Trying to talk partner into Onlyfans

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Im trying to talk my partner into doing an only-fans page.
He is a fitness model and trainer. I am used to people coming on to him daily and admiring his body. It does not bother me at all, and I find it flattering.
He is literally hung like a horse ( lucky me ) lol

He is surprised though that I am encouraging him to do it and can't understand why I am not jealous.

Would you allow your partner to do such a thing? Has your partner done it and how did it affect you and your relationship?

Appreciate your thoughts before taking the plunge so to speak lol caister1.jpg




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If he doesnt want to do it let him be. Its not for everybody i tell you that right now.
I never said he did not want to do it. I would not force anyone to do something they did not want..

He was just surprised that I was the one who suggested it and was a little confused that I was not jealous or insecure by it.

I was just asking fellow forum members if their partners had done it and if it had an effect on their relationship.

Thats all.

It's his body, not mine and his to do as he chooses. Not mine
 
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Its a different animal showing yourself fully nude. I lost a relationship stroking my self on cam. The money can be good i will tell you that. Easy 100 extra bucks a day within a few weeks of gaining followers. Its like everyone what everyone says once you put yourself on the internet you are there forever, and all the nude platforms have record of your ID.
 
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Its a different animal showing yourself fully nude. I lost a relationship stroking my self on cam. The money can be good i will tell you that. Easy 100 extra bucks a day within a few weeks of gaining followers. Its like everyone what everyone says once you put yourself on the internet you are there forever, and all the nude platforms have record of your ID.
I hear you.....
It's a big decision for him, that only he can make.

I just suggested it to him, because, well, he is a big guy and he can't hide it, it always gets him a lot of attention, especially when he is working out, so why not make money from it, that's my attitude lol.

I am not the jealous type at all, I am secure in myself and our relationship, even though I am much older than him.....

He was just deeply shocked I think that I suggested it and that I would be ok with it, but he worries that if he actually does this, when reality bites, I won't handle it, and it would affect our relationship. But that really is not the case at all.......

He has lots of Gym clients, who I know only book him as he has a huge dick and they are only there too see him flopping around.....Might as well make some extra money on the side in my opinion lol
 
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He will be able to make tons of money
Thats what I tell him.
Every morning I get the pleasure of seeing him doing stomach training and squats totally naked and with his huge cock flopping about, it would be a travesty not to share that with others I keep telling him lol.
And he might boost his gym clients in the process lol
 

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There's something about monetizing sex that tends to tank relationships. My wife has jokingly suggested an OF with feet pics, I told her so much as a somewhat sensual ASMR and she can expect a divorce soon after.
Perhaps gay guys can handle this better, as the sexual dynamic isn't as rooted in child rearing and exclusivity, but I think the inevitable competition anxiety that will arise when men "better" than you start propositions won't really serve you as well as it would a woman, unless you have some cuck/voyeuristic tendencies.
 
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There's something about monetizing sex that tends to tank relationships. My wife has jokingly suggested an OF with feet pics, I told her so much as a somewhat sensual ASMR and she can expect a divorce soon after.
Perhaps gay guys can handle this better, as the sexual dynamic isn't as rooted in child rearing and exclusivity, but I think the inevitable competition anxiety that will arise when men "better" than you start propositions won't really serve you as well as it would a woman, unless you have some cuck/voyeuristic tendencies.
appreciate your thoughts Sag.

I am really not insecure about myself or other guys though....
I am 100 % sure of our relationship...
There is a 20 year age gap between myself and my other half, He has good-looking guys his own age throwing themselves at him. even in front of me sometimes lol i know he would never be unfaithful to me.

Coming from different countries, we both went through really hard times trying to be together what with immigration difficulties, we have both been through so much on such a journey, there is no reasons to be insecure.
He is the one with more worries about doing this, not me....Personally, I think he should embrace it
 

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. even in front of me sometimes lol i know he would never be unfaithful to me.
"He" is who he is now. Sex work tends to incept a Pavlovian trigger that alters the mind state of those that get into it, once he starts associating financial compensation for sexual display, he may start disassociating basic sexual and romantic intimacy from his process, leaving you on the outs.
Its a lucrative venture, and good on you for having an open attitude about it, but if it were to be a thing to get into, I think you would be served much better by simply being supportive of a decision he makes for himself.
 

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"He" is who he is now. Sex work tends to incept a Pavlovian trigger that alters the mind state of those that get into it, once he starts associating financial compensation for sexual display, he may start disassociating basic sexual and romantic intimacy from his process, leaving you on the outs.
Its a lucrative venture, and good on you for having an open attitude about it, but if it were to be a thing to get into, I think you would be served much better by simply being supportive of a decision he makes for himself.
Again. thank you for your comments and I am hearing what you are saying.

I am very supportive of what he decides to do, the decision is his after all.

I know the person that he is and so have no fears about that, and whatever he choses to do, will only be online and it will be me at the other end of the camera anyway, if that is what he choses to do
 

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Ahaha you probably watch too many gay couples who have an onlyfans and fuck literally everyone and you crave to do the same.

If he doesn’t want to do it or doesn’t think about it (as I’m sure he knows what an of is, so if he wanted to do it he could have thought himself)
what a shitty person would say that to his partner?!

“baby everyone stares at you since you’re hot and I’m not really, so why don’t you fuck people so then I can join??” LOL
 

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"He" is who he is now. Sex work tends to incept a Pavlovian trigger that alters the mind state of those that get into it, once he starts associating financial compensation for sexual display, he may start disassociating basic sexual and romantic intimacy from his process, leaving you on the outs.
Its a lucrative venture, and good on you for having an open attitude about it, but if it were to be a thing to get into, I think you would be served much better by simply being supportive of a decision he makes for himself.
EXACTLY
“I know he would never be unfaithful to me” said literally everyone who has been cheated on.
Everybody thinks they 100% know their partners until they don’t, and then
“I’d never thought he would do that”
Victims of their own biases
 

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Ahaha you probably watch too many gay couples who have an onlyfans and fuck literally everyone and you crave to do the same.

If he doesn’t want to do it or doesn’t think about it (as I’m sure he knows what an of is, so if he wanted to do it he could have thought himself)
what a shitty person would say that to his partner?!

“baby everyone stares at you since you’re hot and I’m not really, so why don’t you fuck people so then I can join??” LOL
Who said anything about him fucking people lol. did I mention that in my post??? No.
He is a sports and fitness model and getting into underwear modelling.
He is a fitness instructor and i am used to people admiring him all the time and it does not bother me one bit.
We are in a totally committed and monogamous relationship, I have no insecurities at all.
We have ridiculous student fees that we have to pay, and so I suggested that if he wanted to do it, I would not have issues with it.

My thread was merely asking other forum members about their experience of a partner doing an OF and if it affected them, as I do not see it as a problem, but my partner worries about..

There would be no sex involved with others lol
 

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EXACTLY
“I know he would never be unfaithful to me” said literally everyone who has been cheated on.
Everybody thinks they 100% know their partners until they don’t, and then
“I’d never thought he would do that”
Victims of their own biases
Actually, I know from experience he would not.
I think I know my partner better than you lol.
We have been through hell to actually finally be able to live together in the same country, neither of us would throw that away.
There were plenty of times in WA when I do not speak the language and someone would hit on my partner, I would not have a clue at what was being said and would have been ignorant, only for my partner to then get extremely offended and tell the person off for being disrespectful and trying to hit on him in front of me...He would then explain to me in English what just transpired.

I know I can trust him and vice versa...And at the end of the day, if a partner decides to cheat, its not going to be because of a website, its because there is something wrong with the relationship