I'd like to offer up a juicy real life sexual experience to see if any women out there can offer some insight into a bit of confusion I have had.
First of all, for 10 years was a massage therapist. Through my work and all those years of doing massage, I met literally thousands of people. Some people I met were shy and conservative and some didn't have a shy bone in their bodies. I would consider myself to be in the later category - not a shy bone in this body.
And like most people, among the things we discuss with our significant others is our work day and experiences. So, one day I had a particularly no-so-shy massage with a new client who was a fit and very well-endowed guy. I could tell it was going to be "one of those days" when he asked if he could just lay on the massage table with only a small towel covering him. I knew he was looking for the infamous happy-ending massage but I just wasn't in the mood and, as a straight man, it's not really my kinda thing.
However, when the towel slid down and fell off this guy revealing his enormous
endowment, I was every impressed. Honestly, I've seen some things in my life time but this man was huge. It hung straight down and literally reached the half way point of his thighs. That day, I just gave him a professional massage (even though I could tell from the way he was moving and shifting around on the table that he wanted more than that) and I have to admit that it was hard not to wonder how something like that actually works in a sexual situation (especially with a woman).
I told my girlfriend about how the day went and how amazed I was that a man could actually have a penis that damn big. I told her it was impressive to say the least. She didn't seem moved one way or the other and really didn't have anything to add or ask about it life went on as usual.
As time marched on, about every couple months or so, I would get a call from this well-endowed guy to setup subsequent massages. And on one such day, prior to him coming in for his massage, I had made mention to my girlfriend that tomorrow the guy with the enormous dick is coming in for a massage with me. And once again, she didn't seem anymore interested in talking about it than she would have having a discussion about belly button lint or the weather.
But, when the next day arrived, she text messages me that she wants to come by and is coming up to my massage studio. So, there I am massaging this incredibly well-endowed man and my hot ass girlfriend is on her way up there to see me. Naturally, being the imaginative and sexually adventurous person that I am and always have been, I'm trying to figure out how I can get her into the room for no other reason than just to see this damn dick this guy has on him and maybe see what might happen.
But, of course, since I'm not a total lunatic freak and would have no idea how this man would feel about any of that, I don't do anything crazy. At this point, I had seen this guy a few times, he seemed pretty laid back, was polite as anyone could be and although I knew he wanted me to do more than just massage him - I wasn't into that because I'm straight. I was though very
curious to know how big he really was in terms of inches because I was impressed.
So, while my girlfriend waited patiently in the lobby for me to finish up the massage, I mustered up the courage to tell this guy that his endowment was impressive and if he didn't mind me asking, "how big is that?" He just thanked me for the compliment but didn't comment right away about his size. I finished up the massage with him and then quietly excused myself from the room to see my girlfriend in the lobby. She was sitting there waiting and smiling her big bright beautiful smile as I came into the lobby to see her. We hugged and kissed and talked in the lobby for several minutes enjoying each other's company. After about 15 minutes went by, the guy hadn't emerged from the massage room. I told my girlfriend that I was going to go check on my client and see if everything was ok.
I went to back to the room and gently knocked on the door. I didn't know what may have happened because sometimes people would literally fall asleep after a massage and I'd have to wake them back up. He said come on in as I stood outside the door to the massage room. I slowly opened the door and to my surprise he was standing there near the end of the massage table and he was stroking his dick which was then fully hard, which I had never seen at this point. He said, "You wanted to know how big it is?" I said, "Yeah".
He said, "It's 11 inches." To be honest, I could have taken the situation as being kind of an odd and awkward, but hell, I was the one who opened my mouth and asked so there you go. We made some small talk and I asked him if women liked it and he said, "yes, they do." and at that point, with him still stroking his dick, I seized the opportunity to keep the situation under control and handed him a towel and told him he could wipe the oil off his body with it to freshen up and I'd see him in the lobby when he was dressed.
So, I went back to the lobby to where my girlfriend was waiting and met her warm smile once again. Being the naughty kinda guy I am, I think I was pretty excited at the notion that there is a huge fucking cock hard and ready to go just on the other side of the lobby and down the hall that I'd love to see her reaction to. Of course, I didn't do anything crazy but while he was still getting ready to come out, I told my girlfriend right there on the spot what had happened and what I found today that my client has an 11 inch penis and it was one of the biggest I've ever seen and I knew it had to be something crazy big like that. It was thick too. She just smiled and giggled and didn't make any comment of interest in what I told had happened but seemed amused at me for being excited about it.
