really depends on the chemistry. I'm also proud to be a power bottom. While vers, I love giving tops pleasure.
I definitely go both ways, depending upon mood, the guy, or whatever.
With some guys, I'm a top. With others, a bottom. Very, very few seem to share my willingness to go both ways. Almost every guy I've ever been with is either "top" or "bottom" and never anything but. Very tiresome.
With some guys, I'm a top. With others, a bottom. Very, very few seem to share my willingness to go both ways. Almost every guy I've ever been with is either "top" or "bottom" and never anything but. Very tiresome.
A "power bottom" is someone who likes to be on the recieving end of anal sex and is....crazy? Daring? Very accomodating? Loves to fuck huge dicks in any way, shape or form for hours on end? Never knew the true distinction. If any of this applies, I suppose I'm a power bottom too. I love getting fucked for hours on end.
Well, then... I'm only twenty, but I'm well-versed in the ways of recieving, so I guess that makes me a POWER BOTTOM! WOW!
I feel special.
It's good to have slightly older bfs that have had a lot more sex than you and teach you techniques.