Trans women as bottoms

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    Just trying to understand trans women who like to or choose to bottom. Why do you bottom?

    1) because it feels really nice physically, very pleasurable...you like it

    2) because there is an emotional element to being a bottom; it makes you feel more feminine or more like a woman....having someone inside of you, pleasing a man/partner while being penetrated

    3) Because you feel outside "pressure"...you are a woman, and women give and receive pleasure from being penetrated

    4) because over time, you have lost the functionality of your penis due to taking female hormones

    5) or a combination of these?
     
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    =] Bottoming is the closest thing to being a woman during sex. Transgender girls probably feel like they're being pressured into being boys for most of their lives so it's really hurtful and emotionally distressing being forced into a situation where you're expected to play the part of the 'boy'. I know people like to say that bottoming doesn't make you the girl and that's probably true for..experienced gay people who've had lots of sex but presumably those people are at least confident in their status as men, so it's sort of different for transgender girls. When I have sex I want to be having sex as a woman >>
     
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    Thanks--I appreciate your response. How you feel is one perception I have had in the past.......not sure if this perception applies to all / many / most / some trans women, but that's one of the reasons I am asking. Thanks again.
     
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    For me it was a combination over years. It started with number 3, then it became number one and now it is number 2.

    It started as number 3, Because you feel outside "pressure"... Basically because guys like to put their penises inside,whether its the mouth or whatever. It is how it works for them as a rule. So there is natural pressure to do what satisfies them and with most guys, that means receiving them.

    When i first started doing stuff with guys, I sort of hated it. Actually I really hated it. Especially after it was all over. I would feel guilty and gay. Then a few days later it would all start over again.

    After a while, as I got older, it became reason1) because it feels really nice physically, very pleasurable...you like it. The first time it felt really good I was with this guy Tony. We had done it a bunch of times. He was taking me from behind while i was face down on the bed. He was just hitting the right spot for me. He hammering me like a jack hammer. I asked him to please cum inside me. After that he called me out for being gay...because i was clearly enjoying it. Somehow having sex was OK, but enjoying it was a deal breaker.

    That weirded me out for a while, and the problem was is that the more i enjoyed it, the guiltier I felt.

    Eventually, I did it with a really cool guy name Mark. he was truly hotter than hell, blonde hair, bright green eyes and abs that were unreal. He was super popular...super jock. We went camping one night, drinking beer and smoking pot and somehow I gave him a hand job. The next day he was really cool about it. At first it was awkward to talk about, but the gist was that he enjoyed doing it, but no one could know. A couple weeks later we went camping again, things went further, and so I told him about dressing as a girl.

    Labor day weekend we got together for another camping trip to an island. I was wearing semi passable girls stuff. My sisters "chic" jeans and a Jordache sweatshirt. That night, after very little booze and pot, we went into the tent and he literally made love to me. In the middle of it, he would have to stop every few minutes to keep from cumming. Ans we would kiss and hug and when he was Ok again he would start thrusting into me. then it just sunk in, 2) because there is DEFINITELY an emotional element to being a bottom; it makes you feel more feminine or more like a woman....having someone inside of you, pleasing a man/partner while being penetrated.
     
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    Great description Sam. Thanks for sharing.
     
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    I have to agree very much with Samantha as far as my situation goes. It was very much 3, 2, then 1 for me as well. I feel awkward topping, but that's just me, and I haven't always felt that way in the past. My first time, I came just from being penetrated, but that is the only time it happened. I don't even feel the need to come every time I bottom. There have been plenty of times that it was so good that it was almost as if my entire body were having an orgasm when I was bottoming or my ass was being eaten right.
     
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    Thanks for sharing MissThing.
     
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    I absolutely do. Its not rude at all. Is a great question
     
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    Love this thread. I cum when my wife pegs me. So I can attest. Regardless of trans or not, I think once you cum from hands free anal you're never the same. It's also a very intimate thing for male or female to be penetrated.
     
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    Sorry, just realized I should have not posted here. Please ignore.
     
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    Mostly 1, it's difficult to agree with number 2 because I don't need confirmation to know what I am. However, the emotional bond of having someone fondle you and penetrate you is the most wonderful thing. It makes me feel so loved and sharing that with someone is just, aaah, lovely.
     
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    Perhaps this question isn't specifically directed at me, but I'd still like to answer. I live as a man but I've always associated as a woman. I dress whenever I can and I date and engage in all sexual encounters as a woman. I think this is a really interesting question, and I've really enjoyed reading the answers from the other women.

    As with the other women it's a combination of factors for me, although a different combination it sounds like. My primary reason is some form of #2, although not exactly as the OP phrased it. That's my natural instinct when I'm with a partner and I have a connection with him. I want him inside me. Never in my life have I had the desire to penetrate a man or a woman. And yes, it does make me feel like a woman to be penetrated by a man and have him inside me - and I love that I feel that way. That's definitely a significant part of it for me.

    For the most part I don't find it overly pleasurable physically (so #1 isn't a big factor), but that doesn't mean I don't love it for all the other reasons I've discussed. I've heard that many genetic women don't orgasm from intercourse, but that doesn't mean they don't desire it and love it. That's how I feel.

    #3 I don't care about it at all. I would never feel pressured to bottom for a man if I didn't want to.

    #4 doesn't directly apply, but I think a version of it applies to me. I've never particularly cared about receiving pleasure from my penis. It's not because I've lost functionality or anything. Having an orgasm during a sexual session with a man really isn't that important to me. It's a nice bonus, sure, but if it's fun and satisfying in other ways I really don't care about an orgasm. I think this goes hand in hand with my point earlier about never having had the desire to penetrate someone. My penis just isn't a focus for me.

    So overall my answer would be a variation of #2 as my main factor, with a variation of #4 as a secondary factor.
     
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    I only like to mess around ladyboys.
    I like to bottom for them but will top too. Problem is when I top them I pop off REALLY fast lol.
     
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    Because that's how I cum.
     
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