Trophy hunting

[Thirdlegproduction]

I'm guilty of being very picky with my potential partners, there's a huge unwritten list that needs to be checked before I'd consider someone as a potential partner.

So I can't say I have dated more girls then some of my friends but I have always had the prettiest.

Now last Christmas I got the advice from my sister that maybe I should start lower my appearance expectations and find someone who'd just make me happy.

But my reasoning is, being plain or average looking is no indication of someone having a better personality then an attractive person.
If anything I believe your appearance is a reflection of your personality.

It is why I prefer athletic women as it says something about discipline and determination.

I have accepted that this may just be a shallow personality trait of mine or I'm looking for the best looking offspring or whatever the reason it leaves a bittersweet taste.

What are your thoughts on trophy hunting?

 

[Deep_Eddy]

For sexual satisfaction, getting off, and putting a smile on your face; having a primo trophy partner isn't likely. Not before the third/tenth date

All ladies have what you desire, and odds are that the "nine" or "ten" isn't going to get down quick and dirty...

Setting your sights on her friend - the six/seven/eight (and I hate to be so judgmental in this way) will raise your odds in the chance of knocking boots. The plain Jane friend of the trophy is hyper-motivated to make some memories of her own, as if to say: "hey biatch - I got mine, too, and I can compete in this game; thanks for playing!"

What are you really after? minimally acceptable for carnal adventure on a night like this? Or child-bearing and social pages photos?

 

[Thirdlegproduction]

I know the game with 10's and 7's I never really had a problem dating 10's it's just that most of them turned out to be cookoos.

And I'm after both, having fun is top of my list and if something more develops good but it's not a priority.

But having dated so many attractive women I tend not notice the plain jane's anymore.

I do try to minimilise my list to the basics, cute face/hair, good hygiene and a slim figure and boobs and butts are just extra's but the first three seems to be hard enough alread as I'm seeing a lot of overweight women lately.

All I'm thinking is maybe I shouldn't look at appearances anymore?

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Setting your sights on her friend - the six/seven/eight (and I hate to be so judgmental in this way)

No, you don't - or you wouldn't do it.

 

[HiddenLacey]

Just because someone may not seem to be the most attractive woman at first, doesn't mean she will not turn out to be more so once you get to know her. Have you never dated someone that has lost their attractiveness or gained their attractiveness as you've really gotten to know who they are?

 

[Incocknito]

The fact that you are calling looking for a partner "trophy hunting" implies that you see (potential) girlfriends as trophies; objects, to 'show off'.

Which seems shallow to me.

 

[Stilinsatiable11]

Interesting. While I'm not the slimmest or prettiest woman out there, I do have confidence. In my experience, sometimes men are drawn to outward confidence. I have been out with my size 2, trophy standard looking friends who are unapproachable. The men end up talking to me. Hey, everyone has their preferences right? I mean, I may be big, but I'm not blind.

 

[D_Judith K Rantz]

From a woman's perspective, I can admit I'm a lot like you. You have to be attractive for me to consider you as a potential date. Call it shallow, whatever.....we all know looks do matter. If I'm going to be with you a lot if the time, I need to like what I look at because I'm very observant.

But women are not trophies, neither are men. Looks do fade (less so if you look young for your age). Looks can only get you so far before your personality and intelligence can make or break you. In the end you're going to be left with the person's heart and mind to satisfy you. Keep that in mind.

For me, I will not even consider sex unless we are in a well-developed, committed, monogamous relationship. If you want me bad enough you will wait. Don't expect every female to put out after a few dates because you may feel privileged because of your looks. Arrogance is a turn-off.

On a side note, do you actually have the natural looks to be so picky and going after said "10's"?

 

[ManlyBanisters]

You have to be attractive for me to consider you as a potential date.

What is 'attractive'? Is it the same for everyone?

 

[dolfette]

a pretty face is genetic fluke.

an athletic body is a sign of a certain type of personality and self discipline.

if you feel you have a better match with athletic girls then continue going for them. no woman deserves to be the second best that you settled for.

 

[D_Judith K Rantz]

What is 'attractive'? Is it the same for everyone?

My personal definition of attractive. Everyone's is different. I didn't think I needed to add those universal statements for the average person to know it's implied.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

My personal definition of attractive. Everyone's is different.

