Trying to understand sex

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    curious66: Okay, here goes. I don't understand my own, and man's (by man, I mean humans), obsession with sex. I mean, once I cum, I'm kind of relieved and have often wished the feeling would just go away. I think about sex so damned much, it's gotten quite annoying. Every woman I look at I imagine her blowing me or doing anal. And I don't understand WHY I keep having these thougths. I'd rather read a book, listen to music, learn a computer language and just not have to deal with sex. Yes, I know this sounds crazy, but I think about it. I taught for a while at a tech school and just about every girl wore thong underwear with pants that showed them off completely, low cut shirts, and the now standard tattoo on her lower back. Practically none of them cared about why they were in school and they certainly made it "hard on" the guys to concentrate. Hell, one class, it was the girl that was downloading porn and showing it to the guys around her. Point is, this country's future, if not the world, is in big trouble if we don't do something right away. Sex is bringing us down to some degree. It seems the young people today are too narcissistic. Even though I think about sex all the time, I am not acting on it. The young people today are acting on it. I'm blabbering here, but damn, sex has taken over.
     
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    ORCABOMBER: Hey Curious, just thinking that one through, I think that we're all programmed to some degree when it comes to sexuality, but most of us are fortunate to be free to express it (I mean, being happy with being gay, bi, straight, whatever).

    There's a good book called "The Red Queen", by Matt Ridley which does a pretty good show of explaining sexuality in general.

    From my personal experience. I have constant battle with my sexuality. Mainly because I get the vague feeling that I'm "a fertile reasonably hung love stud bomb" but expressing that is probably the awkward bit, but I'm 21 and not in a hurry.

    I think also from my J/O experiences, that I tend to be relieved when it's all over as well, it's kinda weird how we're programmed huh? I do emphasise the programming, mainly because it's as human to us as as it is to show fear, love, those kind of emotions.

    As for the "yoof" of tomorrow. I think the problem is, there is sex, there is knowing about it, there is acting on your feelings, and there is, as you said "bringing people down". I wonder really, if those girls really know what reactions they are TRUELY giving. What age are they? Because I know for a fact, that in an ideal world, you can dress as you want, but I am shocked how many women I know would not walk down the roads I often am confident to travel, because they are female, let alone looking "tarty" in places where men prey on women like that.

    So personally, it's their funeral. Evil I know, but there's nothing you, or I can do about that.

    As for guys, well, I don't think that there's ever been too much of a change really, I mean, bragging and stuff (and getting laid young) is almost universal, but I don't want to say there are no changes, just I don't seem to notice them as they are not as blatent as "my sweet daughter now dresses as Britney Spears!"

    Okay, final thought. About bringing down society, I have mixed thoughts. Sex in the right place can be a wonderful thing which can spice up art and literature and human understanding to a great degree, as well as tolerance of the sexes etc, but at the same time, it's so shoved in your face, that I often wonder when are they going to release sex toys for 10 year old girls or start marketing child toys in really "adult" ways.

    Hey, if you or someone else disagrees, I'd really like to hear your opinion. Because that's a good post made.
     
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    AnonyMs: You did not state in which country you reside which may have a lot to do with your viewpoint. I am assuming you are in a "western" country, most probably the US.

    Most of the world is dealing with survival issues far more than expression of their sexuality. In the US, the major health issues we deal with are all lifestyle related and could - for the most part - be avoided with proper diet and exercise. In the vast majority of the world's population, the health issues are related to illnesses we (those who live in the US) can not imagine being worried about - tuberculosis and things like that.

    You might want to do some reading on the rise and fall of the Roman Empire. The US obessession with sex is not the first time a world power has fallen under the weight of its lust. Somehow, though, the world managed to survive. :-/

    The issue is far too complex to adequately deal with such a short post, so I am sure I have stirred the pot and there will be others who disagree and still others who agree.
     
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    Tender: well i agree very much with curious.

    it seems women in general are all up to gripe about how they are used as sex objects... but they seem to think it is fine to portray themselves in that way... and then say 'dont touch'.
    if women do not want negative sexual attention, they need to cover their rears and their boobs in public.
    i dont think women in general have the faintest idea what that does to a man...
    blah blah enough babblying from me lol

    Tender
     
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    longtimelurker: [quote author=Tender link=board=meetgreet;num=1066888115;start=0#3 date=10/23/03 at 11:45:36], they need to cover their rears and their boobs in public.
    i dont think women in general have the faintest idea what that does to a man...
    blah blah  enough babblying from me lol

    Tender
    [/quote]

    Quite suprised to hear that coming from a woman...

    Well, I suppose this kinda throws it around to our hide it/flaunt it dilemma - should we try to conceal ourselves as much as possible to prevent crotch-grabs, stares and comments as we are 'provoking it' otherwise???

    I should say though, that I am 100% for the right for women not to have to go around dressed like their frumpy old grandmas!
     
