Update: SEXualitieS!

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by zack800, Apr 23, 2010.

  1. zack800

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    Hey fellas. Zack here. Back again.

    So school has started once again for me and I've been noting how I react to people of both genders when I pass by them in school.

    I really find guys much hotter than ladies and I have absolutely no idea whatsoever why I think this way. I just find the male anatomy so much more intriguing, their hot, muscled, sweaty bodies so alluring that whenever I have such thoughts, it just fuddles my mind.

    This has also been a source of motivation for me to work out harder to beef up, however, to match up with the guys I'm attracted to and moreover, it's great to feel respect from my mates. (I know ego is involved here. But I try to twitch it a notch down as too much of it is no good!)

    So I've been thinking... Is my attraction to males just purely sexual or can it involve romance and passion for them? (I respect the boundaries of males who are straight and do nothing to them as much as I find them hot usually.) My answer for now: I often dream of myself waking up in the arms of my man, both of us telling how much we love each other, have breakfast together and then head to work. And... I can imagine myself being romantically and sexually attracted to males.

    1) Say... if I were to really fall in love with a guy, perhaps live with him (Marriage is not necessary but it would be a procession I'd love to participate in with someone I love), make lots of love like how straight couples would, and then....what's next? This question: What Next? continues flooding my mind whenever this issue comes up.
    This question for straight people is easily answered: Have kids, build a family, nurture them etc.
    If I were to really embark on this journey with a male, WHAT NEXT? What I'm doing here is not trying to predict what I will experience in the future, rather, I'm trying to do an analysis of how feasible it is for me to live on with a male. Prolly when I love a male fully... all these won't matter.

    2) As for what next..... So for me and my lover, does that mean adopting kids?
    Are there any guys living with guys on LPSG here who have kids here? As stated by psychological studies/ theories about how male couples bringing up kids would affect their emotional etc. needs and ultimately do more harm than good to these kids, what opinion do you guys have on this issue? I'm well aware that male couples can bring up kids to be straight people (although again, sexuality is fluid and is an individual issue; nevertheless, I feel that the tendency to feel attracted to males is partly due to environmental influence.)

    I'm just taking things one step at a time for now as suggested by some members on LPSG. If only society could be more accepting towards males having feelings for males, these "problems" would not have prevailed till modern day....
    Being an asian on this western webpage has not warped my thoughts but has certainly given me a new perspective to sexuality and has given me the chance to find out more about what I think is my real nature.


    P.S I have omitted the word homosexual in this thread purposely as I don't like labelling myself or other males. Sexuality is fluid for most people except for a small minority in the world. I prefer to use the term: more attracted to males or phrases similar to it.

    A BIG THANK YOU for those who have shared their thoughts and experiences with me during these perplexing post-pubescent years I'm going through. I'm very grateful to hear from any of you!

    Your LPSG mate
    Zack.
     
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    Hope to hear from you guys!
     
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    Are these questions very difficult to answer? haha.
     
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    Come on guys... Help ...
     
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    Not really sure what you are asking...?
    It can be a confusing time. I went to an all boys school and had a very high sex drive. I found myself very attracted to the guys, some who were ripped and very hot and I was intrigued by cocks. I ended up having circle jerks and a few one on one experiences. Later i ended up having an intense ongoing physical relationship with a boy. We blew each other probably 3 times a week for two years. At this time I had done very little with girls. I thought I might be gay, but was still intrigued with girls and straight porn.

    I then went to university, and after a slow start I gained confidence with girls and started to date them. I started sleeping with girls quite late (20), but in my early 20's I realised that I was endowed and then made up for last time. Now I am 30 and have slept with 26 girls and have not touched a guy since I was 19. I am pretty much straight except for an interest in cocks (why I am on this site). If the opportunity presented itself and for the right guy I wouldn't mind sucking a guy off again, but I love girls and have had a few very satisfying emotional and physical relationships with girls.

