Upcoming school reunion has me feeling inadequate...

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  1. D_Ellerby Eatsprick

    D_Ellerby Eatsprick New Member

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    I feel so inadequate right now...

    I attended this community college (which is now an accredited University). I did the first of my two year university program at the community college before transferring one of the world renowned Universities.

    My program is having their 20th reunion, and everyone that has attended between now and 20 years ago, has been invited to a function. Some of my professors are expecting me to attend, as they have asked me to change my status from "Maybe attending" to "Attending"

    I graduated last spring. I have not even found a job in my field despite that I put myself out there :( I do plan on either getting a second degree or going to grad school next year. But however, I am not sure I want to attend this reunion given my career status. If I go to the reunion, everyone will ask me what I am doing. My answer - I work in retail.:/ Not exactly the answer I want to give. In fact embarrassing.

    I do LOVE my job though ! I make good money for retail considering that retail pays $8.50 to $10 a hour. I am in an management position. The jobs that I applied for in my field did not pay enough. I did get offered a few jobs but because of the pay rate, I told them that I made more money working for this retail company and was not willing to take a pay cut. Has nothing to do with pride. More so to do with survival as I have to make sure my rent and bills are paid..

    I am sure some of my peers might be in the same boat as me... But I feel so self conscious and inadequate. :frown1:

    Anyone gone through the same thing as me or going through at present moment in their life? The though of my career status and the reunion makes me feel depressed... which is the last thing I need right now as I'm trying to pick up myself and move on after the last bout of depression brought on by the complications and breakup of my recent relationship...
     
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    Don't let anyone make you feel as if there is something wrong with working in retail. A lot of people in Management make GOOD money. Take a walmart Manager, the main manager can make close to 60,000 their first year. That's GREAT money. People looked down at me because I was 19/20 working at cvs as an Asst. Store manager. I was making $ 45,000 a year my second year with the company while my friends who got jobs in their college feilds were making under $35,000 a year.

    If you miss old friends, and want to go.. I say fuck it, go have a good time.

    If you're living a good life by YOUR standards, that's all that really matters.
     
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    I think you should go! You might find out that you are in a better position than some of your peers. There are not that many people who can say that they are in a position to turn a job down because they are making more money doing something else. Moreover you could most likely use the opportunity to do some networking that may further your career or personal life.
    Worse case scenario is you don't have a good time and you can leave. You won't really know unless you go.
     
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    I hated school so much the thought of going to a reunion never occurred to me.
     
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    Amen. I didn't go to the 10 year, and don't plan on going to any others either.

    No need to drudge up old memories and land back into depression.
     
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    i was just going to suggest that, and you beat me to it! :tongue:
     
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    Go to at least the first one. it's fun to see the bald dudes and frumpy women, like the king and queen of homecoming.

    your happiness with your life and enjoyment with your career makes you lots more successful than many of your peers.
     
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    This.
     
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    I went to my school reunion last April. I spent months deciding whether or not I should go. To be honest, I was still swithering about it even a couple of days before, but I'm glad I did. I caught up with people I'd lost touch with over the years and had a great time. I was surprised to find that some of the school tossers had actually turned into decent human beings. Who could have expected that? I also found out that I wasn't the only guy in my class who had done porn, which was interesting.

    I'd suggest that you go for it. Everyone's nervous about school reunions and all the old insecurities come flooding back, but in the end I think it can be quite a good experience, as it gives you a chance to face up to bad memories and also to be reminded of the good.
     
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    Several years ago I attended my 00th. high school class reunion. They had printed up a roster with classmate names, address and if applicable, spouses names. By mine it said "single." Everyone was asked to stand up and tell a little about themselves. Since my last name is close to the beginning of the alphabet, when it came time for me, I got up and told my name and said "as you can see, my wife's name is single."

    That brought a big laugh. I'm sure many knew/know (or suspect) I'm gay and since then I've avoided the after reunion parties. When booze flows, comments come and I just didn't want to be put in a uneasy situation. Especially since I now look better than some of my former classmates. Not necessarily bragging...but a fact. :wink:
     
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