A week or so later, I mentioned it again to my girlfriend and admitted to her
what naughty things were running through my mind and I asked her what she would have done had I come and got her from the lobby and walked her into the room with me to see this studly guy standing there with all that glory. She laughed it off and jokingly said she would have probably said something cute and politely left the room just like I did.
I should also point out that this guy wasn't the only guy who had wanted to get me to play with his dick during a massage. There were others and this guy was very passive compared to some others. He wasn't someone I had to worry about behaving himself. By contrast though, there was this other guy who was more persistent and forward about what he wanted, and each time he would ask, I'd just tell him that I had never done anything like that before and that I wasn't really comfortable with all that even though that might be something he was used to that I wasn't. I always had a way of putting that kind of thing to a halt in a quick but polite way.
But this guy, he didn't give up. He was a high-powered executive and on the extremely wealthy side of wealthy people. He too I told my girlfriend about and how he always tried to corrupt me by offering me more and more money if I'd just jerk him off during the massage. This too my girlfriend didn't seem to be bothered by one way or the other. He was pretty hung too but not as hung as
the quieter more laid back guy with 11 inches.
So, finally, one day the more aggressive guy makes me an offer of money to jack him off during his massage that actually has me considering it. It was a lot of money and, finally, I was like fuck it and though what the hell why not. So, I did it and for the first time in my life took another man's penis into my hand and jerked it off until it exploded. And he rewarded me for it very well and after it was all said and done, I was like that really wasn't so bad. It was a just a thing that I did and I got paid for it very well. I felt no sexual feelings at all but I do admit that it did give me a feeling of power especially making another man jump and jerk and spasm and blow his load. But for all practical purposes, it was just a business deal the a little power perk as an extra bonus.
Not being one to withhold anything from my girlfriend, I told her about it. Now, this time she seemed a little off put by the situation but not a lot. She didn't make a huge deal of it but did comment that it kind of bothered her that I was sexual with someone else regardless of being woman/male. But she didn't lecture me about it and soon let it go and never asked me not to do it in the future either. I hope this story is not boring you so far but here is the point where it really starts to get interesting. As I hope I have made clear, I don't hide things from my girlfriend because I love her.
So, at this point, she is very aware of my two "special needs" clients. And by the next time the guy with the 11 inch dick comes back for a visit, I'm reasoning that it's good business to surprise him and give him what he really wants. So, I did. And now, every month or so, I'm seeing at least one of these two guys a month and the girlfriend is totally aware of this.
Now comes the surprising part. Out of the blue and with no prompting from me, after one of my visits with one of the guys, she asks me if she can come along on the next visit and just sit in the room and WATCH. I was totally shocked that she brought up the subject in general and much more shocked (but in a very good way) that she wanted to watch me make another man cum by jacking him off in front of her. I was excited by the potential threesome situation that it could lead to, which is something we've talked about on occasion.
Even though I was taken by surprise by her asking if she could come watch, I didn't act surprised and I calmly told her that she certainly could and that the only thing I'd really have to do is to set that up would be to discuss it with one of the guys to see if they would be cool with that. That made sense to her and she didn't mention another thing about it. She just waited, never mentioned it again, and seemed not to have any real anticipation or excitement about it which I found odd in a confusing kind of way.
In the past, when I asked her what turns her on and sort of picked her mind about what kind of porn she likes, she was open to talking about that and did mention that she sometimes likes to watch male-on-male action but then always prefaced and/or proceeded to discount the fact that it turned her on by saying in effect that it turns her on but it really doesn't which, of course, is a complete contradiction. So, when it comes to her inner mind about what really turns her on, she always seems to vasilate back and forth saying one thing and then saying something opposite at the same time. So, I'm sitting there thinking what the heck? Does XYZ turn you on or not? Dang!
Of course, the "big day" comes (pun intended) and of the two guys it's the polite one with the 11 inches that wants to come in. So, I ask him about my girlfriend coming to sit in on his massage and he said he is cool with that. That was easy. So, later that same day, I ask her if she's free a few days from now at the time of his appointment and she says that she is. And once again, she knows what the deal is and the experience she's about to share with me but still acts indifferent almost...no anticipatory excitement...kinda boring to me and frustrating.