My point exactly.

 

[redz_rule]

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Now last Christmas I got the advice from my sister that maybe I should start lower my appearance expectations and find someone who'd just make me happy.

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Eh. I have had a very similar conversation with my brother and I'm wondering if you have misconstrued what she said.

I would question if she made a direct correlation between a potential partner's physical appearance and their ability to make you happy. Isn't it more likely that rather than advising you to lower your expectations with regard to physical beauty she only meant for you to judge a person's worth based on their personality first and foremost? To change your priorities? Not to seek out plainer girls because they will be more likely to make you happy - this is still judging based on looks and is quite frankly ridiculous anyway. There is no reason you can't find somebody who is the 'whole package' for you - it is completely subjective.

Just because someone may not seem to be the most attractive woman at first, doesn't mean she will not turn out to be more so once you get to know her. Have you never dated someone that has lost their attractiveness or gained their attractiveness as you've really gotten to know who they are?

Laidey is spot on IMO. The saying 'love is blind' had to come from somewhere after all

I'm really trying not to sound condescending to anyone here, but I think most peeps find that as they get older, their ideas about what constitutes 'attractiveness' evolves and broadens. It's just one of those things that tends to come with life experience.

 

[D_Judith K Rantz]

My point exactly.

I just said that I didn't think I physically need to write that for the average person to know that it's implied. Would you like me to edit my post and add "guys that I personally find attractive. Of course, it is different for everyone" in there? I was hoping there wasn't a need to note such a old 'law' of sorts.

 

[D_Tam_Ponds]

You are the typical man - looking for love in all the wrong places, whatever you call it. Placing value in the wrong attributes. I see it all the time.

P.S. Women do it to.

 

[Thirdlegproduction]

I'm not necesarily drawn to physical beauty as in porn star bodies and make up I'd rather see a girl who is just pretty but still has a lot of undiscovered potential that she is not aware of, most of these cases are tomboys.
Not sure if that makes a lot of sense.
But I have no problem with looking past physical beauty once in a relationship.
I try to look for sincere and caring women but beauty is what catches my eye and imagination first.

As for my appearance I'm fairly attractive, and it helps but it is not what makes me appealing. I think it's just being able to hold a conversation and ignoring a woman's physical attributes. Just giving off the impression that I don't really care that she's the prettiest woman in the room.

And most of the times I actually have been oblivious and did not care maybe I'm slightly autistic.

But where other men look at almost every woman that pass by I really only notice the "trophy's"

I could argue that for a lot of people here, searching for men with big dicks could also be perceived as "trophy hunting"

 

[upone]

You are the typical man - looking for love in all the wrong places, whatever you call it. Placing value in the wrong attributes. I see it all the time.

P.S. Women do it to.

I turned 20 in 1965, and I turned 40 in 1985. Those were certainly good years to do some trophy hunting; I am drawn to women with a very specific body type (Check my photo albums) and I found a lot of women that fit the body type in those twenty years. I certainly wasn't looking for love, and very few of them were. Whether you or anyone would consider them beautiful is a personal choice, but I had the good fortune to work in a business that brought me into contact with a lot of women who fit what I was looking for.

It's good to work a lot of that out of your system before you decide to settle down, Whitemonster. It makes for fewer complications later. And if you never work it out, there are worse fates than being smoothered to death by a huge pair of boobs.

 

[grandunification]

Just because someone may not seem to be the most attractive woman at first, doesn't mean she will not turn out to be more so once you get to know her. Have you never dated someone that has lost their attractiveness or gained their attractiveness as you've really gotten to know who they are?

You're definitely one of the more interesting people on this site.

 

[davidjh7]

You have admitted you are shallow when it comes to looks. You only go after people who meet your minimum standards. That's perfectly fine---you are allowed your tastes and preferences as much as anybody else. It is a human characteristic to want to pursue people who are at least as attractive as you are, or more attractive. If you are a great looking guy, that means that you have more available choices. You have set self imposed standards which limit your available pool of potential partners, and finding everything you want in one package is a one in ten million shot, but it does happen, so I wish you the best of luck. You are who you are, and at least you are honest with yourself and others about it.

 

[houtx48]

If you people mean "tens" does that mean you're counting the digits on both hands when you wank.