Unsure if first time was forced sex.

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When I went to school in florida I started experimenting with guys. I did a few things here and there, but I really wanted to try bottoming. Every time I would attempt to bottom it would hurt too much or I would chicken out at the last second.

One night though I met this guy at his place. He was very muscular and very well endowed. Probably 8.5in and quite thick. We were fooling around and he was a bit rough, but nothing I haven't seen before. He knew I was a virgin and I told him to go slow which he did initially. As he was slowly pushing it in it started to really hurt. I told him to stop because it hurt, but he didn't say anything and kept pushing further. I was getting nervous and tried to push his leg back to push him out, but he held my arms down. At this point I was helpless because he was much stronger than I am. He pushed fully in and when he did I knew. It felt painful, but kinda good at the same time. Then he started to fuck me really fast, which I wasn't expecting and I thought I was going to lose my voice how loud I was moaning. It hurt and felt good at same time. He started to jerk me off really fast while fucking me which was a crazy experience. Felt so different. I came probably in 30 second exploding all over myself. He continued fucking me fast add extra streams of cum to come out. After he finished we got dressed and I left. I'm not sure if he took advantage of me or not. What do you guys think?
 

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Some might say...

"He gave you what you wanted and needed. You were afraid of it, but you realised that you thoroughly enjoyed it. You should thank him for it and wait patiently for him to bless you with his cock again."

Or if I were a bleeding heart, I would say:

"NO MEANS NO!, you were violated, and he is a rapist. Inform the police, and press full charges"

I know which one I prefer...
 

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You weren't helpless.

Even if he pinned you down, he wasn't covering your mouth. You could have easily started yelling at the top of your lungs that you were being raped or forced to do it.

He gave you what you wanted. You should consider yourself lucky.

I've actually been sort of looking for the same kind of experience, but it involves someone cumming in my mouth, with me not having the option of backing out. It's my #1 fantasy.
 

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Hmm, In the beginning, I was headed towards forced/unwanted sex. However, the part that troubles me is that towards the end you state that he was jacking you. At that point, there was no resistance from you and you indeed seemed to be enjoying it by the result.

I'm torn on this one :confused:
 

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mmmmmm

overall i think you consented
and did not protest LOUD enuf to insist he really stop
if you had,the question is would he have stopped, possibly yes huh?
I think it was a Fair Fuck to you both.
May well never know, so to be fairer to yourself, maybe ...


Keep in mind
many of us probably say STOP, but dont really mean it ..
 

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Did he cum inside you, w/o a condom? How much dialog did you have w/him in advance of you going to his place for sex? Did you know you would be fucked w/o a condom? Seems to me you left a great of detail out of your story. Can you clarity some od the things I brought up, in context to your story?


When I went to school in florida I started experimenting with guys. I did a few things here and there, but I really wanted to try bottoming. Every time I would attempt to bottom it would hurt too much or I would chicken out at the last second.

One night though I met this guy at his place. He was very muscular and very well endowed. Probably 8.5in and quite thick. We were fooling around and he was a bit rough, but nothing I haven't seen before. He knew I was a virgin and I told him to go slow which he did initially. As he was slowly pushing it in it started to really hurt. I told him to stop because it hurt, but he didn't say anything and kept pushing further. I was getting nervous and tried to push his leg back to push him out, but he held my arms down. At this point I was helpless because he was much stronger than I am. He pushed fully in and when he did I knew. It felt painful, but kinda good at the same time. Then he started to fuck me really fast, which I wasn't expecting and I thought I was going to lose my voice how loud I was moaning. It hurt and felt good at same time. He started to jerk me off really fast while fucking me which was a crazy experience. Felt so different. I came probably in 30 second exploding all over myself. He continued fucking me fast add extra streams of cum to come out. After he finished we got dressed and I left. I'm not sure if he took advantage of me or not. What do you guys think?
 

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We had sex with a condom. He spoke earlier about getting together and how it would be my first time. I told him I would need to take it slow.
 

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We had sex with a condom. He spoke earlier about getting together and how it would be my first time. I told him I would need to take it slow.

Thanks for the clarification. Seems like the only thing he didn't explain to you fully, was his personal style of fucking... And it took you by surprise. Would that be a fair statement? And were you sore or bleeding afterwards?
 

