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The pills give me a great hardon but delay ejaculation a lengthy time, and then I have to work really hard to shoot. Clearly a side-effect. I seldom use the pills because of this. I can manage an erection and ejaculation without the pills. Not bad for 75.
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I have heard that viagra use can result in loss of penis sensitivity, sure seems to be the case for me, sure glad I'm not circumcised as my inner foreskin is the most sensitive part now. Medical community is pretty quiet about this, probably don't want to rock the Viagra gravy train.

Anyone here that has NOT used ed drugs that has lost sensitivity as they got into their 50's?
 

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I 25 and my partner 56 have the problem that if he has "bad day" and needs to take the pill, he is about 6 of 10 times done chance to unable to get an orgasm/to cum. Maybe it is that we are like mentioned earlier, passing the 15-20min in act or then it is the pills. This does not directly mind me but i feel he thinks that he does not sexually fill my needs if he does not cum.

On a "good day" we usually play for hours with many sweat swiping and hydrating breaks. Our grand finale is to aim for cum-together, what usually happens.

Did some digging, cialis can affect prostate and actually seems to be medication for overgrown prostate. So there might be relations for being unable to cum. Talking to doctor definetly clears it.
 

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I 25 and my partner 56 have the problem that if he has "bad day" and needs to take the pill, he is about 6 of 10 times done chance to unable to get an orgasm/to cum. Maybe it is that we are like mentioned earlier, passing the 15-20min in act or then it is the pills. This does not directly mind me but i feel he thinks that he does not sexually fill my needs if he does not cum.

On a "good day" we usually play for hours with many sweat swiping and hydrating breaks. Our grand finale is to aim for cum-together, what usually happens.

Did some digging, cialis can affect prostate and actually seems to be medication for overgrown prostate. So there might be relations for being unable to cum. Talking to doctor definetly clears it.
Don't overthink it, I know that's difficult but sometimes its the mind not the body. I had a lover who would cum the moment my cock went in his ass, result was that he didn't rise to orgasm - but then it turned out he'd been worrying about not cuming off, eventually we sorted stuff out and climaxed together by just removing the mental strain
 

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Agreed. Many times performance anxiety can be the culprit if unable to trigger orgasm and cum. This sounds like a mental obstacle. The more you worry about it, the bigger the problem becomes. Definitely consult a doctor, but I'd be surprised if this is a physical issue like enlarged prostate.
 

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Don't overthink it, I know that's difficult but sometimes its the mind not the body. I had a lover who would cum the moment my cock went in his ass, result was that he didn't rise to orgasm - but then it turned out he'd been worrying about not cuming off, eventually we sorted stuff out and climaxed together by just removing the mental strain
Not overthinking it, after being together for 6 years i recognize his face expressions quite good. So i can definetly tell that it's bothering him, not that we have a good sex life and we wish same to other too! We can just Be one case of many, still thinking that the pill is causing a monster erection with a small side effect.
 

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Not overthinking it, after being together for 6 years i recognize his face expressions quite good. So i can definetly tell that it's bothering him, not that we have a good sex life and we wish same to other too! We can just Be one case of many, still thinking that the pill is causing a monster erection with a small side effect.
Yep its a problem. On another occasion I was unable to get a hard-on when I had sex with a particular guy -he was into fantasy games and I think I spent so long working out what my role was I lost interest and wasn't able to fuck his tight ass at the end. Trouble was it spread to another guy I was seeing and I just couldnt get it up hard - resorted to a pill and bingo, rock hard, fucked his asshole like I'd never fucked it before, had what seemed like huge orgasms - next time no pill and all back to normal - just a question of proving to myself my cock would work!
 

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Yep its a problem. On another occasion I was unable to get a hard-on when I had sex with a particular guy -he was into fantasy games and I think I spent so long working out what my role was I lost interest and wasn't able to fuck his tight ass at the end. Trouble was it spread to another guy I was seeing and I just couldnt get it up hard - resorted to a pill and bingo, rock hard, fucked his asshole like I'd never fucked it before, had what seemed like huge orgasms - next time no pill and all back to normal - just a question of proving to myself my cock would work!
Yes! We are all different, of course i have days when i just can't get it hard enough to fuck so those days are bottoming for me and lots 69's.

Tried once pills, hardon and a major headache - no playing on that night for us.
 

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Yes! We are all different, of course i have days when i just can't get it hard enough to fuck so those days are bottoming for me and lots 69's.

Tried once pills, hardon and a major headache - no playing on that night for us.
sometimes its just nice to lie there naked and feel your bodies close to each other, lets face it getting an erection at the wrong time of the day is pretty easy but when you want one... so, what's wrong with taking a length now and then, getting shafted is always as much please as shafting!
 

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I've never taken any medication to help with erection so I cannot say whether or not it's a side effect from the pill but I've been in a situation whereI just don't cum before. All I can say is when you put in too much effort it can really work against you.
 

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I've never taken any medication to help with erection so I cannot say whether or not it's a side effect from the pill but I've been in a situation whereI just don't cum before. All I can say is when you put in too much effort it can really work against you.
Pretty sure that is part of the problem... Good news, this weekend we played around and he had a pleasurable ending ... ;):p:D
 
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Pretty sure that is part of the problem... Good news, this weekend we played around and he had a pleasurable ending ... ;):p:D
Good to hear! Little things can gather and lead to a bigger thing as they say. Time or/and talking helps a lot.

Started to think myself and my partner joined and we talked while i showed him this thread.

We counted several times where there has been cumless orgasms for him and few for me. Now after taking PA piercing, we need to learn new tricks and hopefully my jewelry will even help him on a bad day.
 

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Pretty sure that is part of the problem... Good news, this weekend we played around and he had a pleasurable ending ... ;):p:D

Now that's a great news! Woop!

The mind can be a very powerful thing. I've had my own mind mess it all up for me before. Premature ejaculation, failure to keep an erection, not cumming... Kinda wish my dick had a mind of its own sometimes. :D
 

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Viagra is known to cause this problem. Even caffeine and weed can do it for me as well, so much so that when I cut back I can cum too quick. The worst are drugs like Prozac and paxil which I will never take again, awful