I know I was just being glib in the other posts, but if I'm honest I do think men are influenced by the sex in porn, particularly when seen between puberty and loss of virginity.
Yes, and as a result they learn very little about women and sex. Heterosexual porn is a very poor educational tool.
But it's not surprising really, we're taught the fundamental facts of reproduction, and how to protect ourselves against pregnancy and disease. But we're not told how to actually have satisfying sex. So, for most people the only time they'll see other people having sex is in porn films.
My health class in high school was a joke. I did notice they talked about how men become sexually aroused and their subsequent erections but they never said a word about women. They pointed out the clitoris without even discussing its purpose. It's the only organ designed for sexual pleasure and it's always bypassed in favour of keeping the sex talk down to a minimum. That's shameful.
Then, of course, the next hurdle is these stupid women who fake orgasms - probably because they don't really like sex that much and want it over as soon as possible. They will lead men to believe that it's those of us who take 20+ minutes to reach orgasm are the ones with a problem lol
Well, i've never seen a women in hetero porn have an orgasm. They whine and do the "yeah, baby" thing, but I know what an orgasm looks and sounds like and i've yet to see a woman have a real honest-to-goodness orgasm on film. IMO, men can't learn how to please women from watching porn because it's all about men getting off. You don't see people in porn talking to each other about what turns them on or off. Women (being our own worst enemies in this regard) often fake them because in the past they've been told they're taking too long and they get it in their head they should be having quicker orgasms, when in fact, those men are often lazy and just want to get off and not worry about someone else's pleasure. Good lovers want to please their partners as well as themselves.
MB's tip of the day: The more you invest in your partner the greater benefits you reap.