"Exactly....I told her we should establish some key words, but she didnt want to talk about that yet...so I was kind of like hmmm?"
and of course the DOM says "ok" and goes on doing what the SUB says?
WRONG.
as a dom...you stop when you like,if the sub doesn't like that
then she finds a new dom.(within reason like if she is just nuts or you are not matched right)
without safewords you are looking at tissue and nerve damage.
never forget how delicate her body really is, touch her neck lightly to sense
that delicate,human life feeling.
ALWAYS respect that,even if the sub is so far in subspace
they cannot see clearly...you as the dom must be clear.
this is what i call top space,kind of militant.
safe words are a HUGE requirement untill you get to know eachother
on a dom/sub basis...then you know the patterns of your lover,
OUCH is not a safeword...."fuck you" is my girlfriends safeword.
she likes it...it is the only time she can say that without sounding
out of character.
if you use a gag than have her bang her hands and or feet.(as a means to safeword)
a specific and direct,hitting/tapping on whatever your using,floor chair,table.
"But I'm definitely going to be telling her this will be mandatory if this happens again, no exceptions." (good man)