Hi all, I recently started dating a girl and have been suffering from some pretty dabilitating perfomance anxiety. While this is an issue, I know it is purely mental and given past experience with other partners, completely curable once I am comfortable. What i have found mildly perplexing is that the girl who I am dating has made no effort to help my situation manually, either orally or by hand. In fact I would go so far to say she does not want a bar of it (no pun intended). Every previous partner I have been with, whether I have suffered performance anxiety or not, have not hesitated to head south for a bit of fun. Am I being unrealistic in expecting that all girls are interested in heading down their, mouth or otherwise? Or does it take some girls a little while to warm up or get more comfortable before performing such acts? I have tried to have sex with this girl on 2 occassions, both times I could not get an erection. She took it pretty badly - thinking it was personal and about her. I assured this was absolutely not the case and had to go into great detail about the problem before she would feel comfortable again. Could it be a case of protecting herself from further embarrasment? Anyway, I am certainly not one to be bold enough to ask for oral help so early in the piece but thought her lack of interest in the act was strange, considering my mental barriers and past experience. Any thoughts?