She did dress nicely and alluring for the massage and we had a bottle of wine in the lobby together before the big guy arrived. After he was settled into the massage room and waiting for us both to come back to the room, my girlfriend and I both began massaging him together. He was face down to begin with and I started working on his back and she started working on his legs and thighs at the same time. I'm certain that he was enjoying that as it was a four handed massage. After properly getting him relaxed, I asked him to turn over and, at this point, my girlfriend gets the first glimpse of this man's package. She didn't seem moved or excited just kind of neutral and we continued to gently massage this studly man.
When we were both massaging on the top of his thighs getting closer to his giant cock, I could tell she seemed a little bit excited and was teasing him by getting very close to his cock with her hand but never touching. As this continued for several minutes, I gently reached over and placed my hand gently onto her hand and slowly guided her hand onto his hardening shaft.
She eagerly scooped up his big cock like she was just waiting on me to give her the ok or something (not really sure) but together we both stroked his cock in unison and there was plenty of room for both our hands on that monster. When it was clear that he was about to blow, she finally did something that resembled showing that she was turned on. Typically, this guy would finish himself off right before he cums whenever I would see him alone, but she already was sensing he was about to cum, she moved his hand away and took over for him and pumped her hand along the head of his cock just like he needed it until he exploded in her hand covering her fingers with his cum.
After he finished blowing all of his load into the air and all over her hand, she played with and rubbed his cum between her fingers and even scooped up the cum that had landed on his abdomen and I could see the naughty pleasure that gave her as she looked at her fingers and the sticky cum stringing in between them. Later, she did mention that she thought he would have cum more because it was so big.
Let me just say, it was a great experience overall but she never really said one way or the other if it turned her on...she just said that it was a sensual experience to share together in a very matter of fact kind of way.
My frustration is that I can tell that somethings really do turn her on but she's weird about sharing it verbally or talking about it. If this story doesn't demonstrate that then I suppose I failed but hopefully someone can shed some light on my frustration and clue me in as to what the heck is going on in her head because knowing what really turns her on and having her express that freely and comfortably is important to me and important to me in a great sex life in general. How can you share an experience like the one I detailed above and not be able to talk about it in an open way? That makes no sense to me. Is this some kind of game, extreme weirdness on her part, or something else? I don't understand.
First of all, for 10 years was a massage therapist. Through my work and all those years of doing massage, I met literally thousands of people. Some people I met were shy and conservative and some didn't have a shy bone in their bodies. I would consider myself to be in the later category - not a shy bone in this body.
And like most people, among the things we discuss with our significant others is our work day and experiences. So, one day I had a particularly no-so-shy massage with a new client who was a fit and very well-endowed guy. I could tell it was going to be "one of those days" when he asked if he could just lay on the massage table with only a small towel covering him. I knew he was looking for the infamous happy-ending massage but I just wasn't in the mood and, as a straight man, it's not really my kinda thing.
However, when the towel slid down and fell off this guy revealing his enormous
endowment, I was every impressed. Honestly, I've seen some things in my life time but this man was huge. It hung straight down and literally reached the half way point of his thighs. That day, I just gave him a professional massage (even though I could tell from the way he was moving and shifting around on the table that he wanted more than that) and I have to admit that it was hard not to wonder how something like that actually works in a sexual situation (especially with a woman).
I told my girlfriend about how the day went and how amazed I was that a man could actually have a penis that damn big. I told her it was impressive to say the least. She didn't seem moved one way or the other and really didn't have anything to add or ask about it life went on as usual.
As time marched on, about every couple months or so, I would get a call from this well-endowed guy to setup subsequent massages. And on one such day, prior to him coming in for his massage, I had made mention to my girlfriend that tomorrow the guy with the enormous dick is coming in for a massage with me. And once again, she didn't seem anymore interested in talking about it than she would have having a discussion about belly button lint or the weather.
But, when the next day arrived, she text messages me that she wants to come by and is coming up to my massage studio. So, there I am massaging this incredibly well-endowed man and my hot ass girlfriend is on her way up there to see me. Naturally, being the imaginative and sexually adventurous person that I am and always have been, I'm trying to figure out how I can get her into the room for no other reason than just to see this damn dick this guy has on him and maybe see what might happen.
