Trying to lose my virginity. Any tips?
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It depends on what you want. Do you have specific ideas about what you want to try? Is there anything in particular that’s making you nervous?
Everything about the whole sex thing. If i need to bottom, or need to suck, what should i do? If I am on top, what should i prepare? As I'm autistic (seriously), what are some cues that I should take if I'm cruising, sexting, or just out and about? What should I watch out for? I know porn isn't really reality, so I know that I should try to figure out this thing from people that have actually done it. I wish that someone made like a basics video for first timers like me
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I can’t speak to the autistic side of it, but my main call-out is that you don’t “need” to do anything. What matters is what you want. (Of course the other person matters too, but the trick is to find someone who wants the same things you do. And it’s perfectly ok to ask people in advance what they’re into.)
Bottoming is the main thing that takes preparation. You‘ll need to buy lube, and you may want to try different kinds to see what you like (and I personally like water-based lube, since it makes the least mess). I recommend eating a high-fiber diet for at least a day beforehand, take a shit about an hour beforehand, and take a shower using plenty of soap. Some people like to use an enema, but I personally don’t think it’s necessary. As long as your ass is clean, that’s what matters.
Blowjobs don’t take any preparation at all. Just make sure you don’t let your teeth touch his dick: only use your tongue and your lips.
Topping doesn’t take any major preparation either, except that I’d advise using a condom. As a virgin, you’ve probably never been exposed to STI’s, but it’s still better to be safe than sorry. Plus, it’s a good habit to have once you start having more sex. (Some guys use PrEP instead of condoms, but I wouldn’t recommend it when you’re starting out.)
Overall though, just let your instincts take over! Your body will probably know what to do. And the sex will get better as you gain more experience.
Bottoming is the main thing that takes preparation. You‘ll need to buy lube, and you may want to try different kinds to see what you like (and I personally like water-based lube, since it makes the least mess). I recommend eating a high-fiber diet for at least a day beforehand, take a shit about an hour beforehand, and take a shower using plenty of soap. Some people like to use an enema, but I personally don’t think it’s necessary. As long as your ass is clean, that’s what matters.
Blowjobs don’t take any preparation at all. Just make sure you don’t let your teeth touch his dick: only use your tongue and your lips.
Topping doesn’t take any major preparation either, except that I’d advise using a condom. As a virgin, you’ve probably never been exposed to STI’s, but it’s still better to be safe than sorry. Plus, it’s a good habit to have once you start having more sex. (Some guys use PrEP instead of condoms, but I wouldn’t recommend it when you’re starting out.)
Overall though, just let your instincts take over! Your body will probably know what to do. And the sex will get better as you gain more experience.
Your most important needs are honesty and frankness. Be clear with potential partners that it’s your first time and wait until you find someone patient and willing to help you explore mansex.
Thank you for this. I was about to make a thread. I was wondering about douching. Is it necessary? I hear many different things and how much of a pain it is to prep to bottom. Is it true that anal can’t really happen just randomly without prep like it happens in porn? Lol
Also I heard from a straight friend that he would have his gf not poop for at least a day before anal so that it would be clean. I’m confused now lol
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@lmao1172 you and me both buddy! Since I’m on your same boat, I have no tips for you other than to be safe and have safe sex. I wish us both luck and I hope we get to lose our v cards soon!
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I’m all for spontaneous sex! As long as you take care of yourself, you should be fine, as long as you have lube ready to go, and ideally some condoms. (It only takes a few seconds to apply lube and condoms, so you don’t necessarily need to stress over that part.)
Eating fiber is the key, because that’s what keeps you regular— which in turn keeps your ass clean. It takes about a day for food to make its way through your system, which is why I recommend eating fiber for about a day before bottoming. (Ideally you should be eating well as a matter of course, but that’s a whole other issue.)
Douching is basically the same thing as an enema. As I said before, I don’t think it’s necessary, as long as you’re eating that fiber. I do know people who do it anyway, since it makes them feel more confident; so if that’s how you feel about it, by all means go for it. Just be aware that it can be time-consuming, and you’ll likely be fine without it.
I disagree with your friend on one point. You DO want to take a shit beforehand, because that’s how you clear out your ass! If you haven’t taken a dump in a whole day— as he suggested— then there’s a good chance you’ll have shit in your colon, in which case you may make a mess. If you take a dump about an hour beforehand, that’ll give you plenty of time to clean up (i.e., take a shower, ventilate the bathroom, etc) and feel sexy when the time comes.
I’m not gonna lie, your first time may be nerve wracking, but it’s not usually because of your preparation (or lack thereof). It’s just because you’re trying something new, and it you might’ve fantasized about it for a long time.
Just remember: each and every experienced guy has been in your shoes. As long as you’re with someone who’s cool and treats you right, that’s what matters. Beyond that, just try to relax and have a good time, and enjoy losing that v card!
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