Trouble cumming!!!!

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  1. southwest

    southwest New Member

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    Is this a common problem?
    When having sex if I do not cum within about twenty minutes I find trouble cumming at all no matter what I do. My erection maintains as long as I want but just can't get to that point :mad:
    Sometimes I prefer to masturbate alone as that guarantees that I will cum.
    Your thoughts appreciated.
     
  2. seahorses

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    There are several different reasons for this to occur, though at your age I doubt it's to do with that. If your able to come while wanking and not with a partner, then it could be tension, or something going on inside your head. As this is worrying you, your best bet would be to see a doctor.
     
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    I somewhat have the same issue. To much foreplay seems to be the cause for me. I think I get somewhat numb, and therefore last longer.
     
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    When I have sex, there's a point where the tension really builds up, and I start feeling like I want to come--not that I'm going to cum, because I haven't reached the point of inevitability yet, but that I'm psychologically ready to cum.

    Once I hit that point, there's a certain window of opportunity to reach orgasm. If I wait too long, the tension and excitement decrease. At that point I usually try to focus on getting my partner to cum, because I know that I'm not going to.

    I agree with rstrnt that too much foreplay can be a problem. I've had a few partners who really dragged out the foreplay to the point where I got bored and kinda lost interest in the whole affair, then when they were finally ready to proceed beyond foreplay, I'd be thinking, "too late, you missed your chance."
     
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    Eh, it happens man. How often does this occur? I have found that whenever something like this happens it can be a combination of mental (meaning stress, loss of concentration) and physical factors. You know, your dick gets chaffed a bit, numbs up, and becomes less sensitive, hence its harder to cum.
     
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    I guess it's psychological.

    What about making your girl suck your cock intensly and fast after you've fucked, to the point that you can't hold back anymore?
     
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    That's my experience. The issue is that usually I was trying to be some kind of stud and held off too long. Once that numbness sets in, I might as well fake it and roll off.
     
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    This happens to me as well. I used to try and hold off cumming until my partner did, but we all reach this point at such different times it's hard to do that. No I just go ahead and shoot, then I focus all my attention on giving my partner the time of his life. Usually I'll get hard again pretty quick when this happens.
     
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    Are you taking any medications? Illlicit drugs? These things can affect ones ability to cum.
     
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    I have the same problem. I wonder if it is all the masturabation that densitizes my penis. I know that other men jerk it every day and don't have the issue. It sucks not being able to come.
     
  11. southwest

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    That sounds like a good idea, as I don't have trouble getting hard at all :naughty:
     
  12. southwest

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    Thats true I have used speed in the past and there is no hope of shooting on that stuff, but these days I'll only have a few pints of larger at the most.
     
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