Tops: what makes a bottom’s app profile most appealing?

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What’s the secret sauce for writing a hookup/dating app profile that gets you more hits?

This applies for any app but I’m using Grindr as the example because you’re limited to 250 characters. So your profile has to be focused.

I had to create a new profile (I finally get to say ‘lost all chats’ lol) and it occurred to me that since I’m not a top, I don’t know if I’m actually describing myself in ways that appeal most to tops.

Case in point: my Guys Who Viewed to message ratio is maybe 5-10% (though given the number of fake profiles who the hell knows). I don’t have common blockers: I can host (rare in LA), I have plenty of face pics (I’m good looking), and I work out a lot and have a good build. I am middle aged, and realize athletic handsome daddy types aren’t for everybody.

If you’re a top, what are things you look for in a bottom’s description that will make you more likely to want to fuck them? What are things that turn you off?

If you’re a bottom, what have you found works for you to get more hits? Aside from being young and beautiful :cool:
 

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Hate to say it but if you're on Grinder, chances are 99% of people just care about how you look... both face and body.

However, some turn offs for me personally are being overly eager (I don't really need to see your ass, if I ask then aight). Stringent requirements listed, even if I qualify, I'm not gonna fuck someone whos "not into asians or blacks" etc. Keep that shit to yourself. Or anyone that wants to fuck in a car... I'm 35, I want a bed :laughing: . And lastly, not about finding someone on Grindr... but please leave shortly after we fuck, chances are I just wanted to fuck to relieve some stress, If you leave, I'm much more likely to give you my number before you go or text it to you via grindr so we can hook up again.
 

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Hate to say it but if you're on Grinder, chances are 99% of people just care about how you look... both face and body.

However, some turn offs for me personally are being overly eager (I don't really need to see your ass, if I ask then aight). Stringent requirements listed, even if I qualify, I'm not gonna fuck someone whos "not into asians or blacks" etc. Keep that shit to yourself. Or anyone that wants to fuck in a car... I'm 35, I want a bed :laughing: . And lastly, not about finding someone on Grindr... but please leave shortly after we fuck, chances are I just wanted to fuck to relieve some stress, If you leave, I'm much more likely to give you my number before you go or text it to you via grindr so we can hook up again.
A dude told me once he wanted to breed me in my car on the roof level of a Target parking garage in Sherman Oaks… and then brought it up like 5 more times. I was like would this happen before or after I spend $200 on things I don’t need?
 

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Regardless of the app, it's the pictures that first draw my attention.

In regards to the profile, As LoNg As ThEy DoN't type like that, I'm good. Or try to speak in Emoji. Loses my interest almost immediately. I'm not looking for a dissertation. I just want to see if you can string complete sentences together, coherently.

Once we start talk/chatting, impress me with your brain. I'm rarely on for a quick fuck. I don't need to see your ass, or your gaping hole.

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1) Profile text. I never write to profiles that don't have any text on it, because I expect them to either not answer or to delete the profile soon.
2) Something nice and kind, that makes you sound approachable and not a list of "no X, no Y"
3) Something a bit cheeky. It makes me think that you like sex with a bit of fantasy and connection. I am very turned on by guys who are bottom and proudly so.