But, of course, since I'm not a total lunatic freak and would have no idea how this man would feel about any of that, I don't do anything crazy. At this point, I had seen this guy a few times, he seemed pretty laid back, was polite as anyone could be and although I knew he wanted me to do more than just massage him - I wasn't into that because I'm straight. I was though very
curious to know how big he really was in terms of inches because I was impressed.
So, while my girlfriend waited patiently in the lobby for me to finish up the massage, I mustered up the courage to tell this guy that his endowment was impressive and if he didn't mind me asking, "how big is that?" He just thanked me for the compliment but didn't comment right away about his size. I finished up the massage with him and then quietly excused myself from the room to see my girlfriend in the lobby. She was sitting there waiting and smiling her big bright beautiful smile as I came into the lobby to see her. We hugged and kissed and talked in the lobby for several minutes enjoying each other's company. After about 15 minutes went by, the guy hadn't emerged from the massage room. I told my girlfriend that I was going to go check on my client and see if everything was ok.
I went to back to the room and gently knocked on the door. I didn't know what may have happened because sometimes people would literally fall asleep after a massage and I'd have to wake them back up. He said come on in as I stood outside the door to the massage room. I slowly opened the door and to my surprise he was standing there near the end of the massage table and he was stroking his dick which was then fully hard, which I had never seen at this point. He said, "You wanted to know how big it is?" I said, "Yeah".
He said, "It's 11 inches." To be honest, I could have taken the situation as being kind of an odd and awkward, but hell, I was the one who opened my mouth and asked so there you go. We made some small talk and I asked him if women liked it and he said, "yes, they do." and at that point, with him still stroking his dick, I seized the opportunity to keep the situation under control and handed him a towel and told him he could wipe the oil off his body with it to freshen up and I'd see him in the lobby when he was dressed.
So, I went back to the lobby to where my girlfriend was waiting and met her warm smile once again. Being the naughty kinda guy I am, I think I was pretty excited at the notion that there is a huge fucking cock hard and ready to go just on the other side of the lobby and down the hall that I'd love to see her reaction to. Of course, I didn't do anything crazy but while he was still getting ready to come out, I told my girlfriend right there on the spot what had happened and what I found today that my client has an 11 inch penis and it was one of the biggest I've ever seen and I knew it had to be something crazy big like that. It was thick too. She just smiled and giggled and didn't make any comment of interest in what I told had happened but seemed amused at me for being excited about it.
A week or so later, I mentioned it again to my girlfriend and admitted to her
what naughty things were running through my mind and I asked her what she would have done had I come and got her from the lobby and walked her into the room with me to see this studly guy standing there with all that glory. She laughed it off and jokingly said she would have probably said something cute and politely left the room just like I did.
I should also point out that this guy wasn't the only guy who had wanted to get me to play with his dick during a massage. There were others and this guy was very passive compared to some others. He wasn't someone I had to worry about behaving himself. By contrast though, there was this other guy who was more persistent and forward about what he wanted, and each time he would ask, I'd just tell him that I had never done anything like that before and that I wasn't really comfortable with all that even though that might be something he was used to that I wasn't. I always had a way of putting that kind of thing to a halt in a quick but polite way.
But this guy, he didn't give up. He was a high-powered executive and on the extremely wealthy side of wealthy people. He too I told my girlfriend about and how he always tried to corrupt me by offering me more and more money if I'd just jerk him off during the massage. This too my girlfriend didn't seem to be bothered by one way or the other. He was pretty hung too but not as hung as
the quieter more laid back guy with 11 inches.
So, finally, one day the more aggressive guy makes me an offer of money to jack him off during his massage that actually has me considering it. It was a lot of money and, finally, I was like fuck it and though what the hell why not. So, I did it and for the first time in my life took another man's penis into my hand and jerked it off until it exploded. And he rewarded me for it very well and after it was all said and done, I was like that really wasn't so bad. It was a just a thing that I did and I got paid for it very well. I felt no sexual feelings at all but I do admit that it did give me a feeling of power especially making another man jump and jerk and spasm and blow his load. But for all practical purposes, it was just a business deal the a little power perk as an extra bonus.
Not being one to withhold anything from my girlfriend, I told her about it. Now, this time she seemed a little off put by the situation but not a lot. She didn't make a huge deal of it but did comment that it kind of bothered her that I was sexual with someone else regardless of being woman/male. But she didn't lecture me about it and soon let it go and never asked me not to do it in the future either. I hope this story is not boring you so far but here is the point where it really starts to get interesting. As I hope I have made clear, I don't hide things from my girlfriend because I love her.
