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I have my very first boyfriend, I love him very much and I find him both very attractive and super sweet. I’m a lucky guy to have found him. One problem is it takes me forever to cum. He sucks me off, I do the same which I never seem to cum. We fuck and that’s amazing. We did last night. I got so very deep I was hitting a new spot on him. However despite all this I couldn’t cum. I stayed hard and wanted to cum so badly yet I could not. My boyfriend is now taking offense to it after several times where I have not. He seems to want to blame himself. So anyway any advice. I really love this man and I don’t want to him to continue to feel bad. I’ll take any advice you have.
 

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I am no expert and can only draw on life's experiences. We all have so many preconceptions thrust upon us these days. A person's performance in the sack is influenced from all angles. We must look perfect, we must fuck like athletes, we shouldn't cum until our partner cums, we must satisfy their every need.
When I lost my virginity to a girl way back in my teens, there was no internet and no real porn influence, apart from top shelf magazines. I was so inexperienced and so nervous I shot my load after about thirty seconds (and that's probably an optimistic description).
You say your boyfriend is now "taking offence" at your inability to cum. This is clearly something that is building up in your mind and will not go away. Assuming there are no physical or medical reasons, your brain is the biggest sex organ in your body, and each time you make love, it is kicking in and saying "hey, you remember that problem? Well, here it is again"
If you haven't already done so you need to talk to him. Tell him about the problem, that you're worried it will drive him away. Discuss some sexy ways that he can maybe arouse you more in foreplay, or maybe even take the stress of actually fucking off the menu for a few sessions. If he still takes offence or shows no interest in helping you resolve this then maybe he isn't so deserving of your affection.
 
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When I first started having sex I had difficulty cumming. I think it mostly dealt with going to inserting my cock into a vagina rather than my hand. It felt different and she began to doubt the relationship since she was getting off but I wasn’t. It finally took me abstaining from sex for about a week. No sex no masturbation until I got her in bed again and I needed to cum so bad it finally happened. I never had that problem again. You just need to retrain your cock for your BF not your hand
 

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When I first started having sex I had difficulty cumming. I think it mostly dealt with going to inserting my cock into a vagina rather than my hand. It felt different and she began to doubt the relationship since she was getting off but I wasn’t. It finally took me abstaining from sex for about a week. No sex no masturbation until I got her in bed again and I needed to cum so bad it finally happened. I never had that problem again. You just need to retrain your cock for your BF not your hand

I think this makes a lot of sense!
 
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