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Missbec I once had a lover with the same problem. even though I am rather an expert at making women orgasm, whatever I tried failed.

I have researched and experimented with every technique I could find so usually I end up giving new lovers more orgasms than they have ever had before, I once counted 107 orgasms in 40mins (she was exceptionally orgasmic!)
So when this woman told me she had never had an orgasm before it was a relief to me.

A lot of things I tried that worked, were from Dr.Lin's site:

http://www.actionlove.com/cases/case8669.htm

this link concerns your problem.

His site is huge with a lot of information, not all useful but if you spend a few hours you may find some pointers to help you learn to orgasm. He also tries to sell you his chinise herbal potions, although not neccessary they actually may help you.

One question, when you masturbate or make love, do you ever get a sudden need pee feeling?
 

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Even though I don't prescribe to any self help website and so on. I have bumbed into this actionlove thing, and I have to say some of its information on the female G spot is pretty remarkable. And dare I go out on limb, and say it might even be right on the spot.
 

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dongalong said:
Missbec I once had a lover with the same problem. even though I am rather an expert at making women orgasm, whatever I tried failed.

I have researched and experimented with every technique I could find so usually I end up giving new lovers more orgasms than they have ever had before, I once counted 107 orgasms in 40mins (she was exceptionally orgasmic!)
So when this woman told me she had never had an orgasm before it was a relief to me.

A lot of things I tried that worked, were from Dr.Lin's site:

http://www.actionlove.com/cases/case8669.htm

this link concerns your problem.

His site is huge with a lot of information, not all useful but if you spend a few hours you may find some pointers to help you learn to orgasm. He also tries to sell you his chinise herbal potions, although not neccessary they actually may help you.

One question, when you masturbate or make love, do you ever get a sudden need pee feeling?

Thak you for the very useful link dongalong!
Yeah, i get the need to pee feeling, and ive been told that its when you are on the verg or somewhat of an orgasm, yet i never get anywhere after that im afraid
-bec
 

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Lordpendragon said:
So - have you booked the weekend?

Not quite as yet im afraid, my boyfriend and i are in between a copule of things atm, ah that probably doesnt help!!!
-bec
Never fear, ill post the situation as it happens, but i have someone thats in England atm, eh its a bit of a sticky situation!
 

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lonely7473 said:
oh do i know what you´re talking about!!!

I´m 38, have a daughter on 13, and have NEVER got an orgasm togheter with nobody!! and I have been very active when it comes to having sex and i LOVE it! In fact, I´m a lil nymfo really!!
It feels sooo good most of the times but i just dont get an orgasm. Dont ask why cause i really dont/didnt know! i have thought hard about it thou now lately and realized that it has probably with my selfconfidence, not feelin loved, secure and safe with my partner. It just has to be that, cause i can get it on my own, thats no problem!!

now i have "met" someone from this site, but not in person yet! Allthou I´m looking forward to it alot!!!!!
I think that with this guy I can relax and feel that calm, nice secure and loved feeling!

This is my thougts and experiances

lonely

Thats excellent that you can find a way to orgasm even, lonely!! i know what you mean to the sex godess, i love it yet as this thread is about i seem to not be able to orgasm for some reason.
I also cant get anywehre masturbating, its just the feeling of my own hand or a toy, well i havnt tried a toy yet, i will soon though :rolleyes:
Cross fingers!
-bec
 

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This peeing sensation is a sign that you are probably about to have a female ejaculation, I taught my ex to overcome this and let it go, (It's normal to block this need to pee so I think your mind might be concentrating on blocking it more that the pleasure of an orgasm) so it took a while but she REALLY enjoyed it when she could squirt.
Maybe you could practice sitting a towel to ease your mind.
Remember it is impossible to pee in the middle of an orgasm, so LET IT GO!
 

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dongalong said:
This peeing sensation is a sign that you are probably about to have a female ejaculation, I taught my ex to overcome this and let it go, (It's normal to block this need to pee so I think your mind might be concentrating on blocking it more that the pleasure of an orgasm) so it took a while but she REALLY enjoyed it when she could squirt.
Maybe you could practice sitting a towel to ease your mind.
Remember it is impossible to pee in the middle of an orgasm, so LET IT GO!

:rolleyes: ill try that, thank you!!!
Although i have to put my progression on pause for a slight while, as i said, bf troubles and i really need to get down to the sexstore
-bec
 

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Hey bec...I completely understand also. I go through periods each month that I can't orgasm....it's very strange....hormones I guess. But don't feel bad...and I agree with one post above....explore yourself...get a vibrator.....also, the first time I came was with the shower head. I can't garuantee that you'll come, but it would be hard not to....and don't supress it....alot of women get to the point, and then back off...I'm not sure why this happens, but let yourself go over the edge. Just keep at it!
 

