Tops that start right off pounding away..?

[WilliamG]

Now maybe it's just me as I generally only hookup most times but... Is it inexperience on their part? Or is it just how some roll?

Each time I meet a guy, I immediately need to cool their jets when I bottom. Now I do pretty well as I clean and use a toy to be prepared before meeting up. But this "jump on and fuck that man pussy" approach is rough! I had one yesterday at a local sex club. He had the largest mushroom head I've taken to date. His behavior was pretty chill as I sucked him first so I was not thinking of what was coming. I knew that head was going to be intense at first. So has I get on my knees climbs on and immediately goes for it. Luckily my training paid off. But even after telling him to slow down... He's not listening. So I do a trick I learned: I reach around and hold him deep into me so he doesn't pull back out so quick. And within a couple minutes he cums.

After he pulled out I told him he should start slower next time. Told me he couldn't help it because "your ass felt too good". While a compliment... It's a bit rough!

While I still really enjoyed that hard fucking after a couple minutes of pounding... It sure would be nice to have them "warm up" to the pounding. I'm thinking it's because most of the guys I've met or bi or even married to women getting their nut. Is this a common issue with tops? Guess I need to communicate more before hand?

 

[Brodie888]

Many tops have never bottomed so they have absolutely no idea what they are doing except for what they see in porn.

Being anonymous, some also don't give a fuck about what you say or want because they are never going to see you again.

There are some tops who worry about losing their erections and the embarrassment of that so they go for broke to make sure they get to the finish.

There are also a lot of bottoms who enjoy being taken like a roleplay rape as well so the top may not get much push back from previous encounters.

Particularly with encounters with attractive guys or hung guys, they may not ever get honest feedback on their skills so they can have a false belief that they are doing a great job when they aren't.

 

[theplayerking]

Now maybe it's just me as I generally only hookup most times but... Is it inexperience on their part? Or is it just how some roll?

Each time I meet a guy, I immediately need to cool their jets when I bottom. Now I do pretty well as I clean and use a toy to be prepared before meeting up. But this "jump on and fuck that man pussy" approach is rough! I had one yesterday at a local sex club. He had the largest mushroom head I've taken to date. His behavior was pretty chill as I sucked him first so I was not thinking of what was coming. I knew that head was going to be intense at first. So has I get on my knees climbs on and immediately goes for it. Luckily my training paid off. But even after telling him to slow down... He's not listening. So I do a trick I learned: I reach around and hold him deep into me so he doesn't pull back out so quick. And within a couple minutes he cums.

After he pulled out I told him he should start slower next time. Told me he couldn't help it because "your ass felt too good". While a compliment... It's a bit rough!

While I still really enjoyed that hard fucking after a couple minutes of pounding... It sure would be nice to have them "warm up" to the pounding. I'm thinking it's because most of the guys I've met or bi or even married to women getting their nut. Is this a common issue with tops? Guess I need to communicate more before hand?

The venue may have something to do with it. Hookups in a sex club inevitably involve less communication than a one-on-one through an app. Tops in that situation may also be accustomed to fucking cumdumps that are looking to get pounded as hard as possible by as many guys as possible. I’m not trying to defend his actions, but if he’s being too rough, you need to disengage and tell him that he needs to find a different bottom if he wants to fuck that way.

 

[WilliamG]

The venue may have something to do with it. Hookups in a sex club inevitably involve less communication than a one-on-one through an app. Tops in that situation may also be accustomed to fucking cumdumps that are looking to get pounded as hard as possible by as many guys as possible. I’m not trying to defend his actions, but if he’s being too rough, you need to disengage and tell him that he needs to find a different bottom if he wants to fuck that way.

Kinda thinking you're right in that assessment. Don't get me wrong... I still enjoyed it - but after a couple minutes of getting accustomed to the thrusting. It was my first time there so I flowed with it.

I now use a toy on myself after my prepping at home to get "acclimated" before venturing out.

 

[WilliamG]

Many tops have never bottomed so they have absolutely no idea what they are doing except for what they see in porn.

Being anonymous, some also don't give a fuck about what you say or want because they are never going to see you again.

There are some tops who worry about losing their erections and the embarrassment of that so they go for broke to make sure they get to the finish.

There are also a lot of bottoms who enjoy being taken like a roleplay rape as well so the top may not get much push back from previous encounters.

Particularly with encounters with attractive guys or hung guys, they may not ever get honest feedback on their skills so they can have a false belief that they are doing a great job when they aren't.

The lack of experience may play a role for sure. Most guys seem to only want head. A couple seemed surprised when I offer to bottom for them as maybe they've not had the offer. I think losing erections is a deal as well. The older guys for sure fall into the erection issues. I know when I'm bottoming, I have no erection... even though I still cum with a flaccid dick.

 

[Brodie888]

The lack of experience may play a role for sure. Most guys seem to only want head. A couple seemed surprised when I offer to bottom for them as maybe they've not had the offer. I think losing erections is a deal as well. The older guys for sure fall into the erection issues. I know when I'm bottoming, I have no erection... even though I still cum with a flaccid dick.

It's possible that the surprise may be because they are normally bottoms/sides. Being a sex club you wouldn't expect them to be surprised otherwise.

The other possible reason is that they are used to heterosexual sex so they treat your ass like a vagina out of ignorance.

There are also a lot of straight guys who aren't into anal but just want a blowjob because their wives no longer provide that service.

 

[Eboomo]

The lack of experience may play a role for sure. Most guys seem to only want head. A couple seemed surprised when I offer to bottom for them as maybe they've not had the offer. I think losing erections is a deal as well. The older guys for sure fall into the erection issues. I know when I'm bottoming, I have no erection... even though I still cum with a flaccid dick.

Never seen a flaccid dick cum IRL. That would be hot af.

That being said I think you're more than 31% gay

 

[WilliamG]

Never seen a flaccid dick cum IRL. That would be hot af.

That being said I think you're more than 31% gay

The percentages are merely estimates... You mileage may very...

For me it's a sexual sport. Some guys play golf... I like to suck cock and get fucked... And they I go back to my completely different life.

 

[WilliamG]

It's possible that the surprise may be because they are normally bottoms/sides. Being a sex club you wouldn't expect them to be surprised otherwise.

The other possible reason is that they are used to heterosexual sex so they treat your ass like a vagina out of ignorance.

There are also a lot of straight guys who aren't into anal but just want a blowjob because their wives no longer provide that service.

I'm finding that while guys will post certain preferences in their online personas... I've found that changes IRL. I do think that guy that fucked me was not expecting me to offer my ass. The premise of the place during the afternoon is more of a "watch porn, jack off, and maybe suck". They advertise for that session it's best to bring your playmate. So me offering it maybe caught him off guard and he "seized" the moment.

And as was said... Some guys lose it fast without immediate stimulation... So he plunged it fast and deep to maintain his erection. He did come fast. I could picture him another "straight" married guy... Out for sport like me.