I think that this is a case of "unless he has publicly criticised, bashed, or otherwise disrespected gays", I wish people and tabloids would stay out of celebrities private life.
So what if he is? If this is true, I would imagine that his wife is well aware of his "play time" If he's been visiting them as long as the "author" claims he has, he wouldn't be able to hide it from her.
I have a bit of a doubt about the entire story, even with the lie detector test. A high profile celebrity being so careless in a public gay spa?