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I hoped he would of took things slower given it was my first time but was much rougher and forceful than I wanted. When it started getting too fast I told him to slow things down and stop but he continued. @AtomicMouse I was pretty sore afterwards
 
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I think once he was fully in, if you continued to persist he would have stopped. He knows his size and his strength, and initial pain a bit, especially upon entry is expected by just about anyone. You know rape when you see it and you are the one that experienced it. It seems to me, IMO that you were not raped. Once he was fully in you yourself talk about how wonderful it was. Someone being raped doesn't describe it that way. They describe it as more horrible as it goes on. I think in a way you wanted him to go on, could possibly have been turned on a bit by his aggession which was not out of the ordinary and ended up having a pleasant experience. Did he take advantage of you? I don't think so...you went there with the intention of trying out being on the bottom. I don't see any foul.
 

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to folks responding.. same scenario.. if the OP was a woman.. would ya still hold the same opinion.

comments like "Even if he pinned you down, he wasn't covering your mouth. You could have easily started yelling at the top of your lungs that you were being raped or forced to do it." make me wanna punch someone in the face.

:smile:





tbh ML

I would have stopped Instant, if a Woman said Stop
just the way it is
maybe we Males are 'expected' to handle things a lil differently ..?
 

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Sounds like it was forced to me. May or may not have been bad depending on how you feel about it now but doesn't mean it wasn't forced at the time. He wasn't listening to what you were saying or respecting that it was your first time and taking it at a pace you could handle.
 

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imo you wanted it and part of the sexual gratification of butt sex is when you experience pain and pleasure. i think you wanted him to fuck you hard and at the same time couldn't handle it.

i would wanna enjoy that.
 

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Your suggestion that you were raped is an insult to actual victims to what is a brutal unwanted act/crime. YOU HAD AN ORGASM, stop pretending you didn't want and enjoy it. Tell me, does it turn you on to play the submissive victim?
 

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I never used the word raped. I would not consider myself raped by any means. All I was asking if it was forced instead of being gentle.
 

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I think if you asked him to stop & he didn't then it was forced sex.
I think most guys know if it starts to hurt & you pull out, then try again a couple minutes later, it doesn't seem to hurt as much, if at all.
Some guys just seem to get off on knowing they are causing pain unfortunately.
 

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I never used the word raped. I would not consider myself raped by any means. All I was asking if it was forced instead of being gentle.

No you didn't use the word "rape" however as I stated you are suggesting it. Are you now telling me that you're title, "Unsure if first time was forced sex" doesn't suggest rape? Don't answer that because it clearly does. "Forced sex", hmm, what does that usually translate to? Rape is a violent crime with real victims. You were not a victim and you know it.

Just admit you like dominance/submission/rough sex instead of being purposely naive, looking for attention, and acting as if you were a victim by implying you may have been raped. "I'm not sure if he took advantage of me or not?" Are you serious with that? You came in 30 seconds and obviously enjoyed the encounter. I think it safe to say your provocative title is a bit off.
 

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Mercurygirl, I think you are going a bit too far. While I agree 100% that it was not rape, it certainly could have been more than he could handle after the fact. The part that I don't quite get is he would have had to have been turned on because as soon as the "top guy" started jerking him, in his own words he got off very quickly which tells me he was very turned on. If the top was 8.5 and a bit thick I'm sure he felt every in and out too, and at first when he said he wanted him to slow down, it's possible the top himself was turned on too. I think you are being a bit overly harsh. Perhaps he felt once it "got going" that he couldn't stop it, or make him slow down so he went along with it. But unless the guy was a true prick and gets off on giving others pain, perhaps he simply felt that because he was a virgin he simply needed some good prodding to start feeling comfortable and because he came and seemingly enjoyed it by his own words made the top do what he was doing. I top 99% of the time and it's not unusual to hold him down a bit so you can "have your way". I would NEVER rape somebody!!
 

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Lol the same thing happened to me i was youungg. but i know it wasnt rape he was just gettin frustrated because it was takin to long to get in so, BAM he started goin at it lol but i didnt say stop i just dealt with the pain.