    It's all a journey and not always easy to navigate. I fell in love with a lesbian girl once and that brought another whole emotional journey (you should watch "Chasing Amy" for a feel for that).

    I guess what I am saying is that you should enjoy the journey, keep an open mind and follow both your heart (for love) and your dick (for sex ;-) See where it takes you and over time you will realise what makes you happy. Don't get caught up thinking about the "what next" step... enjoy the journey!

    PS: you have a great cock and nice smooth body ;-)
     
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    I agree with Jules7 for the most part. Although I've never had any sort of relationship or experience with a man, I think I can relate to some degree.

    I think sexuality (sexual percentage) has to do more with how you feel emotionally about a certain sex. For example, I am emotionally attracted to a woman, but can find guys totally hot and sexual. For this reason, I put myself at 5-10% gay.

    So when you like looking at guys, big whoop. I feel that this is irrelevant. If I am in the shower, I've always looked at what other guys are packing. It is natural, in my opinion, to want to check out, admire, and strive for what others of the same sex may have.

    However, again, it is what you are emotionally attracted to. If you feel that you would like to spend time/life with a man, then your percentage should skew towards the gay side in my opinion.

    Answers, if I have any frame:
    1. Why do you want anyone to dictate your future? Can we even say what you can and cannot do? Males all over the country live together. Why can't you? The question seems superfluous to me.

    2. You've mentioned kids more than once, so it must be bothering you. Is this a question about you being gay or not gay or about you having kids? Is there some sort of impact with a homo couple raising kids over a hetro? Maybe? Who knows. What we do know is that hetro couples raise homo kids. So???? We also know that parents that go homo later raise kids and the kid's sexuality is generally unaffected. So???

    I've included the word "homo" in my thread because that is a fact. It is not a disgrace to be who you are. If you or anyone else here personally has a problem with a frivolous label, then you need to examine yourselves and be proud of who you are.
     
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    Thanks for your comments guys :)
     
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    First, Jules: well said! :)

    Second, Zack: For someone who has (in my opinion) such a developed definition of sexuality,

    You seem to not fully comprehend the meaning or realize the depth of the statement.

    While I have the same view of sexuality as you I would assume that in order to possess this as a functioning piece of your frame of mind you would understand that because sexuality is fluid you don't really get to choose who you become emotionally attatched to. Yes, there are problems that arise from being "more attracted" to the same sex but, like plug it in said:

    I think while you have a definition of sexuality that you logically agree with, judging from the questions that followed, you haven't actually processed it's meaning to a point of complete understanding. You should consider more perhaps your own statement....

    To be less contradictory to your philosophy on sexuality you could omit; "prolly" "a" "male"....
    Try:

    "Sexuality is fluid for most people in the world. I prefer to use phrases like: 'more emotionally attracted to' or 'more sexually aroused by' however, when I Love fully... All these won't matter."

    I think that's solid and will answer any question you could throw at it.

    And "analyzing the fesability" of any matter that involves love or happiness will only take you further from it.
     
  9. kimdale

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    You are not alone, Zack.

    I could relate to your situation. I also try to beef up because I also want to look good, I feel attraction to my male peers and yet respect their boundaries and not make a sexual advancement on them.

    But to answer your question,Is your attraction to males just purely sexual or can it involve romance and passion for them: My answer is NO. love and lust are two different things. It may or may not involve romance, it depends on your relationship with your partner.

    You're thinking too deep into a future that hasn't happened yet. Just follow your gut feeling and hopefully everything will fall into place; or better yet, be ready for the consequences for your actions.

    Goodluck to you!
     
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    If I am not mistaken you came to ask A) What is my sexuality? ( no one here could even begin to answer that for you ) and B ) "LOL IF I IS GAY WUT DO I DO?!" which is an ignorant question as there's no point in asking if you're not sure and you're not in any position to tackle your own simulation ( I.E. Adoption ) in the first place.

    I've decided you're gay. For other reasons. :/
     
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