unsure if my friend is trying to tell me something

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by ring27, Jun 8, 2011.

  1. ring27

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    In my last online chat with him:
    Me: hows the east? (he lives in a town that is a tad east from where I live)
    Him: nice and warm. progressively toothless :)
    Me: good for bj -lol
    Him: hm...wasn't planning giving any...:-S

    This is just one of the more recent ones. He has a gf and always had.

    I am not interested in encouraging this but at the same time I dont want to snub him on this; he is a good friend.

    I am not sure how to go about this! I'd appreciate any advice!
     
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    Some straight guys act gay'er then gay guys. Specially these jokes are so usual. But if you're really sure there's something wrong, you can mix your negative reaction in a joke so he'll get the message but it won't harm your relationship.
     
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    Usually, when you want someone to get the hint that you're not interested in a topic of conversation, you simply ignore it and do not respond. Sooner or later, he'll get the hint. But, then again, if you didn't want to discuss said topic, you wouldn't have mentioned it first, which is what you did. You may have done it innocently, but knowing he's given you cause to ponder his intentions due to previous discussions, the LAST thing I would have done was possibly egg him on by bringing up said topic.

    Chalk it up to a lesson learned. Good luck!
     
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    Texts and email, as we know from reading posts here, and elswhere, can be seriously skewed and misinterpreted and often become FUBAR in an internet minute... best to keep sensitive topics like that away from electronic devices and maintain friendships upclose and personal...

    two lincolns rubbing together
     
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    That can easily lead into a game of gay chicken.

    The funny part is that your both losers in the end lol
     
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    ^^ What he said. Well put I might add.
     
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    What exactly is the problem here?

    He made a joke about toothless rednecks.
    You're the one who turned it into a blowjob joke.
    Which he then rejected.

    Assuming you quoted correctly, then he just told you he's NOT interested in giving you a blowjob. So why are you acting like he's hitting on you when he just said the exact opposite of that?
     
  8. dolfette

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    you're reading waaaaaaaaaay too much into this joke.
     
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    I dont't get it either.. in my eyes YOU'RE the on who's hitting on him? :S You're the one sending out signals.. you brought up the blowjob joke, he didn't follow on it.. and yet you claim he's hitting on you? Whaaaa? I don't get the pieces to fit! *GAH!* ;P
     
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    I'd say there's a very high chance you're both gay.
     
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    Have to agree with dolfette here. Perhaps you're reading into this because you want to...
     
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    I'm going to have to agree with lvsxy and Happyboi here. "Progressively toothless" refers to the "ignorance" he feels is increasing.

    He just responded to your referrence to "bj's"
     
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    yes, this is what i thought too
     
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    Maybe he wants to...
     
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    *snaps fingers*

    Aw shit son your sexuality just got called into question
     
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    Me too...
     
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    you want his dick ...
     
  18. ring27

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    I guess I should have given more context instead of just one event!

    But, you guys are right in the sense, its in my head to make a mountain out of a molehill.

    Thanks!
     
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    Yup that's the way I see it...



     
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