Update on mr. rouge

[Tattooed Goddess]

Last I posted about him he was depressed and not acting himself. He was incredibly overwhelmed with what his job throws at him.

He started a new medication and it helped almost immediately. He applied for a new job but they hired from within the company so he didn't get the position. I could tell he was bummed about it understandably.

Since then his company has been working on a major merge and positions are being eliminated. Rather than being unemployed like he feared he was sent on a 4 week intense leadership training in Dallas. That has really done a lot to give him direction and a sense of purpose at his job.

His sex drive is still pretty much non-existent. Nothing seems to affect that. It might never come back who knows. It's been so long since we had sex. As long as I get intimacy I can totally live with no sex. Celibacy would be easy for me.

I have been putting just about every cent I make back for a nice vacation. We need to escape from the day to day grind. At this point we are looking to go ride the Silverton/Durango train through the mountains in Colorado and stay a few nights. Hit up some dispensaries and enjoy the recreational marijuana freedom there. It will be a blast.

Thanks for hearing me out and asking about how things have been going.

 

[944592]

Thanks for sharing this. I know it can be very theraputic just to say (or type) what is going on in one's life.
It sounds like you have a wonderful attitude and care powerfully for your hubby. Please accept my best wishes for good health and loving recreation for you both.
Peace.
EE

 

[Naughty Teacher]

*hug*

 

[DaisyDoesIt]

I love west slope colo! If you get a chance, go see mesa verde---fresh air and exercise is good natural antidote for depression. Good Luck~~

 

[BetterFuture]

I hope that vacation comes soon for the two of you @Tattooed Goddess ... there always hope for things to get better and better...

 

[EllieP]

Oh Sweetie, I'm trying to send the best good energy I can muster your way. I wish for the best for you and hubby. Thank you for sharing. <hugs>

 

[ronin001]

The love and understanding of a good woman, is the best combination of medicines ever invented.
Best wishes and I hope you guys have a blast when you go on vacation

 

[MickeyLee]

i'll be braiding and knotting with good thoughts for you and yours, Ms. Rouge *hugs*

 

[Shackleford]

I hate to hear things are still rough. Stress can do awful things to a person. Best wishes on reaching that vacation and getting what you hope for out of it. Sometimes that mental "off" switch can be difficult to find once lost.

 

[palakaorion]

Hugs.

Depression/anxiety, and the meds for battling them, can suppress or erase libido in some men (voice of experience). Reconnecting emotionally, with a partner you feel safe around, can help reignite the spark for some.

He is blessed to have you beside him on this long dark journey.

 

[AlteredEgo]

It looks like there is light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks for the update, and all the best wishes from my family to yours.

 

[rtg]

Sorry that I'm behind on all of this. Has he been getting counselling? Cognitive behavioural therapy has helped me immensely with my anxiety and depression. And in a short time too. If this isn't something he's considered already, it might be worth it.

Anyway, I hope that you get to go on your holiday soon enough

 

[554279]

Last I posted about him he was depressed and not acting himself. He was incredibly overwhelmed with what his job throws at him.

He started a new medication and it helped almost immediately. He applied for a new job but they hired from within the company so he didn't get the position. I could tell he was bummed about it understandably.


Thanks for hearing me out and asking about how things have been going.

Wish Madame and her hubby the very best. Take care. I had to do the medication route once and came out fine on the other end. Have hope and keep the faith, you'll both pull through.

 

[Beedie Tijii]

Thanks for the update. I had wondered about this a couple of times but didn't feel I knew you well enough to ask. Glad he is doing better and the vacation sounds like a great idea.

 

[Wave85]

Last I posted about him he was depressed and not acting himself. He was incredibly overwhelmed with what his job throws at him.

He started a new medication and it helped almost immediately. He applied for a new job but they hired from within the company so he didn't get the position. I could tell he was bummed about it understandably.

Since then his company has been working on a major merge and positions are being eliminated. Rather than being unemployed like he feared he was sent on a 4 week intense leadership training in Dallas. That has really done a lot to give him direction and a sense of purpose at his job.

His sex drive is still pretty much non-existent. Nothing seems to affect that. It might never come back who knows. It's been so long since we had sex. As long as I get intimacy I can totally live with no sex. Celibacy would be easy for me.

I have been putting just about every cent I make back for a nice vacation. We need to escape from the day to day grind. At this point we are looking to go ride the Silverton/Durango train through the mountains in Colorado and stay a few nights. Hit up some dispensaries and enjoy the recreational marijuana freedom there. It will be a blast.

Thanks for hearing me out and asking about how things have been going.

Sorry to hear TG. I am new to this whole community so don't have any history with this topic as it pertains to you so forgive me if I repeat things that people have said previously. While a vacation could really help in the short run, it seems like he needs to reassess his life as it relates to his career. He also needs to find ways that work for him to deal with stress and depression and that takes some work and experimentation - in particular things outside of meds like meditation, mindfulness, acupuncture and massage - lots of great and cheap meditation and mindfulness apps now so you can do it in your home on your phone. I have times where stress wipes out my libido, and while I use all the things above to combat that - I have also found that for me, taking half of an ED med - I tolerate Cialis pretty well - can bring me back into the moment particularly on a weekend when I am more away from work. While I think ED and low libido are different things - having a drug trigger some blood flow in the right spot has helped me from time to time when I feel my libido dropping.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Well, many people of my acquaintance say that lollipops tossed in a bag of other candy never gets a second look at security. Just saying.

Here's to plenty of frugality to get that vacation.

 

[1958ST]

Hang in there dear people...two are stronger than one

 

[TheRob]

I am glad he is doing better

 

[Mule]

Thanks for hearing me out and asking about how things have been going.

Sending good thoughts your way and hoping the stress doesn't last. Good for you for taking control of the situation and working toward a solution. I'm sure it will all work out in the end.

 

[marinera]

...
He is blessed to have you beside him on this long dark journey.

Cosign this.

Glad to hear things are going better.