just from the actions of my date there is a possibility that he may be a top, and that would not be a problem for most except I am a top.
I'd say don't judge the relationship this early.
Also could you explain more about what the actions of your date were that showed the possibility that he may be a top?
I would be really interested to find that out, so I'd know what to look for in my future dates...
We were both top and he said he would try to bottom for me. After a few tries, he said that I turned him to a vers.
Have you ever tried to bottom for him?
That would be the fair thing to do, since he was willing to bottom for you, and you never know you might just enjoy it and it could be a whole new sexual adventure for both of you...
do the two of you have to define you sexual relationship with each other solely on who gets to penetrate whose ass? But why write off a relationship that seems promising, just because there may be some psycho-sexual difficulties?
Are neither of you willing to bottom for the other, ever?
Anal sex is only one part of sexual intimacy. Would oral sex coupled with frottage work for most of the time, with you guys switching off bottoming the here and there the rest of the time?
I definitely wouldn't want to define a relationship based on who penetrates whose ass...but if it were a situation where we were totally sexually incompatible then it might be a problem, though in my case It would probably be if I wanted to date a guy who only had an interest in being a 100% bottom, I mean I like to top, but I definitely have been really liking getting fucked lately too, so there's no way that I could live with giving that up permanently...
I agree there has to be some flexibility, I really prefer guys who are vers best, as I have found that tops who have bottomed at some point make better tops...and the mystery of not knowing who is doing who can be hot...
I agree that anal sex is only a part of sexual intimacy, and I could go with not doing it super often if I was being loved in other ways, but I don't think I would want to give it up totally...
I was once friends online with a 2-topped couple. They both ended up contacting me separately, asking if I was open to hooking up. I didn't, but it was weird in that they both approached me, because they knew that I'd be "respectful of (their) relationship" (meaning that they both know I'm very discreet), and that they really loved the other and didn't want to do anything to hurt them. Um...
Yea this is always something to watch out for, I think it would be hard to have a real 2 topped couple relationship, if neither guy was willing to be versatile, as that just leaves too much open for the guys to want to explore individually..
People also change though. I have a formerly TOP-ONLY!!! friend, who's now not even "vers", but fully a TOTAL bottom (recently telling me, "No, now, I don't even know how I ever got hard for ass"). As an aside, he was also formerly married to a woman for 14 years.
This sorta sounds like what I'm turning into, though I don't really like it...since I definitely don't want to be the "women" of a relationship, but I can't deny that I do like getting fucked...Its been a while since I've had the chance to just do an all out fucking on a guy, so as much as I probably still like it...there is a part of me that just likes to get fucked...especially if the guy really knows what he's doing...and has a big cock...lol...like I mentioned a while back in some posts about getting fucked by a guy that I'd been lusting after for years....
I went out with someone once and neither of us were willing to bottom for the other. We found many other ways to have a good time together, including picking up a bottom boy at the bars and sharing him.
That sounds hot, to get picked up by a 2 top couple and just get pounded by two guys at once...one question: How do you know the guy your picking up is a bottom boy? did they ever complain that there were going to be two of you fucking him?
Did you guys ever double penetrate the bottom boy?
Yeah, I sure the talk will come up eventually but I know I won't bottom for him. Not so soon anyway. We have only been on one date. I am not into sharing either. If I am not enough for a man then there is no point
So you never want to bottom for him? or just not early on in the relationship? Yea I would perfer to not share either but if I had to share it would definitely have to be in a way like nudeyorker said where we both pick out the guy together, and do him together...I would definitely never want one of those what you do when your away from me i don't want to know about it kind of open relationships....