Two bottoms

[brightnguy]

So pretty recently started dating a guy, we both said from the get-go that we were bottoms (great!) and I bluntly said at the start that I didn't think it would work, at least not easily, but he insisted on going on a date. Clearly I'm still dating him so we get along very very well, but the slight 'problems' are obviously more sexual.

Basically what are my options? I've topped before, and its fine, but, again put bluntly, I love getting fucked and he has never topped in his life...oh at all...(;P)

I've tried 'jokingly' asking to bring a third guy in possibly, or even another couple to top us both, but not sure if this is the best solution. So yeah any advice from people who have been in similar positions? (up till now its been everything but anal which, again, is fine, but refer to my previous needs)

 

[328982]

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[328982]

Maybe get him to try topping and he may like it? Take it in turns?

 

[902369]

It won't work.

 

[WillyLong]

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[henry777]

You can get one of these vibrating double dildos

 

[951321]

Sometimes it feels like the ratio of tops to bottoms is 1:99999999 especially in the UK

Relationships with 2 bottoms can work. There's more to sexual experiences and pleasure than anal. I have a few friends who are in very long term relationships who both classify themselves as total bottoms and have a thriving relationship without the need to include third parties.

If you genuinely like each other enough you'd both meet halfway and be vers in your relationship. Either that or be open to experimenting with toys etc etc

 

[Brodie888]

Why can't you just take turns on which role you take from session to session?

 

[Jamesbgck]

I agree that you should try to get him to try topping. He may turn out to like it, but, even if not, if he is really into you, he should at least give a shot since you want it so bad.

A few years ago, I had a bottom fuckbuddy get into a serious relationship with another bottom. I didn't hear from him for something like six months. But then he contacted me out of the blue, explained his situation, and asked if I'd be interested in fucking him and the boyfriend. I said yes (obviously), and we hooked up about four or five times over about three months. Each time, we all sucked, got sucked, rimmed, and got rimmed -- and I also fucked them both. It was fantastic. Both had great bubble butts and loved taking my dick. They moved away after a few months, and I haven't heard from them in a while. I'm not sure that arrangement would have worked long term, but it was great for the months we did it.

So maybe consider bringing in a top to fuck you both. I know most tops would REALLY go for that, so finding one shouldn't be a challenge. In fact, if you're in Chicago, look me up because I've happily provided that service before, lol...

 

[deleted37010]

it can work... i'm a power bottom and my partner is a deep throater... together 13yrs... finding a big dick to share/enjoy has never been a problem for us... good luck!

 

[Exbiker]

I'm a top, mostly. If you're looking.

Far side of London.

 

[jpk338]

In Fort Lauderdale there is 1 top. You have to book your breeding well in advance.

 

[umdoistressilvaquatro]

I don't get how a person who have never topped can say with confidence that they are "bottoms". Well, except if the guy is an eunuch...

 

[NoodisTX]

It's an interesting challenge... I'm... kinda in the same situation. Husband is a top... Well, he says he's vers\top, but says I'm too big, so it hurts. I'm about 50\50 vers... I love bottoming for him, but it's been nearly 2 years since I've topped him.

We've started a dialogue about occasionally finding a 3rd to bottom.. We both like the idea of group sex...

But he's kinda shy about sexual stuff.. so it's been difficult to get him to actually act on anything.

Bottom (no pun intended) line is the relationship. We're in love... but not being able to top him and shoot my load in him really really sucks.

I'd suggest sitting down to talk about it.... like anything in a relationship. Be gentle.. but be honest. Talk about what\how you see the problem. Come up with solutions together. Maybe it's toys... maybe it's another dude. Use this sexual speedbump to grow closer together.

 

[linniejr]

Why can't you just take turns on which role you take from session to session?

Brodie, I somewhat agree with you.

 

[Brodie888]

Brodie, I somewhat agree with you.

The way I look at it is, if you want a monogamous relationship, you are essentially agreeing to fulfill all of each others sexual needs.

If both parties aren't willing to take turns to fulfill the other's needs, it will just end up in resentment and ultimately failure.

 

[buster11xx]

I have made it work with 2 tops for a long time. There is a lot more in a relationship besides sex. there is more to sex besides anal. We got to the point where we are able to bring in a 3rd to bottom for us when we want to fuck at home. Prior to that we just messed around on vacations with other guys. Just keep boundaries and jealously in check and you can love anyone.

 

[KennF]

Every relationship takes work and compromise.

Sometimes it is the bathroom toilet seat, sometimes the cooking, sometimes who takes out the trash, and in your case it would include who gets to top.

The idea of toys and sexual exploration is also a great one. You'll have to figure out who gets to use it/them on who first and second and third and fourth...

For the relationship to work, it is going to take more than sex. So, this is just ONE of the parts of making it all work together.



If you are both secure in your relationship and each other, then a third person or surrogate is really an option.

The two of you together can sort through the available tops and select the one(s) that you think each other would like and even try directing. You could, for example, take the third and put his cock in your boyfriends hole and make sure your boyfriend is taken care of, and then vice versa.

As long as you all understand that the third is being used for his cock and topping skills, then it can work.

 

[AVx22]

Dude, if yall like each other, it shouldn't be hard to make it work. You both have dicks that are meant to penetrate; take turns! Apparently top/bottom only relationships exist (Still dont understand that, but hey...) If yall are gonna be together, get used to fufilling each other. I refuse to believe that any dude is strictly a bottom, no matter how much he likes it. Use those dicks!! But...i do think the double dildos are hot; you might wanna try those! lol.

My bf and I are both "tops". When I say I'm a top, I'm saying I dont really participate in anal, either way. When he says it, he's actually just a top (from previous sexual encounters). We just dont do anal. Our sex is mainly based on oral, frottage, mutual jerking, and all that other good stuff. We make it work.

So...if you are both hell bent on only taking it up the ass...it may not work. Bring in the balance, bro!

 

[902369]

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