Trying it before ACTU

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drgnma413: Hi all, my name is Jeff(im new here obviously) and like my odd title for this topic suggests I have a few problems/questions. There is a much longer story to this but lets just say that after a lot of time and a lot of thought I decided I wanted to explore the concept of bisexuality in my life. I realized that in the past I've experimented with a number of things that almost definately cross the border and when I look back I remember(despite never obtainig actual sexual pleasure) really enjoying myself IE: hard-ons I've never been able to achieve since.

Now to set things staight I'm a virgin at 19 :unsure: . I haven't even been in a relationship before. This is partially because my hobbies held very few women and even fewer within these hobbies that met my standards(believe me they are reasonable) So to sum that up I have far to little relationship experience for my age.

Ok, to get to the real point of this topic. I said I decided that I was interested in exploring that part of me, but as this the title says I want to find out if I have the slightest chance of enjoying it before I before I go for the real thing. Is there anything I can do to get a real experience out of it? I've already placed objects up my ass before but like I said all I ever got was a powerful but shortlived errection. What am I doing wrong here? I appreciate any and all help I received and hopefully I can return and tell all of you about any possitive experiences or even if truely take it to the next level


ok I accidentally hit enter when typing in the title of this post. It is really suppsoed to say Trying it before ACTUALLY trying it

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

Well, what you did to your ass might signal to you that you're not one to take a dick in there. Out of fairness, thought, you might want to relax and breathe deeply and soak in the sensation you get from stimulating your prostate instead of trying to poke and prod in there to get a feeling.

Fair warning, though. Bisexuality is a big deal. In fact, I think it's easily twice as more complicated as admitting you like men (gay) or women (straight) only. Truth is, before you start tinkering with bisexuality, you better be careful and considerate as hell before you start tacking on that label. Not to discount either sole-gender-object, but bisexuality is a serious issue; people, in my experience, aren't comfortable with the notion of liking BOTH sexes, so you might want to ponder long and hard on it.

In the meantime, if you happen to find yourself in a situation with a guy that you can "explore," take necessary precautions (i.e. condoms) and go for it, dude. You can't get a "real experience" until you have your share of dumb luck and experience of guy that you find attractive. Ain't no easy way to tell you how to bag a dude 101 style. Until Mr. Curious Enough comes along, you can always think of dudes you find attractive (whatever qualities they have) and implement them into a jerk-off fantasy of some sort.

 

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drgnma413: Ahh thank you for the info. Truth is I have lived a pretty sheltered life which despite my age has left me fairly ignorant to much of the world. I've never had any issues with my own or other peoples sexuality. Heck, my roomate is gay and he is the best roomate I've ever had not to mention a wonderful human being. Regardless of what my own experiments may come up with I am going to keep myself open to this. If I get that "golden opportunity" where mabey someone is in the same boat as me, I still believe I will take it(with precautions obviously). If I like it then I'll probably continue...if not then I just learned something about myself and I still gained something from it. I don't want to let the chance of something bad happening prevent me from what could end up being one of the best decisions in my life. I will be careful in exploring this. Especially when taking into consideration my friends and family. Though... more than anything I should be considering whomever I may be with shouldn't I? One thing that I have no doubt about is that in any relationship the other person involved should be considered most important. Well who knows what will happen. Hopefully I can return one day with possitive news

Jeff

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

Well you did say your roommate was gay...Did you ever think about maybe sharing some of your concerns w/him and get a perspective from him...Have you ever thought about you know experimenting w/your roommate...

 

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drgnma413: Hmmm... that is a possibility, but I think I came off wrong when we first met. He keeps it extremely toned down when he is around me. I only found out when I went and ate with him and a few of his friends. I mean when you talk about your preference in penis size that is kinda a dead give-away that you like men. There were other things too but that's another story. I'll try and spend more time with him and see what happens. Again thank you all for your help.

Jeff

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

Yeah...I once had a roommate that I had no idea that he was gay...Looking back on it - I really missed some obvious signs...He actually confessed it to me before my dumb ass got it...It was cool though - We are still good friends today...I think it was a real relief to him to let me know so he didn't have to try to make the normal male locker room talk and was able to express himself and talk to me about some of his relationships he was involved in...

 

[JohnnyFF]

Dragonman,
There

 

[JohnnyFF]

Dragonman
There is no rule book, or how to manual. RU attracted to guys, and girls? If you are then bisexuality seems to be your venue. I am sure the time will be right to try it with someone. I know how scary it seems, but you might find someone who is just as curious on the topic. I am asexual. I fuck myslef with my vibrator, and shoot lots of cum down my own throat. I actually used to workout whil ewatching porn, enigma, and my roommate walked in on me, and I got soft immediatley. Later on that night we were drinking, and he brought it up, and asked what it was like to fuck a dildo, and I told him it was like being plugged into an electric circuit. We ended up doing mutual materbation. To actually feel another mans hand on your cock is an amazing experience. To shoot huge loads of cum under someone elses control is also amazing. I now live alone, but he often calls to tell me of his vibrator exploits, and new ways to cum. My advice is not to worry if something doesn;t feel the way you thought it should. My guess is thta you were to quick to get into it. Start with a small vibrator, and work yoru way up. I am now using a 8x6 with a suction cup base so it is hands free to back into the cock without loosing a stroke.
Good luckl Johnny

 

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drgnma413: Hi all, my name is Jeff(im new here obviously) and like my odd title for this topic suggests I have a few problems/questions. There is a much longer story to this but lets just say that after a lot of time and a lot of thought I decided I wanted to explore the concept of bisexuality in my life. I realized that in the past I've experimented with a number of things that almost definately cross the border and when I look back I remember(despite never obtainig actual sexual pleasure) really enjoying myself IE: hard-ons I've never been able to achieve since.

Now to set things staight I'm a virgin at 19 :unsure: . I haven't even been in a relationship before. This is partially because my hobbies held very few women and even fewer within these hobbies that met my standards(believe me they are reasonable) So to sum that up I have far to little relationship experience for my age.

Ok, to get to the real point of this topic. I said I decided that I was interested in exploring that part of me, but as this the title says I want to find out if I have the slightest chance of enjoying it before I before I go for the real thing. Is there anything I can do to get a real experience out of it? I've already placed objects up my ass before but like I said all I ever got was a powerful but shortlived errection. What am I doing wrong here? I appreciate any and all help I received and hopefully I can return and tell all of you about any possitive experiences or even if truely take it to the next level


ok I accidentally hit enter when typing in the title of this post. It is really suppsoed to say Trying it before ACTUALLY trying it

As a gay guy:

If your roommate is gay, and you have a decent rapport with him, sit down with him and have a frank discussion with him about your "interests". Be prepared that he might think you are wanting to do it with HIM, and unless you want to do so, make it clear up front. Also, if he's a big ol gossip, probably want to nix this idea.

If you find a gay guy you can trust, he can probably help you meet one of his friends or acquaintances that you might like. You can then explore.

Example: I have 5 gay cousins. I am next to youngest. The next oldest, with whom I am close, helped me a lot when I figured out that I was gay.

I told him I wanted to experiment with being penetrated. He had a friend, a very nice, easygoing guy, and he told his friend all about me: religious background, difficulty coming out, inexperience, curiosity, need for gentleness. He made the arrangements and the guy and I met for drinks, dinner (casual), then went to his place. We were both prepped ahead of time on what was going on and what the deal was, and got down to business. He was very kind, gentle, and understanding (and it felt wonderful!).

In the alternative, you could explore getting an aneros

I'm trying one out and, while I've not had a "super-o" yet, it definitely feels good.

Good luck!