So i have been dating this girl for a month now, and yes i know that isnt that long of a time but we really hit things off and id say things were doing great if it wasnt for one BIG problem that ive been having.
I recently moved a few towns over and now i live a lot closer to this friend of mine, and since then me and him have hung out a lot and we're becoming really close. I found out he was bi from a mutual friend of ours and im sort of developing this crush on him... a very strong crush acutally.... and judging from the things that he says to me i strongly suspect that he likes me back. (hes constantly complementing me in ways that could easily be considered flirting.. the most obvious one was when he randomly told me that my eyes are like looking at the sky.... now ive been told i have really nice eyes but never in that way haha) hes also said some comments that make me think he is jelous of me and her relationship (and ik he has no interest in her so it cant be because of that)
he doesnt know that i know hes bi nor does he know that im bi myself. and even though im dying to tell him as i dont have any other bi guy friends to relate too, i dont know how nor whether i even should (scared it would complicate things even more than they already are).
Ive debated whether i should break up with my current girlfriend over this. I really like her a lot, like i havent met a girl like this in a long time, but just the fact that i have a crush on someone else (a guy no less) makes me feel like a bad person. Part of me really wants to stay with her, shes a great girl and i think about her all the time. Shes already told me she loves me (and i reluctantly said the same) and i dont want to hurt her.
i feel like whatever i do ill end up regretting. If i break up with her ill lose out on what could have been a wonderful relationship and i dont even know if anything between me and my friend could ever really happen for a multitude of reasons (even though im bi idk if i could acutally handle a relationship with a guy... never really tried it before)
but at the same time if i stay with her, there will always be that other part of me keeping me from being fully in love with her, the part that wants to be with the guy down the street....
I recently moved a few towns over and now i live a lot closer to this friend of mine, and since then me and him have hung out a lot and we're becoming really close. I found out he was bi from a mutual friend of ours and im sort of developing this crush on him... a very strong crush acutally.... and judging from the things that he says to me i strongly suspect that he likes me back. (hes constantly complementing me in ways that could easily be considered flirting.. the most obvious one was when he randomly told me that my eyes are like looking at the sky.... now ive been told i have really nice eyes but never in that way haha) hes also said some comments that make me think he is jelous of me and her relationship (and ik he has no interest in her so it cant be because of that)
he doesnt know that i know hes bi nor does he know that im bi myself. and even though im dying to tell him as i dont have any other bi guy friends to relate too, i dont know how nor whether i even should (scared it would complicate things even more than they already are).
Ive debated whether i should break up with my current girlfriend over this. I really like her a lot, like i havent met a girl like this in a long time, but just the fact that i have a crush on someone else (a guy no less) makes me feel like a bad person. Part of me really wants to stay with her, shes a great girl and i think about her all the time. Shes already told me she loves me (and i reluctantly said the same) and i dont want to hurt her.
i feel like whatever i do ill end up regretting. If i break up with her ill lose out on what could have been a wonderful relationship and i dont even know if anything between me and my friend could ever really happen for a multitude of reasons (even though im bi idk if i could acutally handle a relationship with a guy... never really tried it before)
but at the same time if i stay with her, there will always be that other part of me keeping me from being fully in love with her, the part that wants to be with the guy down the street....