Understanding the Size Queen issue.

Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by Lordpendragon, Sep 20, 2006.

  1. Lordpendragon

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    I have been following the couple of threads here about "my BF isn't big enough".

    I am wondering if you can make this distinction

    I like size but can be satisfied by a skillfully used average penis

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    I can only be truly satisfied by a large penis.

    Is the latter necessarily an issue of either vagina size or psychology?

    What happens if you know that you need size, but can't find it on an otherwise suitable partner? Are you condemned to tread a frustrated path?
     
  2. stud_hunter

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    Indeed, I've often tried to stress the distinction you mention here. I fall into the "I like size but can be satisfied by a skillfully used avg. penis" category. For me, a general preference isn't the same as an absolute requirement. A guy's size is simply one factor.
     
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    Yeah, I'm with studhunter. Given my druthers I'd rather have a guy with a really big cock, but my current BF doesn't and I wouldn't think of trading him for anyone else. Even hoping to get hitched! :wink:
     
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    I would rather have a smaller skilled man who is great in bed and wants to please me rather than a large man who is only interested in stroking his ego and looking good.

    There is no use having John Holmes the 2nd if he isnt going to use it properly and isnt interested in pleasing me..

    Also any woman who is ONLY looking for a large penis is probably missing out on some great men and amazng sex
     
  5. Gisella

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    Well LP...

    As everybody is tired to know I was married and frustrated..I dont want it anymore in my life...

    But about the skillful average...IF he is confident and has no hidden issues with his penis- plus my vaginal lub is fully embraced and not in our way- for sure I would be satysfied...

    But what is the average girth size ???:confused: :biggrin1:
     
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    No body is doomed to a frustrated path, they only choose to stay on the path. A partner that might not be big enough for his partner but cares for his partner will do what it takes to satisfy her. There are toys and manual stimulation that can make a partner climb a wall to a wonderful orgasm. It all depends on the person and how much they care for his or her partner.
     
  7. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I fall in the "skilled but average" category as well. I have had sexual relations with SEVERAL guys who were average... and it was great. I've noticed (and I know many will argue with me here) that a lot of well endowed guys don't try so hard to please because they think their cock is so big that it'll just take care of everything and that's not the way at works. Not with me at least. Also, on the flip side, I've noticed that most guys that aren't well endowed try harder to please the woman simply because he KNOWS his dick can't do all the work. :)
     
  8. Lordpendragon

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    I am not saying that this isn't true Sassy, but as a guy with a guy's ego, I find it hard to comprehend that a guy would be OK even, let alone happy, with the fact that he had to strap something on to give his partner a proper fuck.

    Facing reality though and coming through the other side deserves respect. There was a guy in my Gym last night who literally had like an acorn with some skin over it - he was wandering around naked quite happily.
     
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    Something something from little acorns mighty oaks grow something something. :wink:
     
  10. Gisella

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    Well, I would not be happy with toys arranjaments as a complement or substitute for his penis as a routine practice...I dont even used them in my masturbation..

    :rolleyes:
     
  11. Lordpendragon

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    but that takes four hundred years :rolleyes:
     
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    Good one, Lord!
     
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    I used to think it "had" to be strictly psychological. I've always been a person who thought the mind was untouchable. If you could think it or wrap your mind around it, your body would almost have to respond. I'm not a woman though, and applying science to sex, is very naive I'm found. I still think our minds and especially our emotions play a big part, but after listening to many women and yes men talk about sex over the years, I can now say that the physical side of sex can longer be denied or dismissed, for either sex. People know what they need after a certain amount of experiences.

    I too have often wondered if women who needed or preferred size were doomed to a life of horrible or at least mediocre sex for most, if not all, of their lives. Everything I've heard has lead me to think there are far more micro, small, and average penises around, than there are huge ones. The early responses seem to suggest it isn't necessarily so. Nice to hear, since it'd kill me to think these women would have to live most of their lives never enjoying sex, or having to go to maybe extreme lengths to find "hung" guys.
     
  14. Mr. Snakey

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    Nothing wrong with a size queen. I like size queens:cool:
     
  15. Lordpendragon

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    because you are a size queen :eek:
     
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    Oh thankyou!:biggrin1:
     
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    My gf IS a size-queen, she likes BIG dildos, and she tells me she had a few huge lovers in the past... and... the smile in her eyes when she talks about it, man... you can tell she liked it A LOT... she likes porn movies with oversized black men, too...
    I don't see where is the problem with size-queens : if a girl wants to feel full, she wants to feel full, what can you do against it, except buy large toys and lick her clit while you feed her shameless desire...
    The way my gf orgasms when she has eight inches of thick "cock" into her vagina is just inbelievable : YES, she screams, YES, I love it. I'm 5 inches long, it makes me jealous, but I love it.
     
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