I suppose we want what any other woman wants in her man. Someone kind, intelligent, and trustworthy. A man that happens to prefer taking a passive role in the bedroom. For me I want him to be a man's man outside the bedroom because I am a sub in the streets but a Dom in the sheets.
I've done it for my past BF, but mainly because he liked it. Honestly, the way I'm sexually wired.. there's a disconnect with it being a turn on. I feel like, wait a second... thaaaaats my role. But when you think you love someone. If I was a cis woman and my man wanted me to use a strap on, I probably wouldn't be into that either.. but at least I wouldn't have to concentrate on trying to be turned on long enough to fuck him. Lol