Total Freak in the bed question..do I stay and give it a shot or leave???

[Bmh23]

Okay....I met this girl 3 weeks ago. The topic of sex finally got brought up. So...she tells me last night....she doesn't like regular sex lol...she told me she wants to be 110% completely dominated...no decision making....and dominated to the point where choaked to almost passing out...and she wants it to hurt so bad she cries, and if she cries, she wants the guy not to ask "are you okay?" she wants the guy to keep making her cry harder and harder.....I've never met anybody like this...and I'm completely clueless on how to respond to this. I mean I could do it, but it may be hard for me to do at first. Is there some kind of problem that may go back to her childhood or something that could relate to this kind of behavior? Or is this semi normal today?? Do i give this girl a shot or is she a complete psycho freak?

She also told me she is partial bi....and would like to invite another girl on occassion(with some rules of course)

 

[guyface]

I see that in porn. Yikes man.

Yeah some girls are like that. I think it's not exactly normal (though not uncommon, women these sexually "liberate" themselves in some ironic ways) and there might be some psychological issue.
So if you are into that kind of thing do it. If not, do it a couple times to try it anyway (it could be the only chance to get to completely dominate a woman that way).
Doesn't sound like the making of a good/healthy relationship though, if you have to do it all the time.

 

[D_Olly_Oxenfrie]

sounds like trouble........and a bit sick

 

[psidom]

yeah she needs help.
BondageWeb.com < read this
it is an essay on understanding her and her kink.
learn what flavours she likes and dislikes...the rest should be rather intuitive
when applied with technique.

 

[HazelGod]

Cue Holly in 3...2...1...

 

[rexcasual]

If you want to go there – first educate yourself and learn how to play safely. Novices can unintentionally do real damage, and that is not the point at all.

If it is not an appealing form of sexual play, you likely know this, and will move on.

 

[Principessa]

Okay....I met this girl 3 weeks ago. The topic of sex finally got brought up. So...she tells me last night....she doesn't like regular sex lol...she told me she wants to be 110% completely dominated...no decision making....and dominated to the point where choaked to almost passing out...and she wants it to hurt so bad she cries, and if she cries, she wants the guy not to ask "are you okay?" she wants the guy to keep making her cry harder and harder.....I've never met anybody like this...and I'm completely clueless on how to respond to this. I mean I could do it, but it may be hard for me to do at first. Is there some kind of problem that may go back to her childhood or something that could relate to this kind of behavior? Or is this semi normal today?? Do i give this girl a shot or is she a complete psycho freak?

She also told me she is partial bi....and would like to invite another girl on occassion(with some rules of course)

It's not my thing but it does seem to be, becoming more a part of mainstream or vanilla sex play. If you are that uncomfortable with it I would say don't do it . Explain to her that aren't judging it's just you've not done that before and aren't comfortable with it.

OMHO, Honesty is always best when it comes to relationships and sex. Who knows you may change your mind and want to try it and if you don't like it you never have to do it again.

 

[Not_Punny]

If what she is saying doesn't appeal to you on an "oh, yeah!!!!!!" level, be kind and move on. Don't waste time for both of you.

Sexual compatability is very important.

 

[Supersized]

It sounds like she hates herself and is very used to being abused. I'd dump that fucked up b&#37;^$#. There is plenty of healthy pussy out there. You can do better.

 

[DC_DEEP]

It sounds like she hates herself and is very used to being abused. I'd dump that fucked up b%^$#. There is plenty of healthy pussy out there. You can do better.

That's a pretty stupid thing to post.

 

[Drifterwood]

Damn, DC, I thought that you were going to shed light on the OP.

 

[hot-rod]

Okay....I met this girl 3 weeks ago. The topic of sex finally got brought up. So...she tells me last night....she doesn't like regular sex lol...she told me she wants to be 110% completely dominated...no decision making....and dominated to the point where choaked to almost passing out...and she wants it to hurt so bad she cries, and if she cries, she wants the guy not to ask "are you okay?" she wants the guy to keep making her cry harder and harder.....I've never met anybody like this...and I'm completely clueless on how to respond to this. I mean I could do it, but it may be hard for me to do at first. Is there some kind of problem that may go back to her childhood or something that could relate to this kind of behavior? Or is this semi normal today?? Do i give this girl a shot or is she a complete psycho freak?

