My brother dated this lovely girl for close to five years. She has two kids from another relationship. She was really good for him, but guess their relationship didn't last long...Anyway, she left him for a woman. I suspect there's more to this story... things that his ex isn't telling me or things that my brother isn't telling me. Maybe his ex left him because she decided she liked women more than men. Or maybe my brother got mixed up with the wrong people and wrong stuff and she got tired of it and left him. I suspect that my brother has become lost with himself, because he was part of two, and now he is one and simply doesn't know what to do with himself. I presume that when a woman leaves a man for another woman, that his male ego is bruised, and he starts to question about whether he measures up as a man. But seriously, is a woman leaving a man for another woman, that bad that some men resort to extreme self destructive behavior? If a woman leaves a man for another woman, is it that bad that a 30 year old man, such as my brother goes in such a great downward spiral of not having his own place, couch surfing, unsafe sex, excessive drinking and drug use, particularly weed and coke?