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We have found ourselves situation that we might actually land our first unicorn. She is about 10 years younger than us and we met in a professional environment so all interactions have been kept to playful flirting. We decided to invite our special friend out for a hike and not only did she say yes she Invited herself to meet us at our house and go from there!

This is our first time actually acting out a few fantasies and know our chances are still slim for all this to happen. But there is something different and special about her and we really think this could happen.

we have been playing it cool and got this far. Any tips for the male and female on how to keep it cool and not make her feel pressured. We are definitely in uncharted waters now!
 
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a bi woman who wants a 3some with a male/ female couple
 
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The question is, does she know that you two are after her sexually? Being frindly and casually flirting doesn't equate to sexual desire. If you haven't made it clear prior to this, it can be very jarring to just turn it into something sexual when she's just going over for a hike. Ya know?

The best way for you to go about it is to simply ask her if she's down with it. If she's only in this as a friend, simply hiking and hanging out, it could scare her away from it entirely to try and turn something sexual. Being open and up front about it, making it clear that it's entirely up to her and if she just wants to hike, have dinner etc then that's 100% fine and you two won't pressure her into anything.

Not every cute woman is bi, not every woman who flirts wants to sleep with a married couple. It's difficult to find that aptly named, unicorn.

I suggest you check out sites that are explicitly dedicated to fetish hook ups in the future for something like that. Having someone know what they are in for ahead of time works out far better in the end.
 
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Shouldn't be weird talking about it as a couple. If this is a step you two want to take, talk about it openly together. If you aren't comfortable doing so, it'll be super difficult to move forward.

Generally, just treat this like you would any other relationship. The only difference is that there is two of you not just one looking for the same person. We can't help you make it successful. How you choose to talk to her about it is all up to you. So long as you aren't being demanding, creepy or coercive, then you'll theoretically be fine.

I personally fall into the blunt line of discussion. Ripping the proverbial band aid off. "So this may sound weird, but we're both very attracted to you. If you're down for it we'd like to see how the night goes. If you aren't, then we can pretend this conversation never happened."

Good luck with whatever you do. Stay safe and make sure you and your wife are very, very clear on any potential boundaries you may have before doing this.

*edit* you seemed to delete your response to me so it looks like I'm responding to myself lol . I'm not. I hope this ultimately works out for all three of you in whatever way is best.
 
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Shouldn't be weird talking about it as a couple. If this is a step you two want to take, talk about it openly together. If you aren't comfortable doing so, it'll be super difficult to move forward.

Generally, just treat this like you would any other relationship. The only difference is that there is two of you not just one looking for the same person. We can't help you make it successful. How you choose to talk to her about it is all up to you. So long as you aren't being demanding, creepy or coercive, then you'll theoretically be fine.

I personally fall into the blunt line of discussion. Ripping the proverbial band aid off. "So this may sound weird, but we're both very attracted to you. If you're down for it we'd like to see how the night goes. If you aren't, then we can pretend this conversation never happened."

Good luck with whatever you do. Stay safe and make sure you and your wife are very, very clear on any potential boundaries you may have before doing this.

*edit* you seemed to delete your response to me so it looks like I'm responding to myself lol . I'm not. I hope this ultimately works out for all three of you in whatever way is best.

Yes I’m not sure what went down in replying to you. It’s weird because we never discussed stuff like this for almost 20 years and now we have opened up after the kids have left the nest. It’s just a new exciting time and the nerves are flying on both our parts.

we know how do date or behave around people so creeping anyone out isn’t on our lists of worry’s. I like your bluntness in just asking that’s how I’d do it but my wife disagrees.