I have a long time (over 10 years) close female who I know has been/is sexually active. I myself am a virgin and we never discuss such matters except maybe briefly in passing, usually in a joking context. I have a question pertaining to sex that I'd like her advice on because I know I can trust her no matter what she says. I know I could ask the board, but there's something to be said about the word of a long time friend that trumps the advice of people over the net who I don't know at all. The thing is that I've never really talked to her about anything even close to the subject and I feel like it might be kind of unfair to her as a result. I think that subconciously I kind of want her to think of me sexually, but am too ashamed to actually admit it to myself. I would like her to find me attractive, but just as I'd like all women to find me attractive. To give more context on our friendship: We're both over 18 but under 20, been friends since the 2nd day of kindergarten. We dated really briefly in jr. high, realized that in jr. high dating is pretty much just being friends but acknowleding attraction to eachother and then broke up. I know I'm still attracted to her some, and have a feeling she still is some towards me, but we both value our friendship way too much to take a chance with dating. We recently decided that she is somewhat of a sister/girlfriend combination without the gross incest thing. My only solutions to this quandry as of yet are to not ask her at all or asking her if she would mind fielding a sex oriented question and going from there. It really comes down to: Is it unfair to her to ask a sex related question if I have doubts of my motives? I do really want an answer to the question, but I am trying to be the best friend I can at the same time.