Twink or Daddy what age defines this?

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  1. AlextheRedhead

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    What age do you think? I hear some guys who are 29 refered to as a twink and men who are 65 as a daddy, I think its more like this. Whats your age for twinks and daddy's.

    Twink 18 to 20 years old

    Daddy 45 to 50 years old

    :rolleyes:
     
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    Twink from legal (18 around here) to 25, with a spread upward to about 30 if they have a younger face.

    Daddy from 40 up to at least 60, some get an extra few years if they have a less wrinkled and aged face and some lose Daddy stats by around 50.

    Super Daddy/Grandpapa comes in next and lasts until they die.
     
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    As we get older the age seems to go up. I remenber when I was 19 anyone over 30 was a daddy.
     
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    I think you have to be over 30 (maybe even 40) these days to un-ironically use the terms "twink" or "daddy". Well, in this neck of the woods anyway.

    It's like introducing a guy as your "lover", or remembering "8-tracks".
     
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    I don't use age to define things like this. I was not a twink when I was younger and I certainly don't look like a daddy now that I'm a bit older. I think it's an image more than an age.
     
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    I think the daddy thing, for me, also has to do with a mans build. A young guy with a big build can be a daddy if he wants it
     
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    I've always been too chubby to have been a twink when I was younger, but I'm hardly a daddy bear either. I don't think there are age limits. It's more of a personal thing really.
    Even though I'm 32, I dream of being someone's "bear cub". I want to be someone's boy or baby.

    I definitely agree. I'm looking for a gentle daddy of colour and I would still call him "daddy" even if he is younger than me.

    On a side note, I don't quite know where my "daddy" fantasy comes from. My father has always been a part of my life and the things I want to with a "daddy" I would NEVER want to do with my real Dad. So why I think about a "daddy" and say things like "I'm gonna cum, daddy!" when I'm jacking off, I don't know.
     
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    I like the answers on here, I suppose it really is a state of mind, thanks nudeyorker.
    And thank you erratic for the outdated labels. It's true but the internet is full of daddy and twink porn.
    Willow78
    I suppose that when it comes down to it is really a sub-dom role.
    Twink is sub and a Daddy is dom.
    Being older now I get Daddy a lot.
    I am cool with it because I know it is a sexual fantasy for my partner. I'm more aggressive in bed and that works for me.
    In another one of my threads I question why I feel that with gay men most of then are sub.
    It's just what I find out there.

    So back to Twink and Daddy, It's not age restricted and more role playing?
    The fact is that Zac and Brent are Twinks and George Clooney and Colin Farrell are Daddy's
    So we still label our fantasy.
     
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    Often but not always - I think "daddy" is used as a generic label. Some "daddies" are into discipline and being "master", whereas some "daddies" are gentle and affectionate but their physical presence puts them in a powerful position without actually "dominating".

    I hope that made sense - sometimes there is a large chasm between knowing what I want to say and knowing how to say it.

    Personally speaking, I'm looking for the second type of "daddy". I want to be someone's "baby" or "son" but at the same time I do NOT want to be someone's little bitch-boy who says, "Yes Sir, no Sir, as you wish Sir, thank you for the punishment Sir". That stuff seems kind of degrading to me.

    Did any of that make sense? My posts confuse even myself sometimes. :smile:
     
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    Oh hell yes. Haha. You actually see it more and more - but I do think they're sorta "porn terms". Like "powerbottom".

    That being said, my knowledge of gay slang (apart from the internet) is localised to Ontario. I've noticed that my American gay friends are much more likely to categorise people using words like "top" and "bottom" than my Canadian gay friends. So maybe "twink" and "daddy" are more common south of the border, too.

    Still, I think the general trend among the twenty-something generation of North American homos is to reject labels. Unless that label is "Macbook Pro", in which case you try to buy in to it as much as possible. Haha.
     
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    "Twink" and "Daddy", I think, are more about attitudes and presentation than age. I know some "twinks" in their 30's and some Daddy's in their 20's. It's a mindset deal.
     
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    It has nothing to do with age. Some guys are daddys from the time they hit puberty. Other guys are twinks well into their 70's. It's an attitude in terms of psychology, and a body type in terms of physical.
     
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    I agree with Nudey, Swellguy, Scott and anyone else who feel that "twink" and "daddy" are more about look and attitude than any specific age; though I was still most definitely a boy when I first started getting involved in the gay scene (I was 17), by 20 I was pretty much functionally and mentally a non-versatile top.

    Plus, "twink" carries connotations of a fey vapidity that never applied to me, even when I was extremely young, along with an ectomorphic build that I've never had: my shoulders are broad, I have an extremely short midsection and have always been muscular (especially my legs). As a label, twinks are thin and flat as a board.

    I resist being labeled a "daddy", as I have interest in either controlling or supporting anyone, though I'll accept being called "papi" by a Latino: it's not really the same thing, anyway :rolleyes:

    Dom/sub verbiage technically is Sir/Boy, not "Daddy", which carries a whiff of incest about it. Sir/Boy etiquette is actually very strict among those who are completely immersed in that lifestyle, which really is a 24/7 sort of thing. Personally I prefer "the real" over the role and can't imagine bearing the responsibilities involved in what are almost inevitably extremely asymmetrical relationships, theories and expectations aside: most are not an arrangement of equals.
     
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    I think there's crossover on the term Twink, it can apply to any younger gay guy (or at least did when I was first exploring the gay scene as a teenager) and could apply in a generalised way to any guy under thirty.

    However it has become more specific than that over time, and applies to things like appearance and behaviour more these days. However I'd challenge presumptions about the term implying that the guy is a Bottom, the archetype of the hot Twink Top is pretty prevalent, especially in a Twink on Twink context.
     
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    I believe I became a daddy! :eek::eek::eek:
     
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    I have this fear that the "authorities" who watch the Net might think that anybody with "boy" in his screen name is, well, a boy. And BOY would they be surprised to see the types who think they are boys! I give up. Too old to be a daddy, I guess, I remain a memory of what I used to be. Signed: Gramps.
     
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    I agree with Alex on this there are a lot of porn sites out there that define daddy and twinks pretty specifically. My question is if a twink is someone that's around 19 to 25 ish and a daddy is 45 or older then what's the in between years? the 26 to 44?

    I agree I think it's a mind set. I don't see myself as either but on the other hand I would find it hard to consider someone that's in their 20's a daddy.
     
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    FSUnole2k9 Thank you for your comment on my profile today it made me smile :wink:

    So it really is a mindset then? Butch/Femme, Daddy/Twink, Sub/Dom I suppose the male form is really varied and it can inspire many responses in the sexual psyche.
    In this PC world we try to not label each other but this is where the mind triggers the release of sex hormones isn't?
     
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    I know that it was certainly a shock the first time some guy called me 'Daddy'!
     
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    "Guy next door" used to include the in between twink and daddy crowd. Rather an overlooked group. I fall right in there. Before I stopped coloring my hair I was Just a twink then average guy (white hair since 13, thanks genes). Now with my AC Cooper white I pull in the twinks looking for a daddy. Freaked me out, but what ever, its all good. Kind of fun to be seen as a hot daddy now. Means I have years of it before I become a grampa.
    I think really it is a look AND attitude thing. A daddy can be so because of either or both.
     
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