Trouble Sleeping

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  1. SuckmeNOW

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    Hello didn't know quite where to put this so i thought id put it here.

    So i have trouble sleeping everynight but if im sleeping with someone (as in sharing a bed with them sexually AND non sexually) i seem to be able to fall asleep straight away. Even quicker if we cuddled up/ spooning. Anyone else have any experience and if so how did you get over it. Also anyone know of a cause of this. I'm aware its probably in my head (im studying for a BSc in Psychology)

    Cheers for any help :)
     
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    I think your humble audience needs more information.
     
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    I have this problem... I could be that I've slept with my hubby for nearly 30 yrs and miss his presence terribly when I am away from him or he from me. Neither of us seem to sleep well apart... Fitful nights of interrupted sleep.

    How to solve? I go with him on work trips and am his bed partner.... we travel together always...

    I know it won't work for everyone, but its the only answer I got... ;)
     
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    what do you need to know? :smile:
     
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    Try a body pillow for cuddling and some Melatonin tablets.
     
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    I've just realised how immature that hugging/ spooning made me sound LOL. Well its true haha. And cheers for the melatonin :)
     
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    I've had the same problems recently, actually. I just use a big pillow when I feel like cuddling
     
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    I can't sleep with others or anything like an extra pillow, which can be a bigger problem.
     
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    I have had serious sleeping problems come and go. They can last for months! I try not to have any caffiene after 2pm. It has helped. Also, if I drink wine at night, I usually wake-up frequently. I don't know why. My hubby can drink all he wants and just zonk out.

    I can suggest a 20 minute "PM Yoga" routine. It really helps me. Best to you.
     
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    I don't sleep well either, but I believe I have got you trumped though as it is actually worse when i am sleeping with someone. You see, I am afflicted by night terrors. Some I remember, and some I don't upon awakening. There have been instances where I have "attacked" my bedmate because of them, and I have had had relationships where the girl was afraid to sleep with me sfter she woke up to me choking her. It got bad enough that I went to a dr down in Houston for a psych eval and there I was given a prescription to remeron. It helps me sleep, but makes me incredibly complacent throughout the day, which I did not like. I stopped taking it, and went back to not sleeping. Its like a lose lose situation. I go to sleep ok, I just do not sleep peacefully.
     
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    I wont go to see mental health specialist just because from studing psychology for the last few years puts me off.. bit weird considering i want to be a clinical psychologise. I also suffer from night mares to. My friends die in the same place. i sympathise with you 'horrible'.

    Thank you to the rest of you for advice, will be sure to try everything :)
     
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    You could also try getting a blow up doll XD
     
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    There are three that recurr more often than others, coincidentally, one replays a "battlebuddy" of mine taking a round in his throat while we were talking, but instead of the way it happened, in the dream I had a chance to light up the sniper before he shot Moore. And in the dream, I can't move to help him most times, all I can do is listen to the gurgling which is LOUD. The dreams where I can get to him, the blood is too slippery to hold an occlusive dressing and never stops flowing until it covers everything and I start to drown in it.

    The other is during a VCP. There is contact, small arms fire, it's coming from above at first, then from the right, when the time comes where the threat is identified, and there is finally individuals to engage, my rifle runs dry, I've flipped the mag, sent 56 rounds downrange and I find out my 582 gear is devoid of spare mags. There is no stripped ammo, no belted ammo no stripper clips, no loose ammo, my team is dead and I've nothing with which to further engage the enemy and I have never finished that one. I'll wake up, damn near hyperventilating and sweaty.

    The third is just too violent to describe.

    Good luck with yours though. The Remeron helped, but I didn't feel like me when it made me feel all blah.
     
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    I actually have this same problem and I ironically don't think it's uncommon but the source of it can vary wildly (if this thread is any evidence.)

    When I'm alone, I only sleep under two scenarios; when it is absolutely imperative I do so (like "Oh shit, I have a twelve hour shift tomorrow and I've not yet slept and I have to be there in four hours!") or when I've remained awake so long that my body just dictates slumber. Otherwise I'll always find something to do. I'll write, I'll watch reviews, I'll post at a forum, I'll shop, I'll return e-mails, I'll dream up stuff for work... whatever it is, I just won't choose to sleep.

    For me that stems from being lonely and insecure in certain ways. When I'm awake and engaged in something my mind doesn't focus on how representative the empty pillow next to mine is of my wish that it weren't (beat that sentence with a stick.) Obviouslythat isn't most people but that's the root cause for me and I've never really found a way to get around it. I embrace my insomnia and just...revel in the exceptions wherein I'm sleeping next to someone.

    I guess if there's a way to combat it it's to work yourself into exhaustion until you body wins the fight against your head. But the ultimate solution is to figure out whatever it is at the root of your sleeplessness (that's the easy part) and then address it (that's the hard part... at least it would be for me.)


    Good luck buddy. A toast to the other sleepless LPSG members- you are not alone.



    JSZ
     
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    At least you know why you can't sleep. I'm stuck awake most nights just trying to trick myself to sleep.
     
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    a shot NyQuil or the cheapo W/mart version.. works like a charm... but don't do it nightly..
     
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    I don't think his issue is with going to sleep, I believe it has rondo with turning the dreams off, and being able to stay asleep.
     
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