Turning down sex.

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I'm not sure I've ever turned down sex when I knew it was being offered. I'm sure I've turned it down when I was just too oblivious to know what she might have been trying to say.

Sometimes I'm genuinely not in the mood for whatever reason, maybe I'm not feeling well, maybe I'm angry, maybe I just don't want to put in the effort. I can imagine several scenarios in which I would turn it down, but I've never actually been in one of those scenarios.
 
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When I don't find the person attractive or when there is no chemistry, but anything can be a motive to turn down sex depending on the situation.

I already turned down sex because I had to finish a work for my last engineering class in the university. I got to the conclusion that a pussy was not worthy another semester in the university... I was working as translator in a seminar with people all over the world. I went to dance with some people I met in this seminar and, basically, the girl invited me to go upstairs with her, but I said "I can't... I gave to study".

I guess that when men are teenagers, anything results in an erection and we would do anything to relieve it hehehe But we actually get some control - not full control - over our penis with experience.
 

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I mean, I'm married so I've refused a few propositions from others. I don't cheat.

I think I've only refused her once, that I can recall. We had been going through a dry spell, she'd been refusing me plenty. Finally, I jacked off and blew a big load...then came to bed and she actually wanted it. I made some lame excuse. Not my finest hour.
 

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When do you do this? What circumstances are present when sex is offered, and you aren't interested?

Be as detailed as you'd like. I'm just bored and curious/like to read.

I've been together with the same person for over 15 years. I've turned down sex less than a dozen times.

The majority of the time its been because I've just been too tire because of work. I work 10 hour days, 6 days a week. Physical labor. Our love life is nothing to boast about. 90 percent of my sexual advancement result in a "not tonight" response. Only a couple of time I've said no because I wanted her to feel the same way I felt being rejected. My plan didn't exactly work.

Everytime I would get rejected, I would take it personally. She would not take it personal when I would say no. She would just think I didn't want to have sex. It took me 14 years to realize that I should not take it personally and understand that she doesn't have as high of a sex drive as I do.

Now that I'm older, it seems like my sex drive has plummeted. I rarely feel the need to have sex and rarely initiate sex. The way I see it is if wants to have sex, she can initiate it.
 

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i have turned down many women in my life who have offered to have sex with me. life is too short and i only have one body so there is no way i'm going to just jump in bed with a woman just because she's hot and willing. growing up i was terrified of getting a girl pregnant and ruining my life so i abstained from sex with girls a lot and only fucked on rare occasions only. once i learned about STDs, that made it even worse as now more shit could ruin my life... so i was even more selective about who i fucked.

granted i've slept with a lot of women but every women that i've been inside of was someone that i either trusted, at least a good friend, and/or someone else trusted her and vouched for. as much as i love fucking women, there's no way i'm sticking my dick in any random pussy. it's bad enough that psycho-ladies exist but catching something or getting her pregnant is no joke.

as of today, i just fuck my wife. she's more than i can handle as she's a total nymphomaniac and i've never turned her down. i remember one time i was half drunk and tired but she wanted to go. she did her magic and i got hard but i was so tired and buzzed that i just told her to ride the cock and just go for it; needless to say, she did while i kinda just tagged along for the ride, she came, got off me, and we both were out sleeping very shortly thereafter. totally got used that night and totally cool with it, hehe.
 
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I'll keep out turning down girlfriends while in a relationships, because that's not turning down, it's just postponing if you're not in the mood.
I've turned down sex so many times. Mostly I've turned down guys, since I don't find guys attractive. I've lost count of those. But I've also turned down girls. One thing that pisses me off is this cultural thing that if women like to fuck they're "sluts" but men, they're required to fuck any girl that wants to. The two things are two sides of the same stupid thing. So I've been in situations where the female arrogance was so obvious (yes, there's lot of female arrogance as well), that I just turned them down. I have nothing to prove, if I don't feel like fucking a stranger I won't. In other cases, it just didn't felt safe or sane.
 
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There are days sure, sometimes I'm just not my regular horny self. I rather be fully into it rather than half ass it. My girlfriend can be the same, sometimes I'm the horny one and at that particular time she's just not feeling it. Happens.
 
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When do you do this? What circumstances are present when sex is offered, and you aren't interested?

Be as detailed as you'd like. I'm just bored and curious/like to read.
Usually when I am stressed! That usually happens after work. After a stressful day at work then an hour and a half drive I am more than likely to turn down sex.
 
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She has to be physically attractive to me. She has to be between 5'-4"and 5'-8", thin legs, large boobs are preferable. She has to have an oval face, deep set eyes, an aqua line nose and full lips. She can be a little overweight if she has very large boobs. Other than that I'm not very picky.
 

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She has to be physically attractive to me. She has to be between 5'-4"and 5'-8", thin legs, large boobs are preferable. She has to have an oval face, deep set eyes, an aqua line nose and full lips. She can be a little overweight if she has very large boobs. Other than that I'm not very picky.

Oh really lol