She also told me she is partial bi....and would like to invite another girl on occassion(with some rules of course)

Keep your dick in your pants and run ....you don't need 'a complete psycho freak'. You could be setting yourself up for lots of trouble and misery later on. She might try and bring all kinds of charges against you and ruin you forever.

 

[open501s]

It is weird; people that are into kinks think that they have a wider range and tastes of sexual expressions.

Really is is a narrowing of sexual experiences. They have to have it with x, y or z or it's isn't *real* sex. I have a few kinks I am into; but they aren't required for every play session.

You have a few choices;

• if you are really into her say, "I am not into that but I still want a relationship with you"
• Try it yourself and risk narrowing your sexual experience pallet
• Don't call her back

 

[psidom]

if you don't like that stuff,and she is 18
and she wants a more experienced dom,send her to me.:smile:

 

[DC_DEEP]

if you don't like that stuff,and she is 18
and she wants a more experienced dom,send her to me.:smile:

Do you find ignorant indignation as tiresome as do I?

It just wears me down to see so many posts along the lines of

"OMG, she wants you to spank her? Does she hate her mother and beat her father? Run away! She will kill your family, then have you thrown in jail!"

The whole thing is pretty simple, really. She's a sub looking for a dom. If the OP is interested, he should learn something about it, and pursue it. If he's not interested in it, he should say "no thanks."

 

[psidom]

Yes DC,it is a big reason why i took my pics down,
people would PM me saying what i was doing was "abusive" or "sick"
more than the good comments anyway.

these are simply consensual adult activities that enhance sensation.
i think people need to realise these conditions happen because
of the "crass" ways of man. (queen victoria) ya know "victorias SECRET?"

she need someones to uncork her ether, before she can feel available for loving the way she likes it...very real and intense.

 

[B_ScaredLittleBoy]

My girlfriend wanted me to pin her down at the weekend. Of course, I obliged and "made her take it!" hehe. She also wanted me to bite her finger which at first I thought was kinky then I realised it was to make her stop screaming (with pleasure :wink.

I'll pin a girl to the bed (sometimes, with just my cock :biggrin1 and bite her (finger, neck, etc) but I wouldn't choke her or anything like that. Some girls like to be called 'slut' 'dirty little bitch/whore' etc which I don't think I would do either.

All you really need is Baby Oil. You can't go wrong with that stuff.

IMO - a lot of girls want to be 'dominated' by being held down, pounded, etc. The more extreme domination - choking, slapping, etc - I think is quite rare. So there are degrees and extremes. Decide what volume you want to play at and find a partner giving out the same vibe.

I'd say the girl in the original post is about an 8 or 9. I'm more of a...4. If it turns her on and doesn't involve choking or slapping, I'll do it!

 

[9inchcanadian]

RUN, FAST IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION. Change your number too. She`s a nutter my friend. I dont know if this has been mentioned in the thread but imagine if she were to change her mind the morning after. Full of your man junk she goes to the cops covered in bruises. Just a thought. Leave it alone

 

[Bbucko]

BD/SM play can be extremely intimidating to the initiated, and has been stated above, can be dangerous if misunderstood.

People attracted to more extreme forms of sex learn from patient teachers with more experience how best to assess both his/her own limits as well as the limits of his/her partner(s).

If she has a genuine interest in the OP and wants him (a total neophyte) to learn what makes her happy (and find a new part of himself in the process) then I'd say go for it.

But if he's just looking for an outlet for his aggression I'd suggest he take up a hobby and leave the girl alone.

 

[Bmh23]

I have to add something here guys.....Thanks for all the advice so far!

But..this girl is so different. I'm not being egotistical when I say this either, but she is completely obsessed with me. If she touches my stomach(her favorite part on me) she seriously starts to like quiver and she shakes a little like from goosebumps everywhere.

So i decided to play with this a bit and see what else happens...I put my hand on her inner thigh(kinda close to her area but not really) and she started shaking and quivering so bad I couldn't believe my eyes....It was like her whole body was having an orgasm...I'm seriously wondering if she actually did...What do you guys think of this?

She is also the type of girl who said she cant and NEVER has gotten an orgasm through any kind of sexual intercourse. It's only been through foreplay.