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Oh man, you guys are fun...Yes, ol Cube understands bottoming. My buddy likes his ass worked durring sex. He enjoys the feel and doesn't see it as a female/wife thang. By the way Lex...would you fuck me right now tiger?
 

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To me bottom means you like to assume the female role during sex. That's what I enjoy so I guess I'm a bottom but I like being on top sometimes too. Who needs labels...just enjoy what you're doing and to who you are doing it too.
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To me bottom means you like to assume the female role during sex.

This is just old heterosexual insertion power dymanics at play. Men have convinced women that they are somehow less than equal as they get inserted when, in fact, the WOMAN (bottom in this case) holds ALL THE POWER. Total tops have convinced total bottoms of this BS as well.

You can not fuck me unless I LET you. I choose who I give ass to and I am VERY selective and I am always in control of being fucked. There is nothing inherently feminine about being fucked. Trust me. When I fuck and get fucked it is all VERY manly.
 

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I had someone once tell me that I'm a sub but not a bottom. Whatever that means. :p
My master told me that...soo....lol I guess he would know. I like to be dominated, but I like to control the domination.
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That's........being a sub but not a bottom. ;) lol
Not to argue the point with you or your Master, but that sounds backward to me... you sound to me like a bottom, but not a sub. I've known quite a few of those.
first off, no one is "the girl." in gay relationships, we're both dudes
Repeated for emphasis. Nothing that my partner and I do would really qualify for "being the girl." (last I check, we both have penises.)
To me bottom means you like to assume the female role during sex. That's what I enjoy so I guess I'm a bottom but I like being on top sometimes too. Who needs labels...just enjoy what you're doing and to who you are doing it too.
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Krissy, that's understandable coming from a CD point of view. I think part of the misunderstanding is the difference between male/female "roles," dominant/submissive roles, and the difference between "being a top" and "being on top." The top and bottom designations are describing action, not position.
 

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This is just old heterosexual insertion power dymanics at play. Men have convinced women that they are somehow less than equal as they get inserted when, in fact, the WOMAN (bottom in this case) holds ALL THE POWER. Total tops have convinced total bottoms of this BS as well.

You can not fuck me unless I LET you. I choose who I give ass to and I am VERY selective and I am always in control of being fucked. There is nothing inherently feminine about being fucked. Trust me. When I fuck and get fucked it is all VERY manly.


quoted for mother fuckin truth!
 

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Without bottoms I'd be a lonely, masturbation-obsessed man indeed.

What I dislike is passivity, not submission. I **love** having a man submit to my will sexually, but will not fuck a lump of warm flesh that just lays there: yuck. And in case anyone's missed the 2000+ posts where I've said so, I'm a non-versatile top: I have no interest whatsoever in being penetrated.
 

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then of course there is the 2% of the gay population who don't participate in either of these positions.... trust me: top vs. bottom vs. versatile can have its issues, but when the answer to the question is 'neither' then all hell breaks loose....

it gets better?

....hardly....
 

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In a respectful relationship, a woman has the power, but you're deluding yourselves if you think that men aren't the ones doing the choosing: A woman has a hole, no matter what, and a man, if he's an evil man or not, has a peg built in, and can force its use on a woman if he chooses. That's "all the power." In a "power exchange" framework, women are bottoms and men are tops and women are not as capable of mass building nor of strength building as men. That's power. If you mean "negotiation leverage in a nonviolent situation," sure. But never "all the power."
 

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Without bottoms I'd be a lonely, masturbation-obsessed man indeed.

What I dislike is passivity, not submission. I **love** having a man submit to my will sexually, but will not fuck a lump of warm flesh that just lays there: yuck. And in case anyone's missed the 2000+ posts where I've said so, I'm a non-versatile top: I have no interest whatsoever in being penetrated.

Gods, it is nice to know that men like you exist in the world! I have the sort of intensity - both in & out of bed - that most folk equate to "Total Top" when in fact, I'm exactly the opposite. But that intensity has made many a top wilt like lettuce in a furnace, leaving him frightened & me frustrated. I suppose part of that is because I don't submit easily, you're gonna have to prove your worth as a dominant first.
 

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Gods, it is nice to know that men like you exist in the world! I have the sort of intensity - both in & out of bed - that most folk equate to "Total Top" when in fact, I'm exactly the opposite. But that intensity has made many a top wilt like lettuce in a furnace, leaving him frightened & me frustrated. I suppose part of that is because I don't submit easily, you're gonna have to prove your worth as a dominant first.

Intensity hardly wilts me; in fact it just reinforces my own intensity and force of will. 99% of the time, a passive bottom is just a lazy one :rolleyes: