this question has been on my mind lately. I’ve been seeing other answers to this question but they always seem to only mention how it just makes them feel dominant but not really how it physically feels. It kind of makes me worried that sex for tops is just kinda sadistic on their part lol. But what is it like for you guys? Why do you do it again?
Tops what does it feel like when you top? Is it actually physically enjoyable?
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I very rarely bottom and only do so if in a monogamous relationship which I am in now. Anyway, it feels good to me, especially if the guy bottoming is enjoying what I am doing..... I have a lot of confidence (not arrogance which I can't stand) in and out of the bedroom and take my top cues from him. If I hear him and by the sounds he is making he is liking a certain thing, I'll take him over the top that way. If he wants it harder or whatever, that's all good too. If he wants it slow and easy and then faster, that's all good too. If he seems bored, I lose interest quickly. For me it feels good making him feel good etc.
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Don’t get me wrong, I fucking love bottoming… but topping is great too! As long as you’re with someone who’s good in bed 
My favorite part is feeling a nice tight hole gripping my cock. The inside of a man’s ass is always nice and warm. A lot of the time he’ll milk my shaft with his sphincter— so it’s a lot like getting a bj except from a different part of the anatomy! Then, when he cums, I can feel his spasms on my cock, and they’ll usually send me over the edge.
My favorite part is feeling a nice tight hole gripping my cock. The inside of a man’s ass is always nice and warm. A lot of the time he’ll milk my shaft with his sphincter— so it’s a lot like getting a bj except from a different part of the anatomy! Then, when he cums, I can feel his spasms on my cock, and they’ll usually send me over the edge.
why do it again...and again...and again.... well because it feels fantastic topping a nice male ass.
Why because I'm top and thats what i do, a bit like asking bottoms why they bottom, its just what does it for me.
how does it feel, different with each guy, depends on their build and how tight they are, but feeling your cock press up against their hole, feel it open and give way to your head, feeling that initial tightness and then relax as you enter and the guy relaxes and lets you in, feeling your length go all the way in, the warmth, squishiness, the tightness still of the sphincter around your cock. Its like a warm mouth around your dick's whole length.
As you fuck you can feel the heat and the spasming of the guys body, you know that you're doing that to/for them and you hear them moan and getting off on your dick in them.
If you're with a great bottom guy, that can control their muscles well, to squeeze, release, hold and massage your dick with their ass it feels amazing.
Seeing your guy riding you, eyes closed, head back, ecstasy on their face and just enjoying you in them is a amazing to see and great to feel.
As the bottom guys cums you feel that immense tightening inside of them squeezing your dick and you know that you've done a good job and they've enjoyed the experience.
Being in a guy you feel trusted, that this person has allowed you inside of them, if barebacking that they've allowed you to cum inside of them, its just incredibly intimate, as close as two people can get to being part of one another.
It also of course a very physical thing by its nature, one guy is penetrating another, the top is usually doing a lot of the work so it is physical, needs stamina, and does take a certain skill on the tops part for the bottom to fully enjoy it and you do literally feel drained after a good session.
I think there is also a mental aspect to it as well, for two guys fucking, just as a lot of bottoms describe bottoming as more mental, the 'giving' oneself to another, i do think there is an element of that for all tops too the taking or 'owning' of that guys ass.
But yes its very physically enjoyable indeed ;-)
Why because I'm top and thats what i do, a bit like asking bottoms why they bottom, its just what does it for me.
how does it feel, different with each guy, depends on their build and how tight they are, but feeling your cock press up against their hole, feel it open and give way to your head, feeling that initial tightness and then relax as you enter and the guy relaxes and lets you in, feeling your length go all the way in, the warmth, squishiness, the tightness still of the sphincter around your cock. Its like a warm mouth around your dick's whole length.
As you fuck you can feel the heat and the spasming of the guys body, you know that you're doing that to/for them and you hear them moan and getting off on your dick in them.
If you're with a great bottom guy, that can control their muscles well, to squeeze, release, hold and massage your dick with their ass it feels amazing.
Seeing your guy riding you, eyes closed, head back, ecstasy on their face and just enjoying you in them is a amazing to see and great to feel.
As the bottom guys cums you feel that immense tightening inside of them squeezing your dick and you know that you've done a good job and they've enjoyed the experience.
Being in a guy you feel trusted, that this person has allowed you inside of them, if barebacking that they've allowed you to cum inside of them, its just incredibly intimate, as close as two people can get to being part of one another.
It also of course a very physical thing by its nature, one guy is penetrating another, the top is usually doing a lot of the work so it is physical, needs stamina, and does take a certain skill on the tops part for the bottom to fully enjoy it and you do literally feel drained after a good session.
I think there is also a mental aspect to it as well, for two guys fucking, just as a lot of bottoms describe bottoming as more mental, the 'giving' oneself to another, i do think there is an element of that for all tops too the taking or 'owning' of that guys ass.
But yes its very physically enjoyable indeed ;-)
Thank you for this very detailed response! It just kinda gave me a bit of an identity crisis. I read a lot online of men saying how it really feels like nothing inside of an ass. I’m glad to hear thats not the case though. My self confidence is just a bit hurt haha like I felt like I can’t please my partner after hearing that stuff.
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I feel true verse guys are the only ones who truly can relish in the best of both worlds. I mostly top and though I am interested in bottoming more I will never give up topping. Personally as a top nothing beats that moment of first insertion. And the idea that all asses feel the same inside is completely false. All tops know that their are some asses out there that as soon as you slide inside u get that moment of “uh oh I could seriously bust right now cause the ass feels so good”. Lol.
And then there’s the orgasm. For me cumming inside someone is such a high, and I prefer not to pull out (unless asked too of course). The ecstasy of releasing yourself inside someone is so euphoric, it’s a joined pleasure. Also in that as a top I prefer to fuck a guy til they cum, though it can be hard for the bottom to do that. For me that’s even better knowing I helped taking someone to the height of their pleasure… it makes m cum harder.
So take it from me their are definite pleasures of being a top.
And then there’s the orgasm. For me cumming inside someone is such a high, and I prefer not to pull out (unless asked too of course). The ecstasy of releasing yourself inside someone is so euphoric, it’s a joined pleasure. Also in that as a top I prefer to fuck a guy til they cum, though it can be hard for the bottom to do that. For me that’s even better knowing I helped taking someone to the height of their pleasure… it makes m cum harder.
So take it from me their are definite pleasures of being a top.
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Yes, intensely physically enjoyable, as I am breeding and spreading my DNA. For me it is a dominance, power, controlling urge to the point I am 'impregnating' the bottom with a part of me. The intensity of shooting a load deep inside a vessel is ecstatic, and the more a bottom 'fights back' the more intense and dominant the session becomes. I am around 6'4", 18 stone (252 lbs) and reasonably well hung, so being a top has been my thing since I realised I had hormones.
If I could give you more than one like I would!
I am a sub bottom, so I see things in the same but opposite way.
For me, it's a huge turn on when a guy wants to own you so badly he's desperate to fill you full of his seed.
His planting of his seed is a man's way of marking his territory.
I often play this game with my partner where I pretend I'm not keen for sex but he continues to fuck me anyway despite my resistance. By the end I am moaning loudly, begging and pleading for him to cum inside me.
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Yes, it is very enjoyable, not just from a physical perspective but also from an emotional one. The first time I ever climaxed with a partner was when I was topping my first boyfriend, and it was one of the most intense, satisfying orgasms I've ever had. For me, it's never been about dominance or "planting my seed." I've always seen it as an equal give and take and a very pleasurable exchange for both of us.
This is a very odd question…
Penises are meant to penetrate. It’s only natural that penetrating feels good, physically.
Penises are meant to penetrate. It’s only natural that penetrating feels good, physically.
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This right here I completely agree with
My bottom is too skiny or my dick is too big. I can feel my dick in and out if I squeeze his lower belly. He has diarrhea for 2 days after I fuck him, I think shake his organ too hard. But he's fine
I love topping, love being in a man. For me it is not about dominance or about spreading my seed. I love watching a part of me making another man feel so good, it really is a turn on. I love to give a good ride. That all being said though not all bottoms are created equal and sometimes i am so concerned about giving a good ride to the detriment of my own orgasm. :-( . BUT, some bottoms tho i'm still am trying to give a good ride know how to work my cock while i'm in them so that i just explode, but others i could just pump forever and not really feel that much though still enjoy it. Unfortunately right now i'm kind of between regular buddies so not getting much at all. sucks. I always say topping takes practice and practice makes perfect!
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I love topping. I've had some of the most mindblowing orgasms of my life doing it. I also love cursing and even screaming as I shoot
I love the physical sensation of topping, however it’s impossible to separate it from the psychological thrill of being inside another man’s body, especially when it’s bareback. No matter how many times I do it, there’s always something bizarre, outrageous and extraordinary about some guy wanting me to stick my dick up his ass and pound away.
I love the feeling of slowly opening up a tight ass with my cock. That hot flesh that wraps around you as you enter and then slowly start to push and pull yourself in and out. The bottom pushes back on you as you go deeper and start to hit his most sensitive spots. That moment when you're covered in sweat and the only sound in the room is flesh hitting flesh as your bodies slam into each other before it all comes to a stop and you collapse and replace that sound with your ragged breathing.
There’s this bizarre idea that I see come up on several platforms that gay sex is not about pleasure but dominance and submission. It’s mostly applied to bottoms (“there’s no pleasure it’s just the satisfaction of being submissive”), but this is the first time I’ve heard it applied to tops for the opposite reason. No pleasure, just that tops get off dominating a bottom.
It appears to usually come from straight men who are threatened by the thought of gay men being equal to them in any way. Or perhaps they had an encounter they’re ashamed of and are compensating for it in their mind. In any case, it comes off as insulting and homophonic. So once and for all, yes, gay sex is pleasurable, whether top or bottom, and anyone telling you different is either ignorant, a homophobe, or they’re just plain doing it wrong.
It appears to usually come from straight men who are threatened by the thought of gay men being equal to them in any way. Or perhaps they had an encounter they’re ashamed of and are compensating for it in their mind. In any case, it comes off as insulting and homophonic. So once and for all, yes, gay sex is pleasurable, whether top or bottom, and anyone telling you different is either ignorant, a homophobe, or they’re just plain doing it wrong.
The physical feeling in your cock when pushing inside that tight ass is amazing. Yes, totally amazing.
Other aspects come into play at times that may increase the top's need to feel like he is dominating the bottom guy. If the bottom is a total sub and wants to be dominated, then I can rev it up a bit and play that role so he ends up enjoying it more. I do love to hear my bottom dude moan with pleasure while I am going at it.
Other aspects come into play at times that may increase the top's need to feel like he is dominating the bottom guy. If the bottom is a total sub and wants to be dominated, then I can rev it up a bit and play that role so he ends up enjoying it more. I do love to hear my bottom dude moan with pleasure while I am going at it.