Unsure about who I am anymore!!!

[sexplease]

you are who you think you are
you are who you really are
and
you are who you are as a result of knowing others.

 

[bigbull29]

I agree, but this is not exactly the case for the OP. If he is telling the truth (and I have no reason to disbelieve him), his homosexual urges are of a recent kind.

Yes, you're right. I didn't read all his post. One can start to have same-sex attraction later in life, or at least become curious. So, technically, it isn't his fault, particularly if he wasn't having these feelings earlier in the relationship. Sexual orientation can be malleable over time.