molotovmuffin
Experimental Member
You do like to make excuses for him, don't you? The lack of anal sex is probably because he now has an STD and you should probably get tested.Helga--you misunderstood the two parts on which you commented, but I am beginning to understand what my psyche is doing to me. To clarify, he has always been a total bottom, really into getting fucked. Now he says he is more into oral. Sudden change, unexplanable. Also, when I said keeping options open I meant three ways, voyeurism, etc. Not open relationship. I have been very clear about being together while exploring and nothing without the other. Furthermore, we recently went to Toronto and visited some male nude strip bars where the guys make their money with private "dances". We ended up having a stern discussion about the private dance thing because he was not happy simply being together watching nude men. Even though we had sex together (oral) every single day. I'm figuring that no matter how much I pamper him with attention, touching, and sex, I will never be enough for him. At this point I need to figure out how much I can really take before reaching a breaking point.
For the one that posted his similar experience (sorry, new here and can't figure out how to go back a page to get your display name) I, too, am having periodic dreams of him with other men and keep getting premonitions that he is continuing the destructive behavior. As a matter of fact I am sure that the few times he has been out of the house without me, he has returned to that Godforsaken park for a quickie encounter.
Here are the complications--we bought a house together, I have a 6 year old son who also loves him, and my business has slowed down considerably hindering my ability to move on singly...all not completely insurmountable, but very difficult nonetheless.
He's cheating on you and you really need to move on.