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    Tender: OH NO !
    i certainly didnt mean that women should have to wear baggy clothes covering their ankles.... sheesh.
    but really these women who wear very short skirts to work and blouses you can see through and bras that are thin enough her nipples can be seen....
    or these girls in college wearing hip huggers? gee if they 'hugged' any less theyd fall off!
    their breasts are half hanging out of their teeeeny stretch shirts and such...
    then they want to know why they get harassed, groped, and used... ::)
    well they are in a way advertising something they arent wanting to offer....?
    ive never understood that. ???
    a woman can dress nice, look pretty ect without looking like she works a corner on saturday nights...
    its nasty, its tacky, and it opens the door for trouble... also is very unprofessional in the work place. can make men uncomfortable and such.
    wear skimpies at home!

    Tender
     
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    bblumbee: Sex is a huge topic in our society and is ever increasing in its popularity. However, I must also caution that in our society we deem what is and what is not sexy. And, for women, men clearly articulate what is sexy...

    That being said, I am comfortable in my dress and actions. I don't feel that I go alone provoking or otherwise 'advertising' for advancements or anything of the like. However, I will confess that I do enjoy the occassional double or triple looks and do enjoy hearing men say that I am sexy. It is an ego boost, as I myself do not find that I have that "sex appeal." Rather, I feel I am just a normal girl... nothing special or indifferent.

    As far as the clothing deal... that can be a touchy subject for many. I do agree that we should not be walking around showcasing goods, however, in the same breathe, I must say that many clothes in this country promote that. I do not want to dress like I am in my 60's or something... Hence, I do wear clothing that conforms to my shape and maybe shows a little more skin than it should.

    Most of my wardrobe consist of business suits because of my profession. And, those suits are mostly skirts. I like skirts above the knee and seldom wear a blouse, as my jackets usually are made so I won't have to.

    I suppose all my blabbering goes back to maybe we need to refocus our energy on what we make or say is sexy. For guys, I think the same things go for you... Nothing better than to see a guy in a tight pair of jeans, fitted shirt (or no shirt) walking around... The issue falls both ways and both sexes has to take responsibilty for it - not just women who wear what some would deem as slutty clothes...
     
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    [quote author=longtimelurker link=board=meetgreet;num=1066888115;start=0#4 date=10/23/03 at 12:03:14]I should say though, that I am 100% for the right for women not to have to go around dressed like their frumpy old grandmas![/quote]

    Well, yes, BUT ... at the other extreme are the women who strap themselves into a bustier, propping their breasts up under their chins like two Jell-O molds on a shelf, and say, "I hate it when men stare at my tits." It's possible to eschew frumpy clothes without dressig like an animé sex kitten. I see it all the time; women who dress to attract the kind of attention they claim to dislike. However, I'm not saying that men won't look regardless of the type of dress a woman is wearing; men are dogs.
     
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    Tender: woah?
    what was that about men being dogs?

    well yes they will look no matter what, if they cant see it they will likey imagine it lol
    but women sure dont need to dress like that on purpose.
    and i ditto the dress for attention and then claim they dont want it. well then--where something less--provacative.

    Tender
     
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    da_blissmachine: [quote author=AnonyMs link=board=meetgreet;num=1066888115;start=0#2 date=10/23/03 at 04:22:07]In the vast majority of the world's population, the health issues are related to illnesses we (those who live in the US) can not imagine being worried about - tuberculosis and things like that. .[/quote]

    Indeed, the 7th largest killer annually is diarrhea... thousands die each year of sinus infections... 30,000 children age 14 and under starve to death each day... any given night 1/3 of the world's ppl go to bed not having eaten a single bite that day... there are more lepers alive today than lived between 1200 and 1500..... as many persons have lived in slavery over the last 15 years as in the last 300 before that (7 million new slaves sold each year)..... there are over 45,000 child prostitutes in the US alone, largely in the border regions or immigrant communities.... while you read this post 2 Indian or Pakistani women sold a kidney for about $500 US... more people CONTRACT HIV each year in Africa and South Asia than have it at all in North America and Westrn Europe combined.... because of standard of living and copywrite laws (which piss me off :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad: ) , while a US patient may have to lease a car rather than own one for to afford treatment, an African may have to sell her house, children, and hair.... one in 7 diamands cost a person a limb... i could go on... sorry for my ranting abt the ploight of the 3rd world at the benefit of the 1st but the 1st cant be reminded of it enough.
     
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    AnonyMs: [quote author=da_blissmachine link=board=meetgreet;num=1066888115;start=0#9 date=10/31/03 at 03:54:30]sorry for my ranting abt the plight of the 3rd world at the benefit of the 1st but the 1st cant be reminded of it enough.[/quote]I agree with you, da_bliss... we need to be made more aware of it and examine ourselves to see how our personal choices contribute to the problem or how it alleviates it.
     