So, at this point, she is very aware of my two "special needs" clients. And by the next time the guy with the 11 inch dick comes back for a visit, I'm reasoning that it's good business to surprise him and give him what he really wants. So, I did. And now, every month or so, I'm seeing at least one of these two guys a month and the girlfriend is totally aware of this.
Now comes the surprising part. Out of the blue and with no prompting from me, after one of my visits with one of the guys, she asks me if she can come along on the next visit and just sit in the room and WATCH. I was totally shocked that she brought up the subject in general and much more shocked (but in a very good way) that she wanted to watch me make another man cum by jacking him off in front of her. I was excited by the potential threesome situation that it could lead to, which is something we've talked about on occasion.
Even though I was taken by surprise by her asking if she could come watch, I didn't act surprised and I calmly told her that she certainly could and that the only thing I'd really have to do is to set that up would be to discuss it with one of the guys to see if they would be cool with that. That made sense to her and she didn't mention another thing about it. She just waited, never mentioned it again, and seemed not to have any real anticipation or excitement about it which I found odd in a confusing kind of way.
In the past, when I asked her what turns her on and sort of picked her mind about what kind of porn she likes, she was open to talking about that and did mention that she sometimes likes to watch male-on-male action but then always prefaced and/or proceeded to discount the fact that it turned her on by saying in effect that it turns her on but it really doesn't which, of course, is a complete contradiction. So, when it comes to her inner mind about what really turns her on, she always seems to vasilate back and forth saying one thing and then saying something opposite at the same time. So, I'm sitting there thinking what the heck? Does XYZ turn you on or not? Dang!
Of course, the "big day" comes (pun intended) and of the two guys it's the polite one with the 11 inches that wants to come in. So, I ask him about my girlfriend coming to sit in on his massage and he said he is cool with that. That was easy. So, later that same day, I ask her if she's free a few days from now at the time of his appointment and she says that she is. And once again, she knows what the deal is and the experience she's about to share with me but still acts indifferent almost...no anticipatory excitement...kinda boring to me and frustrating.
She did dress nicely and alluring for the massage and we had a bottle of wine in the lobby together before the big guy arrived. After he was settled into the massage room and waiting for us both to come back to the room, my girlfriend and I both began massaging him together. He was face down to begin with and I started working on his back and she started working on his legs and thighs at the same time. I'm certain that he was enjoying that as it was a four handed massage. After properly getting him relaxed, I asked him to turn over and, at this point, my girlfriend gets the first glimpse of this man's package. She didn't seem moved or excited just kind of neutral and we continued to gently massage this studly man.
When we were both massaging on the top of his thighs getting closer to his giant cock, I could tell she seemed a little bit excited and was teasing him by getting very close to his cock with her hand but never touching. As this continued for several minutes, I gently reached over and placed my hand gently onto her hand and slowly guided her hand onto his hardening shaft.
She eagerly scooped up his big cock like she was just waiting on me to give her the ok or something (not really sure) but together we both stroked his cock in unison and there was plenty of room for both our hands on that monster. When it was clear that he was about to blow, she finally did something that resembled showing that she was turned on. Typically, this guy would finish himself off right before he cums whenever I would see him alone, but she already was sensing he was about to cum, she moved his hand away and took over for him and pumped her hand along the head of his cock just like he needed it until he exploded in her hand covering her fingers with his cum.
After he finished blowing all of his load into the air and all over her hand, she played with and rubbed his cum between her fingers and even scooped up the cum that had landed on his abdomen and I could see the naughty pleasure that gave her as she looked at her fingers and the sticky cum stringing in between them. Later, she did mention that she thought he would have cum more because it was so big.
Let me just say, it was a great experience overall but she never really said one way or the other if it turned her on...she just said that it was a sensual experience to share together in a very matter of fact kind of way.
My frustration is that I can tell that somethings really do turn her on but she's weird about sharing it verbally or talking about it. If this story doesn't demonstrate that then I suppose I failed but hopefully someone can shed some light on my frustration and clue me in as to what the heck is going on in her head because knowing what really turns her on and having her express that freely and comfortably is important to me and important to me in a great sex life in general. How can you share an experience like the one I detailed above and not be able to talk about it in an open way? That makes no sense to me. Is this some kind of game, extreme weirdness on her part, or something else? I don't understand.