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joker said:
Hey bec...I completely understand also. I go through periods each month that I can't orgasm....it's very strange....hormones I guess. But don't feel bad...and I agree with one post above....explore yourself...get a vibrator.....also, the first time I came was with the shower head. I can't garuantee that you'll come, but it would be hard not to....and don't supress it....alot of women get to the point, and then back off...I'm not sure why this happens, but let yourself go over the edge. Just keep at it!

You know what!! you've made me think of an idea!!! thank you!
I can maybe get a girl to help me, a girl that knows what she is doing!!! :rolleyes:
-bec
 

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My least favorite words are "Cum for me". When I hear that I go from a state of wildly unfocused bombardment of sensation and snap to "Oh, shit, now I have a specific goal". The experience that up until then had been "Oh, God, this is amazing!" becomes "what will accomplish the task". Stop saying it !
This couldn't be more on the money. I HATE when guys say this, because it ruins any chances I may have had to get off.

Missbec, I would definitely recommend buying a vibrator. I'd probably stick with just a little clitoral vibrator, like a silver bullet or something, one with speeds that very from very low to moderately high. I remember the first time I ever felt anything vibrate on my clitoris, I think my eyes almost popped out of my head. Also, try buying some clitoral heightening cream. You can find various creams and gels made for women. Oh-My has a gel that doesn't work too bad, but the best stuff I've found is from pure romance, http://www.pureromance.com . I use the x-scream, and just a little dab of that on the clitoris and the surrounding skin makes all of the blood vessels open up and makes me just want to scream "somebody touch me! Please!". Something like that may help just to get things started for you.

Also, have you ever tried viewing erotic movies? I find that sometimes if I'm having difficulty getting myself in the mood for masturbation, watching a little bit of porn can help. You can even find porn that's catored towards women viewers, like the Candida Royale series. Erotic fiction is also really great, try browsing the relationship/sex section at a bookstore and pick up something steamy (penthouse letters are amazing if you don't mind explicit language). Once you find a few things that turn you on in private, you can imagine those things while having sex with your boyfriend. It won't hurt his feelings if you're thinking about some sexy fantasy that you read in a book--he doesn't even have to know :)
 

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I just remembered that I wanted to comment on this too:
You know what!! you've made me think of an idea!!! thank you!
I can maybe get a girl to help me, a girl that knows what she is doing!!!
If you truely are attracted to women as well as men, this could be a good idea. Especially if you build up a good trusting friendship with her first. She could simply masturbate with you and show you the way she does it, or could possibly give you a helping hand.

If you don't find women sexually appealing though, I wouldn't attempt this. It would be pretty difficult. But you could at least find a good girl pal that is very open about things and wouldn't mind going to the stores with you and discussing various tips and techniques to help you get where you'd like to be.

If you need someone to chat with, I'd be more than willing to give you as much advice as I can. Just send me a message on here and I'll give you my contact information. I do love helping others have the best sex lives possible :)
 

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swtnspycy said:
I just remembered that I wanted to comment on this too:

If you truely are attracted to women as well as men, this could be a good idea. Especially if you build up a good trusting friendship with her first. She could simply masturbate with you and show you the way she does it, or could possibly give you a helping hand.

If you don't find women sexually appealing though, I wouldn't attempt this. It would be pretty difficult. But you could at least find a good girl pal that is very open about things and wouldn't mind going to the stores with you and discussing various tips and techniques to help you get where you'd like to be.

If you need someone to chat with, I'd be more than willing to give you as much advice as I can. Just send me a message on here and I'll give you my contact information. I do love helping others have the best sex lives possible :)

If you two hook up, be sure and take pics.
 

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Spladle said:
Sounds hawt. Can I be the photographer?
why not, lets make it a first off television event too, yet i dont know whats NOT been done in america :biggrin1: we can somehow get sponsors, but both parties have to agree upon that, and ive said what i have to say for myself :rolleyes:
i guess all youré waiting for is the wonderful swtnspycy's aproval :cool:
-bec
 

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missbec said:
why not, lets make it a first off television event too, yet i dont know whats NOT been done in america :biggrin1: we can somehow get sponsors, but both parties have to agree upon that, and ive said what i have to say for myself :rolleyes:
i guess all youré waiting for is the wonderful swtnspycy's aproval :cool:
-bec
*waits patiently*

*wanks in the meantime*
 

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dongalong said:
Missbec, don't forget to let us all know when it finally happens, we're all rooting for you!!:wink:

i wont honey!
im spending the weekend with my lover,
we'll see what happens :rolleyes:
-bec