unwelcome advances and retrenchment

hungandquiteproud

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i had a weird night last night. anyway, i have a couple or three gay friends here in town. two i know through school and the other i know from a bar i like to visit occasionally (mixed-crowd dance club kinda place). they're all different in their own way, but they're pretty nice and they are usually available to go grab a drink or a bite to eat and just hang out. nothing serious. good dudes.

on the other hand, and more recently, the last couple gay dudes i happened to meet just randomly or in a large group of us and mutual friends were a bit too flirty for my tastes. laughing it off at first didn't work. in fact, i had to corner one guy, get out of my buzz a little and tell him to back off.

here's the fucked-up (and i know it's irrational) part. given the most recent dust-ups, i have thought a little bit more carefully about who i interact with. i know, i know, i'm being a bit of a jerk. at the same time, if someone pushes your boundaries, you have a right to say no to them and it doesn't make you a homophobic person. it's just a really weird place to be. help?