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    prepstudinsc: [quote author=AnonyMs link=board=meetgreet;num=1066888115;start=0#10 date=10/31/03 at 04:55:48]
    I agree with you, da_bliss... we need to be made more aware of it and examine ourselves to see how our personal choices contribute to the problem or how it alleviates it.
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    Amen, amen, and amen!
     
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    Tender: Bliss,
    it IS a sad sad sad plight.
    :'(
    i have some pics of the orphanage my girls were at if anyone is interested, PM me.
    they were well taken care of actually.

    the women come in the middle of the night, leave their baby in a "phone booth" looking stall, and ring a bell...

    there were 150 babies in this orphanage.
    at 15 months, my small one, had had nothing to eat, except watered down formula and they said some rice, but i dont think so.
    she was pretty lanky.
    they keep all their heads shaved, for lice...

    all of it all is just so sad...
    all you wrote Bliss, is so true, and we cannot even grasp the depth of it.
    we take so much for granted, it is not even fathomable...

    Our agency sends us newsletters from time to time, there are little ones who need surgery, ect, deformed, but it is so expensive....
    and yet, we can "afford" houses with 3 or 4 bathrooms, brand new cars we dont really need, and heck, even a 'house' for our car.
    how many dresses CAN you wear?
    ya know?

    Tender
     
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    da_blissmachine: Unfortunately most IndoAmericans do not have the same concern for Mother India and the plight of those stil there as I do.... 1st generation just wanted to get out... 2nd generation wants to forget they are Indian... and not much 3rd geneartion out there.

    If I had enough money to have 3 square meals a day myself I would do so much... I have adopted a Mexican child as well thorugh the Christian Children's Fund.... my only concern is that such charities may turn out to be hoaxes that keep most of the donations to themselves
     
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    prepstudinsc: What generation are you, Bliss? Are you second generation or first generation?

    As to the children's charities, there are a lot of good ones out there, you might need to weed through some of them to find one that is really good. You might want to contact Samaritan's Purse and get their recommendation for some charities. It's run by Billy Graham's son, Franklin, so you know it's going to be an honest group.
     
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    da_blissmachine: I'm 3rd generation... there are not very many out there but there is starting to emerge a 3rd genearation Asian American community... .its views are really quite different from the 1st and 2nd.
     
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    ish789: ok coming from a teenager u might think this is weird but still. Why? I mean why do girls (not all) just flaunt it even when they dont have anything to flaunt. If you ask me the girls who dont dress that arent the ones that probably will work the corners, get raped, work for pimps or women enslavers. Then again some of em only do it to get even with their parents who are 45 yr olds who still think wearing stuff from the 50s/60s/70s is in.
     
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    jerkin4-10: well i have a biblical explanation for you...in previous threads about religion i have learned...that BASICALLY[the qualifier] all religions use the Old Testament for the base of their beliefs...so, if we basically all go by the same basic belief...i find the 1st thing that God says to man critical in what your question is...depending on what version you read the verbage might be a little different...but here goes...'be fruitful and increase in number, fill the earth and subdue it'...NIV...so God has put within us a strong urge to be fruitful and increase in number...how do you increase in number?...have sex...speaking in terms of heterosexual monogamy here...so...the urge to have sex...is a strong one....built into you by your Creator...nothing to be ashamed of...or confused by... :)
     
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    I think we have different sex drives. I happen to have a strong sex drive compared to some of my male friends. I know this is also true of girls. Sometimes my sex drive drives me a little crazy, but I try my best to just enjoy it however it comes down.

    The USA is still a puritan culture. We think sex is bad. I think this has to do with "the desert religions", which have very strict prohibitions on sexuality. At this point in my life, I'm trying hard to free myself from all the restrictions my family and church placed on me in the past. At some point I'll most likely find a spirituality that is positive about sexual expression. At least that's my hope. I'm young now and still checking things out.
     
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    prepstudinsc: [quote author=black10inches link=board=meetgreet;num=1066888115;start=0#18 date=11/02/03 at 00:03:37]I think we have different sex drives. I happen to have a strong sex drive compared to some of my male friends. I know this is also true of girls. Sometimes my sex drive drives me a little crazy, but I try my best to just enjoy it however it comes down.

    The USA is still a puritan culture. We think sex is bad. I think this has to do with "the desert religions", which have very strict prohibitions on sexuality. At this point in my life, I'm trying hard to free myself from all the restrictions my family and church placed on me in the past. At some point I'll most likely find a spirituality that is positive about sexual expression. At least that's my hope. I'm young now and still checking things out.[/quote]

    There's nothing wrong with trying to figure things out, but there's a reason that the Judeo-Christian religions have some rules and regulations about sex. If one is free with their "lovin' " someone is bound to get hurt.
    By hurt, I mean it in several ways--emotionally and physically. These days we just can't be too careful--there's too much out there that can be picked up.
    If you're gonna play, play carefully.
     
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